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So long story short, i briefly dated my ex, and its been a year since we broke up. Now after we broke up we kept coming back to each other, we tried many times but we kept fighting. Finally the fights led to more ugly fights.And eventually it had gotten way too ugly for both of us. I tried the no contact period but could briefly manage for some 15 days as something or the other kept happening. He told me to block him but i just didnt have the strength too. Hes always told me to move on,and he says that he will start dating soon and it would hurt me. But last week,we started exchanging pictures. But then he realised later and said its the last time we do this. He hasnt spoken to me properly in the last three months. He cuts me off everytime i try to talk,he says it will lead to the same thing. The last time i initated a conversation he said why are you harrassing me. And i was deeply hurt by that. Is it too late to start NC? I am just so so weak right now. We generally patch things up after every fight. But its been three months and hes adamant now that its over. Also everytime i put up stories,he sees it instantly or puts up a irrelevant story as well,at the same time after seeing mine (in the last one year he was never active on that app) sometimes i feel hes doing it on purpose. Last week he asked me if my picture was open for all people to see or was it just for him. And i said why will i put up pictures for you? He said he misses me physically but theres nothing more to that. Is there any chance i can get him back ?
Sounds like you two had a very toxic type relationship! Too much arguing and fights is probably the number one reason for break ups. Guys hate that kind of ugly drama. He wants to date others and told you to move on, plus he doesn’t want you to harass him. Try to accept the breakup and stop contacting him! Think about how and why you contributed to the fights and improve yourself. It will allow you to have better relationships in the future. Don’t read anything into stuff on social media and move on with your life as the chances of getting him back seem bleak at this point.
I would say try NC for 30 days and reach out on a friendly level. Even those you two argue were you friends before dating? Another option would be to see if he’s up for couple counseling of any type maybe having a trained unbiased opinion in the room to help find the issue as to why you argue will help. What are your arguments about?
@patricia12 :well, sometimes i feel he intentionally tries to hurt me..for example he says he wouldnt call on my bday. Whereas ive told him, its okay if u dont call, but why do u have to say it out loud to me? When my day would come, id understand u didnt call. And then he gets mad at me,and he says so u want me to lie? And then i burst into tears. The last thing he has said to me is can you atleast not text me until i feel like..and ive said yes ofcourse. I do respect his wishes,but i guess ur right. Its been a year now, and moving on is the best thing to do .
@shesjustmaria : yeah ive never tried No contact. Well we fight about everything. Its a cycle. We get normal, then something happens..we remember about what he sAid and what i said in our previous fights, we bring it up again, again we fight..so thats why he doesnt want to talk to me at all cause all vl do is fight
Alison, oddly enough in short terms what do y’all argue about? Is it something silly and petty that you both forget about with time and that’s why you both keep coming back together? Or is it a little more serious than that?
@shesjustmaria : its a lot more than that, its ugly. Like it could be about anything. I throw taunts, he throws taunt and then we start fighting. Someone gave him prank calls n made his fake id and he thought it was me. So we fought over it.
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