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depends on you. I thought i was ready to contact my ex, and when i didnt get the replies i wanted, it made me worse. Dont contact your ex till you can honestly say it doesnt matter if you get them back or not
I wanna be where you are, in a state (or at least near) of pure acceptance, its horribel getting there, Im still on the journey there, but glad to see there is hope at the end of the tunnel.
If he says he has no feelings for you, then why hurt yourself? I say go into NC until you feel that you dont need him anymore, dont know how long that will take, but it’ll help you.
Try and avoid or ignore her. I’ve realized a lot of it is a power game. If you cave in, you’ll give her all the power and put yourself in a crap position. Stay Strong
Be very very careful of a depressed partner. If he is suffering from a clinical case of depression, then distance yourself from him for your own emotional safety, he’ll blow hot and cold, love then hate you, be close then pull away, and you’ll land up insane. I went through it, be very careful.
like you i work with my ex, even worse we live on the same base. I know what it feels like to have your stomach in knots when you see her, the paranoia of why she so happy without you, the ‘why wont she talk to me’. In my opinion the only thing you can do is to keep nc, be friendly if you have to talk to her but keep it work related, you have to give the impression that you dont give a f##k if she is there or not (even though you’re dying inside). One of two things should occour……she’ll wonder why you’re not interested in her anymore and will start trying to find out, or she’ll just shrug it off and move on. you need to be prepared to not ever get her back, yes i know the point of this page is to get your ex back, but ive come to the conclusion that if thats you’re main and sole goal in life, then you’ll never be able to fix yourself. Self improvement is the main gain here, once you’ve got to the point where you feel, look and act good, then you’ve come to the point where it doesnt matter if you get your ex back, so at that point if you do get them back, then thats just a bonus. A better you is the main goal.
never helped mine but it did teach me something. An ex is an ex for a reason, in my case i was emotionally abused, even though im mean, covered in tattoos and can beat up most, even me the ‘ultimate bad ass’ can be hurt. Even though I do still love my rx, i need to stand up and be a man and not let anyone treat me like crap, I deserve better, and that applies to everyone here. We shouldnt depend on others to love up, we should love ourselves above all.
