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I have suffered from depression before in my life, and should of seen the signs but I didn’t. I was horrible to be around, I didn’t even want to be around myself! Having suffered from it before, I know what I need to do in order to get myself back on track. And I already feel a lot better having made some changes to my life. It took him breaking up with me for me to realise what situation I was in and do something about it. So I am grateful that he actually gave me that kick to do something about it!
I agree the facebook thing was plain spiteful and childish. He had messaged me Saturday morning asking me how I was, I didn’t reply. So an hour later I got a text saying “Just letting you know I took you off facebook. No other reason than I have had issues with an ex before and maybe you not seeing my stuff all the time is good x”
He was trying to make out that it was for my benefit. If he had actually looked, he would have seen that I hadn’t been on facebook since we broke up, to remove myself from the situation. So his facebook wasn’t bothering me as I wasn’t looking at it in the first place! so I’m not really sure what he gained from that.I completely echo the above comments. After reading your posts she is 100% trying to make you jealous, has realised that she has lost and is in complete panic mode. She actually needs to calm herself down. I agree that it probably isn’t the right time for you two to be getting back together, as I think she also needs some time to calm down about it.
I personally would leave it a little while and see what happens. She KNOWS what she has lost, trust me. I would behave like that in the exact same way!
I wanted to let him know that I hadn’t done it on purpose, because I could imagine him thinking I had done it just to get him to talk to me.
I do feel better about everything, but I am still a bit worried that he won’t ever come back to me. I think time for both of us is essential, I need it to create positive changes, and he needs it to miss me and remember the good times we shared.
We are no longer on each other’s facebook (he deleted me) so can’t see anything that goes on. So the only way he would know what is going on in my life is if he asked me. He is not getting in contact often at all, but that is good because I would find it hard to ignore him all the time!
I just want him to remember why we are so good together. We lost our way a little bit, I was suffering from depression and didn’t know it so I was irritable and the whole relationship broke down. As he says, he loves me but isn’t in love with me anymore…
I hope it will all work out in the end.
I will read your post now.
Yeah I really do think it will work! I don’t think he will be expecting it either. He sounds like he has been so wrapped up in himself and about HE feels, I don’t think he has thought about how YOU might feel. this letter will be you telling him how you feel, and he has made you feel, and what you want from it. He won’t be expecting that.
And I think it will have the desired affect!I honestly don’t think he will just forget about you. there is obviously still something there because he is reacting. Even if it’s not in a nice way, it is still a reaction, which means that there is something there. You’ve written this letter for your own sake and not for his.
He is being extremely selfish, and you don’t need that in your life. You are strong. x
Ellie, really hope it works out for you. From your posts you sound so strong and inspiring. You almost have to take your own advice that you have been giving other people.
the thought of the unknown or the what ifs are terrifying! That’s why we get so scared of it all. It’s putting our all into something that might not turn out the way we want it to. But it is worth a shot.
Regardless of the outcome, you have come a long way and are stronger then you were when you first broke up xI love how positive you are about it all 🙂 that is really good.
Letter is good, short but straight to the point, a few triggers in there for them to think about.
Good luck!
I see what you mean. She’s getting all the good from you without having to commit to that relationship once again!
I think it may depend what sort of vibe you get from her as to whether that is a good idea or not. You don’t want to run the risk of scaring her off, or coming on too strong at this point. But at the same time if it is something she will like then it is a good idea 🙂
I’m not sure if I can help with your situation, as I am only recently on here myself.
But with regards to the best mate girl thing…My ex had lots of females friends, and that was always fine with me. apart from one of them, they had slept together a few times and then decided they were better off as friends (or so he told me), but she interfered a lot throughout our relationship. I didn’t make him make the choice of me and her, just maybe not involve her quite as much. I guess my point being that I don’t think your ex should be telling you that you can’t have female friends etc etc.
Hope you get what you are looking for soon.
Yeah I am doing nc, I was doing ok until he text me, and I didn’t have the strength not to reply to him. But if he messages again I will make sure I don’t reply.
definitely trying to concentrate on myself, I just want it to be for the right reasons. For me, and not because I want to be with him. I don’t think he will ever change his mind anyway, he said he wasn’t in love with me anymore and I don’t blame him.
Hey @Mj
I signed up a few days ago but I’m not sure when I am meant to receive my first one?
I do feel better than I did this time last week, and I do genuinely want to sort myself out. But I know that at the moment I am wanting to do it in the SLIGHT chance we may be able to have another shot at working. From his side though, I really don’t see him wanting that!
