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Thanks a.z. The reason I want to do NC is because I always give in and take him back after he is the one who screws up. He grew up very spoiled and is very much used to always getting what he wants, when he wants it. I can’t control the fact that he always feels entitled and does not think of the consequences of his actions but what I can control is myself and how I react to his unacceptable behavior. He has really taken advantage of the fact that I am always there for him. He knows he can keep messing up and I will be there. I feel that it needs to stop.
Thank you very much for the book suggestion. I will check it out on amazon.My ex will say absolutely anything to get me to message him back. Because of that, I blocked him.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. I know what you mean though because I am the same way. I also feel like a doormat all the time, which is why I am doing the NC. He knows that I always give in eventually. Not this time. (I hope I’m strong enough haha. Sometimes I feel super strong and then other times I get weak)
Good luck to you!This is my first real day of NC. I know he will not leave me alone, so he is blocked on everything. He needs to make some changes, and so do I. This is going to be tough.
Maybe she blocked you for her own piece of mind. I recently blocked my ex, and when he found out, he went crazy about it. I only did it for myself to get my mind off of him and focus on myself.
Today I unblocked him because I knew that he would contact me and I wanted to explain where I’m at. He texted me asking why I blocked him on fb. I explained that we both need some time apart which means no communication for awhile. I was very nice about it. He then fired off all of these angry/rude messages. I told him that I understood that he is just sad/angry and that I won’t hold his rude behavior against him. Then a little later he was texting me saying he’s hurting really bad. I didn’t respond, but I did feel bad because I hate that he is hurting. (Even though I am also hurting) anyway, now he keeps texting every so often saying that we need to fix this and begging me to respond. I hate to ignore him, because I know how that feels. I just wish I could make him realize that this is what’s best for both of is right now. (I actually did try to explain that to him, but he is very immature emotionally if that makes sense) Anyway, I just wanted to vent, and ask for encouragement. Thanks!
It must be especially difficult to go through this while you’re injured and can’t be physically active at all. I has an injury that kept me in bed for 13 weeks. Looking back, I regret not using the time to do something I’ve always wanted to do but don’t really have the time to do in my regular life. Something like teach myself to play the guitar using online tutorials, learning to knit, or another hobby/activity. Find something that interests you and try to stay busy.
Also, maybe it would do you a lot of good to change your negative outlook. But the physical thing is what is not right at all!!
