mike2014

I wouldn’t say your a putz, it’s just the person you want and remember the good times is no longer that person. People unfortunately change, some for the better and some for the worst. She appears have changed for the worse.

The hardest part after after a break up with a person your spent along time with is the fear of change. I know personally every girl I meet involves starting something completely different than I once knew. I know compromises need to be made and I get a feeling of an unusual feeling. Completely moving on is not easy as I have always felt since the break up that I lost a very good girl. I at times feel while being with a new girl that it will not be as good and thst is my demise in my post relationships. I have nice times with my dates and we usually hit it off for a month or so but they say I become distant to them and it doesn’t progress from that. I just continue to work on myself and hopefully find the right person for me.

It’s not easy, but overall we will be ok.

Memories of good times don’t ever need to be forgotten, but new memories can always be made with new people.

haha yea bro I’ll make sure to email you….take a lap

Terrible

Hello all,

No update on anything for me really. I’m just content living life everyday. Iv been really busy with my new job. Long days, followed by doing training online when I come home. I usually then go out to get something to eat either solo or with friends.

Only semi thing was my parents randomly ran into my ex and her mom out shopping. Her dad was there but at a different store. My dad recognized her and said hello and put out his hand but she gave him a big hug. My parents and her parents only met a few times over our years. Not sure why really. Her mom asked how my new job was and all, so I guess my ex told her about it. My mom said he’s doing great, my ex and her mom said well I’m not surprised he’s really great with people. My parents said she and her mom kept talking and seemed really happy to see them. In usual my ex fashion she had to use the word overwhelmed a lot. Talking about work and getting the new house and all. My mom said it seems she spends a lot of time with her parents from what she was saying. My mom said she had to end the conversation to finish her shopping and my ex said please tell michael I said hello and then gave them both hugs departing. My mom said it was kind of weird how much my ex was talking and gave me some compliments.

I’m happy you found some peace belle and seem to be doing well.

Aphrodite I think it was good you gave it a strong effort by going to see him. It seems like overall the experience was good and you have the answers you were looking forward.

Yea Atea and I have been exchanging emails and been catching up.

I am also kind of confused. Some aspects seemed to go really well, but other comments seemed not so sure. I think how you feel from being there is the most important. I’m going to think more about it and try to add more thoughts.

I’m not really sure how to say this. I will be very honest based on how I think and react to situations. Everyone is different, but I would never want to know what my ex has done with other men. From what I think and my guy friends say, guys are possessive creatures. Even now after being broke up so long the thought of my ex with another guy gets my stomach uneasy. He might not think or react the same way I do.

My ex was only with one other guy before me and I told her I never wanted to know anything about her history at all when we first me. She once said one thing and it really angered me. I unfortunately expressed that anger toward her and it was one of the few times I really really got mad. Like i said this is how I think. This doesn’t necessary mean anything negative about how you ex thinks as some people really don’t get bothered by it. I don’t think its bad he wanted to know.

Best of luck Aphrodite! I hope it goes well for you. You will be in my thoughts and I also will have my fingers crossed!

In wish I had half the strength you, belle, and Atea have shown during these months.

It seems like you have a good handle on the situation. Having bad days is going to happen. It’s good you didn’t over react, but thought it through. I agree reaching out at this moment isn’t going to change anything unfortunately. Hang in there kid!!

I don’t understand my exes thought process. The fact she has been emotional this whole time I would think her reaching out wouldn’t be what she wants to do. The fact she still cares what I’m doing like going to AC or my new job doesn’t make sense. She so mature is many aspects of life, but hasn’t been mature about this break up! She have to be nuts in the head to think I would just want to be friends after 8.5 years.

I wonder what would happen if I just started texting her everyday like we were still together lol. How long before she says something haha. When we talked for those 3 days she was like we can talk tomorrow and such. Maybe I should just start messing with her head. I won’t but it would be funny.

I need to get this over by the end of the month!! Time flys!

Hope the rest of you day goes well Atea!

Ryan,

I agree with everything Atea has said. There really is nothing you can do but give space at the moment. Try to get better everyday and prepare to move on. It’s really hard to love someone and not be with them. I understand that feeling. Ultimitely, you have to find individual happiness to once again be happy with her. She also needs to find that as well. We all feel bad about the mistakes we made, but you can’t dwell on them but just change for the better so they don’t happen again.

I feel like I been out of the dating game for so long I’m conflicted on my next move with this new girl. The more I think about our date the more I like her. She is a really cute girl and nice to be around. I didn’t text her yesterday because I don’t want to over due anything, but maybe I should have?? The other girls I have met I didn’t really want anything so I didn’t care about following up much. I hate how I over think things and analyze lol. She seemed like she had a nice time and said she did but who knows?

Thanks belle as well,

Surprisingly enough I am not currently fighting girls off lol. I tend to be a bit standoffish and not real forward so that could be my problem.

Yea atea, it was interesting to put a face with the name when I got belles picture. All very cool after talking as long as we have.