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@pineappleblue I know exactly what you mean about the front. I feel I have done the same as well. It suddenly hits you! Try to stay strong though, you’ve done so well x
@pineappleblue hey 🙂 I still think it’s a good thing you went on the date! Even though you feel the way you do! I think sometimes you have to do the date to realise you’re not ready if you get me.
In regards to texting him, it’s completely up to you, I don’t think it would do any harm, but depends what it would do to you xIt was awful! I wanted to run. Even when I realised it wasn’t him!
Is the meeting all arranged @mj?Oh boy.. I had to go my exes favourite restaurant tonight for a friends birthday. Was terrified I was gonna see him. Saw this guy at the bar who looked like him and he was kissing some girl, my heart sank. Realised it wasn’t him but made me realise how not ok I am with it all! It absolutely broke me and it wasn’t even him!!
Yep maybe Mj maybe! It may just take him a while to realise, and he may need another relationship to realise it too. So could be a long time coming. And I don’t want to wait for him to realise.
@Mj Haha I like how you put that! I just gotta let him get on with it anyway. Feeling less hopeful by the day but I think that’s probably better for me!
It’s gonna be perfect when you give it to her 🙂
@malinda im not doing too badly. Just taking each day as it comes and getting on with it 🙂 trying not to look back or forward and just focus on now x
@ellie96 I agree completely with @oshi
You have made so much progress and I do think you are overthinking. I know it’s not nice that he hasn’t replied but you just have to take it a day at a time. It’s about the present, not the past and not the future. If he is going to stop talking to you (which I doubt is a permanent thing) then he isn’t even worth it@malinda that’s great about the second interview! Good luck! Yes don’t worry that he’s not contacted you, he could be finding it just as hard as you x
@pineappleblue glad you are doing so well! Makes me happy! Oooo a date 😉 go you! X@ellie96 I think what you have got to remember here is that it isn’t just about what you say, it’s about how he feels. So if he loves you, then you saying what you said should not make him never want to talk to you again. What he should be thinking is this girl I love really needs my help right now and I will do anything to help her. If he doesn’t then I’m afraid he isn’t worth it! I think you have to just leave him to it for now. Really gotta focus on yourself. Like what I said before, you are number one, if you focus on you, get yourself back together again, and the rest will follow (meaning him). You won’t get better if you are trying to focus on him and what might or might not happen with him. Please put yourself first.
@ellie96 I wouldn’t contact him again. I appreciate why you are feeling that way but he’s got to come to you. Did you leave the voicemail after you sent the text? I think seeing your therapist is a good thing, just be really honest about how you feel. You say you don’t want to go through this again, do you mean go through this again with him? If you put him to one side at the moment and focus on yourself, getting yourself better, the rest will follow with it. Otherwise I fear you will be putting too much energy and thought into how HE is doing and how things are with him, that you will neglect yourself. As you’ve told us before, you are number one. Not him.
I wouldn’t ask her out no…. not if she is in a new relationship and she hasn’t responded to your letter!
I think a lot of the problem is that we think too much of “what does this mean, what does that mean, why, what if” etc. We must focus on the present, forget the past and don’t think about the future. I am not saying give up at all, or that you shouldn’t have hope, so please don’t be insulted. Just focus on what is happening right now, focus on yourself more importantly. She received the letter, that’s good enough for now, give her time to process it and think if she wants to reply or not. If she is in a new relationship she will not want to respond yet. Just have some patience.
