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Trust me I’m a junior in college and I work, attend school full time and stay busy with vacations and family with that being said. That’s why me and my ex fell off I didn’t realize how bad he was hurting until it was too late and I ijnored the signs and the fact he mentioned it to me several times that he loved me, missed me and wanted to see me more. With that being said it took for him to break up with me and jump in what seems like a rebound relationship for my eyes to open and realize I messed up and took him for granted. So with that, I would continue NC with your ex maybe he will miss you maybe he won’t be he won’t be too busy to think about the relationship and what went wrong. I would do NC for about min 30 days but probably 2monthd if not longer, then reach out. The ball is in his court and the biggest thing right now seems to be the both of you reacting off of emotion instead of logic and with time and space you’ll be able to think more logically. Once you get to that point you may or may not even want him back but you will have a clearer mind of what went wrong and decide if you even want him in your life and vise Versace. Right now he needs time and space and so do you.
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She won’t forget about you. I think right now she might be over whelmed with school and work. I know how stressful it can be because I was in the same situation I got so busy with school, working, and being out of town I didn’t notice my ex was hurting and we ended up breaking up and we’ve been together since 08. But the last 3 years off and on. How long have you been in full NC without texting calling or checking her social media? Did you say you go to school together? How old are the both of you?Hello,
How old are the both of you? Also are you doing NC? Then I don’t think being friends on Facebook would be good even if you don’t talk just because you might be tempted to look at his page etc.Jessica,
Honestly that’s really the hardest thing sometimes. As a woman we’re so used to texting to get a point across men like more verbal communication. My ex was the same way he hated that I would text him all the time and barely talk to him on the phone. But for me I don’t like the phone I prefer text or in person lol and he liked phone and in person but hated texts lol. It’s gonna be hard but stay NC trust me if a guy is really into you or wants to know what your up to he will reach out even if it’s a call instead of text. If in 4-6months he hasn’t done that then I would leave him alone because it’s not worth fighting for someone who wouldn’t do the same. Maybe in those couple months apart he will see that you’ve changed and possibly come back bc he misses you or misses things the way the used to be. But if your always there he won’t. I do believe space will help and it will go 1 or two ways he will reach out or he won’t.Alison, oddly enough in short terms what do y’all argue about? Is it something silly and petty that you both forget about with time and that’s why you both keep coming back together? Or is it a little more serious than that?
Jessica, it’s gonna be hard but I would stick to NC and I would not text or call him. You have told you that you wanted to be friends but he declined. So I don’t think sending another message letting him know you want to be friends will help because he already knows. I would casually say hi in the halls but I wouldn’t over do it. If he starts a conversation then great but I wouldn’t push to much for it. I would say my his and byes and then continue with my day. He knows how you feel so no need to further justify.
Jessica, I’m in college too I’m a junior so I know the hardship. During this time I would stay as busy as possible. I noticed guys like space and have different ways of coping with things. I believe space and NC will be best bc it leaves the ball in his court. You don’t wanna end up pushing for friendship and he declines or even worse may want to distant himself from you. So I say just go NC and if he doesn’t reach out have 6 months move on bc he’s obviously not worth having as a friend or companion. Continue to stay busy and meet new people at school try joining a club.
Jessica, are you in college or highschool. I would stick to no contact but be friendly when you see him say hi but keep your distant he sounds like he wants to be left alone sadly. I hope you have a great summer.
How long did were you both together? And why did you break up? All in all without knowing those details it might be best to move on he stated that a couple different ways and seems like he has moved on and does not want to open the door. Only time and space will heal. I would not reach out again the ball is in his court now. Possibly send 1 last message saying you hope to be friends in the future and if he ever needs someone you will be there for him. Best thing would be to remove him off your social media Facebook instagram etc and focus on you and moving on it will be hard but it’s the best thing to do.
Only time will tell continue NC for 30days and during this time continue to stay busy hopefully he will reach out if not you deserve better.
Can you find her on FaceBook try reaching out that way and just ask how’s she’s been and what’s she’s been up to?
I would say stay busy for about 2 weeks then try again. If he declines again I would do NC for 30 days.
I would say try NC for 30 days and reach out on a friendly level. Even those you two argue were you friends before dating? Another option would be to see if he’s up for couple counseling of any type maybe having a trained unbiased opinion in the room to help find the issue as to why you argue will help. What are your arguments about?
I agree just take time and move forward. If he comes back great if he doesn’t I’m sure you’ll find someone better. For me I messed up we’ve been together since 08 and this past year we had some issue and we broke up during that time out of hurt and being stupid I slept with someone else. Stupid way to cope I know plus I was drunk. We ended up getting back together like a month or 2 later and I never said anything and when he asked me about being with any1 during our time off I lied and said no. Mainly bc I didn’t think it was his business. So to fast forward he forgave me and we seemed to move past it he was still mad but felt I shouldn’t have lied or kept it from him. To fast forward even more these past 2-3months I have been really busy with school and work etc and I feel bad bc he always wants to see me but I’m unavailable always busy making excuses. There’s so many details it’s hard to write now. But the gist is very much I took him for granted and I hurt him and he told me he wanted to see me more go on dates etc and bc I was so busy and out of town for spring break and w family I ignored the signs that he was hurting and begging for attention until it was too late. Now I found out Last week he’s dating someone else and put her on his fb. He told me to leave him alone and stop being jealous and to leave him and his gf alone so until Sunday I was blowing up his phone and texts now I’m blocked on everything. I had no time for him. I really think it’s a rebound. So basically I’m gonna do 6months NC then reach out obviously since I’m blocked on everything. I messed up really bad and I didn’t realize what I had until he was gone in a sense I guess I got wayyy to comfortable.
