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I’m having another one of those days as well guys!
Bad dreams last night. Can’t get a clear head on today at all. Last month going on a nice romantic weekend for valentines day, and this month broken up and not talking.
I’m hoping he is at least thinking about me, even if he isn’t showing it!@ellie96
I echo what Mj is saying. The point is that he read it, he knows how you are feeling. So don’t be disappointed by anything. It was a brilliant letter and you did well. Nc is completely up to you. XxI understand why you might feel like you should message him, but let him come to you. He’s got to put in the effort too. That letter is amazing. I can’t see how that won’t have an impact on him!
@ellie96 OMG that letter. It’s amazing!! Well done you. Have you read it to him? X
@rusty
We all sound like we are in the same boat today! All similar times of nc as well.We can do it. We know it’s for the best. It’s just hard!
@divjun I know how you are feeling my dear. I am feeling something similar myself today.
I think on days like this we just have to ride it out and not do anything to undo all our hard work. Keep your chin up x@mj totally agree. It’s what I have been doing lol. I wouldn’t contact my ex until I felt absolutely sure it was the right thing to do and that the timing of it is right. Which is why I haven’t contacted him so far. I’m nowhere near ready to contact him. A little more time and I will be ok, but I KNOW I don’t want to contact him now. I’m just finding today hard that’s all.
Thanks @geodj. Same goes for you!
Yep doing all of the above already. In general I am ok, just having a down day today. Just trying to stay focused on what I want to achieve anyway. I will give myself enough time before I make contact etc. It’s not going to be any time soon that’s for sure. Still working on improving myself.
Just today…. missing him, that’s all 🙁
I hear ya. I know how you are feeling. but I am just going to try and ride it out a bit more. I know that if I speak to him now, I will come across as needy and desperate despite my best efforts. And I really don’t want that.
Just really missing him today, just one of those days!
I am still going to write my letter and am thinking about sending it to him end of next week or maybe the week after. I think he has already forgotten about me but I am going to send it anyway.You’ve gotta give her time. If I was her, I wouldn’t want to be talking to you either lol. She needs some space, and the best thing is time, time will make her forget what you did to her.
you need some time too to come to terms with what you did to her.
@divjun I know how you are feeling! I feel like I have been completely forgotten about since we broke up! he contacted me once. I accidentally contacted him (it was a genuine mistake) and that has been it. Feel like I’m a distant memory already and it’s only been a couple of weeks!
I wouldn’t ask for the keys again yet. She will see that as you finding a reason to talk to her. I would still keep no contact, and then when you talk agree to meet up and then you can ask for the keys.
I’m definitely going to be sending a letter. I’ve got too much to say for a text message lol and it’s more personal.
Just read your letter and it’s really good. Made me rethink my letter to try and cut it down a little bit. I just need to keep it short and sweet I think.
I don’t think you should necessarily give up. But you and her definitely need some space between you right now. Or it will just escalate. She is trying to do what she can to get your attention and wind you up. You both just need to take a step back and just chill for a bit!
do some no contact, 21 days or something, and stick to it. Don’t give in. She will message you a range of things in that time trying to get your attention but she will then eventually calm down.
