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Yea Atea you missed out lol. I just attached a
Photo and emailed it to belle and she sent one back. She forwarded mine to Aphrodite.Well that’s impressive than Aphrodite about envisioning her correctly.
I agree with you about belle. She is a very attractive lady! I joked with her before about buying her a drink if I saw her out, but now after seeing her I might be too shy.
It’s pretty cool
You two got to spend some time together. Glad it went well!I did text her today’s when I was at work to say thanks. She responded quick even though she was at work which I was somewhat surprised about. As I thought she said oh I saw you went to AC and asked how it was and who I went with. Kept saying I just wanted to make sure you knew I reached out and didn’t forget. Said she was worried I didn’t get her first message because I responded to her mom and not her. She said he mom asked her for my number and she remembered all on her own.
I’m still pretty tired from the weekend…I guess I’m getting old and can’t hang like thwt anymore lol. Gonna turn in early tonight.
It seems like you all are doing pretty well…Thats very good gals.
Hello all,
Happy belated birthday unimare!
My date went well I guess. Spent like 3 hours together having a few drinks and got something to eat. Didn’t have any awkward pauses or anything. Talked a bunch. She seems very nice and I found her attractive definitely. I’m really bad at judging things. It could have went great for all I know what she is thinking. Before we left we mentioned about hanging out again. I texted her a bit later to say I had a nice time and recommended another place to go when she is free. She said it sounds good, so hopefully we will hang out again. Overall I felt pretty good spending time with her.
I know there were questions asked above, I will try tomorrow to respond more.
Belle,
That’s great that you and Aphrodite got together and had a blast. Sounds like a nice day. Thanks for the birthday wishes again.Aphrodite,
Belle mentioned you said I look like a friendly person from my picture…haha thanks. Also it’s weird that you said that is exactly what you thought my ex would look like lol. What did you mean? It’s funny because my friends wife never met her and she asked to see a picture. I showed her the one I shared with you and belle and she said that’s what I thought she would look like lol. I’m confused what this all means. Other than describing her personality I didn’t share much about looks to you or my friends wife. I guess I’m just curious why people have said that based on me describing my situation to them over the past few months.I’m having a busy morning, had a chance to skim some of the messages. Will read them all later and respond after my get together with this girl.
I didn’t respond to her because I didn’t want to have to have a conversation with her. I didn’t want to have to answer questions on what I was doing. I wanted to enjoy my night out with my friends and not have to think about her. That second message wasn’t cool but I didn’t let it bother me. I had a really great night.
Hope you all had a great weekend as well
Hope you all had a good weekend
So she texted me early on my birthday and I didn’t respond back.I just didn’t feel like responding at that moment. She texted me fairly early and it woke me up lol. Later on at night about 10 hours later I got another text from her, she said just wanted to make sure I got her text since I didn’t respond and Is hoping I’m having a good birthday. She hopes I’m going out or am out and such. It’s just weird, I don’t owe her a text back after all this time. Why does she care so much, but not want to be with me. The second text was really not necessary. I still havnt responded back to her, I probably will tomorrow and say thanks and such.
Also, her brother texted me about an hour after her to wish me a good one. I’m not shocked because we still chat occassionally. This is where it gets a bit more strange. I received a text from her mother right before I left for my trip wishing me a happy birthday and a small message. Other than me sending her an email over the summer I havnt heard from her. I also never once texted her all the years I was with her daughter. I never even gave her my number. She had to get it from my ex or probably I think the brother. I did responded to the mom and brother to say thank you. It was a nice gesture but I never expected her mom to text me. I know her parents really did like me, but it’s weird for her to reach out now I feel.
I had a great weekend overall.
Hey, do you believe there’s any truth to when people say that women only break up when they already have someone in mind?
Based on my situation….that is a no.
Yes this weekend in my birthday, and I’m going away for the weekend. I’m looking forward to it.
I’m sure I will just receive a happy birthday text, don’t expect anything else really. I did something for hers in the fall, but it would be weird for her to do something for me I’d imagine.
How are you today?
Atea,
Had to reschedule for Monday. She texted me aroun 2 and said she was sick. Said she tried all day to take medicine to get better but felt se would be unpleasant company. She kept apologizing and I was like it’s fine. Will try this again Monday.
Atea,
That’s great you are starting to cook again! I don’t think it’s unusual to have thoughts about not wanting to move on. Noone is this thread really wants to move on and thinking about that is always tough for me too.
There was one big thing I couldn’t do after my break and it was going to the movies. We did dinner and a movie almost every Tuesday. It took me awhile to go to one and i still felt not good. I remember she used to always like tuck her leg under mine.. Small things like that are hard to forget. I still don’t really like going lol. I understand what you mean about not wanting to cook. It’s good you started tho!!
I’m game for the email stuff as well.
Belle and Aphrodite. Sorry to hear you gals are not having a good week. I have been doing better but honestly this still is not what I want. Like we all say, our lives with our exes is what we want. I have just been trying to block out most thoughts. I know I will never fully move on unless I can block a lot out. Starting to get a bit nervous about this date tonight, I think because this is my first date with decent expectations.
Hope you all have good nights. I’ll send an email to you as well.
I meant fairness in a sense of what him texting does to you emotionally. Everytime he reaches out you question his motives about whether they mean are we getting closer to being together. If he doesn’t want that it’s not fair to you because it makes you continue to question and you will never be able to move on an start life without him… Hence stringing you along.
It’s been a few months now at some point you need ask the tough questions so you can know whether to move on. You can’t live like this forever questioning if he will com back.
Well you can continue to be in limbo for the foreseeable future or you can see what he is doing. It’s not fair you to be kept on an emotional roller coaster. He may just want to be friends with these texts while you want a relationship. He broke it off, but then wants to continue to talk to you. How is that fair to you?
I would probably rather ask why he is always reaching out but not wanting to be back in a relationship than continuing this pattern as you continue to question his motives
Either he is playing games and stringing you along. Or he wants to get back. It’s probably at the time to pick up a phone and call him and talk or ask to meet up. Discuss your thoughts and his thoughts on what you want moving forward. How long are willing to keep doing this without talking about it with him?
I’m not sure what to make out about your therapists comment about being angry with them. That seems like a weak coping mechanism to push an individual forward. It appears that is our situation we both had great people in our lives for so long. I guess I could be mad at her for ending things, but I accepted responsibility on my end for the break up. Even the night she ended things I immediately said I understand. I don’t see how being angry will help me move on in life. Would just seem a step back to play the blame game.
I just look at this as eye opening experience. We both at the end took a lot for granted and the relationship failed. I guess we grew apart. I’m happy this was a nudge to do self evaluation and then change my negatives. Maybe one day we will reunite, but probably that is unrealistic unfortunately.
I will always focus on the great memories we shared. Also will keep everything she got me buried deep in a closet. My overall thoughts if her are warm. She never gave me a reason not to. For me I’m a bit scared I will never meet someone as genuine or nice as her, but I will try. I just know I will never settle for less because I can’t take step backs on what I deserve.
I’m sure you feel the same way!
