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It sounds like he has a lot of stuff to work out for himself. You are right that you don’t deserve this with him playing games on you.
You need to create distance between yourselves. Start no contact and if he messages you tell him that you need time and space so please respect that.
Well she called me this time. I’m having the kids tomorrow night and she could have just texted to confirm details but she wanted to call. It was a good conversation and we talked about more than just the kids. I even made her laugh a few times 🙂
No it didn’t affect me. I will keep saying it.
I will keep up the calls and telling her what’s been going on
When I dropped off the kids I told her that I would call her later. I then texted to make sure that she wasn’t busy and she texted me when she had put the kids to bed.
At the end I told her it was nice talking to her but she didn’t say the same.
When I dropped the kids off to her it sparked feelings in myself. She is definitely the one for me.
We just had a nice talk on the phone for over 22 minutes. It was definitely better than that talk over facebook. She is still recovering from her flu and is still very tired so it is not the right time to ask her to do something.
I think you are right. I met her to get the kids and there was something there between us. Something friendly so that is something to work on. She said I looked good lol and asked how things were with me and told me of her weekend plans. She is still recovering.
I’ve been where you are. I was living in a rented room by myself until I had a break down and I didn’t want to be alone anymore. That was back in March and, even though I have made progress, I still dip into dark places. One was just a few days ago. I have been looking for a counsellor and being on here helps too.
You can’t look at the future from the dark place you are in right now. Focus on getting yourself better first and then look at the future.
We are all here for you and we all feel your pain. I too made mistakes. I was angry at her for months before I finally changed my attitude. Even then it took months of feeling like making progress only to suffer setbacks and learning from mistakes to get to a point where I feel we can slowly build things again.
You can’t just think you are doing better. You have to feel it too and it will take time. There are still days where I scream into the wind over what she did but it is better than a few months ago.
My advice is take more than the 30 days and focus on yourself. Go join a gym, trust me it helps.
That’s a good sign. You have pulled away and she is not used to that so she is asking your friend to see what’s been happening with you.
Keep no contact and she might contact you.
Just had a conversation with her on facebook. It felt like I was driving the conversation. She did ask about a few things but it didn’t feel like a friendly conversation. She is still recovering from the flu but it’s frustrating. I’m making an effort!!!!
First thing that springs to mind is that you are only 18. This will likely not be your last relationship.
But if you are wanting to try then show her how much you have changed when she comes. Don’t act needy or anxious just play it cool.
