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Hello,
I have been with this guy for 7 years + and now he says he is not sure if he loves me and does not have feelings for me. He does even want to meet me to talk about this and find a solution. We were in a long distance for a year and he came back to home country in December. He used to ignore my messages and keeps in touch whenever he feels like. Lately he told me he does not want a break up but he does not have the feelings. He wants to know where the relationship stands.
I want to know should i go for the NC rule in this case as i want to help him to get back the feelings and make him wants to meet me. Will going NC makes him thinks that i am moving on? i love him dearly and wants him back. I used to be his priority and now it seems like i am only an option to him. I want to be his priority again. So should i go NC????
Thank you in advance for taking time to read this and your advices.If he says he has no feelings for you, then why hurt yourself? I say go into NC until you feel that you dont need him anymore, dont know how long that will take, but it’ll help you.
Sometimes he might say that he doesn’t have feelings for you but it is not always right.
Just do NC for 30/45 days and keep low profile, You will get results in this period of NC.Hey guys, thank you for your response. The thing is I had been very rude to him for the past 6 years and always took him for granted. I was too career oriented and did not want to commit myself. I realised that I really love him last year when we were in a long distance. Now that he is back, he seems stronger and says that I am the reason for the lost of feelings for I used to fight daily and never showered him with love.
Now that I have changed and want a chance to save the relationship and lead a happy life with him, he says he is fed up with all my tantrums, always nagging around and being obstinate. I fear if going NC will result in losing him completely since I never gave him the love he deserves. I want to repent for all the wrongs did to him but I am confused of how to convince him that I am a changed person now and I want him back in my life and wont repeat those mistakes 🙁 I have tried to be loving, sending him romantic messages everyday but no positive response from his side. He says, good that I have changed but things will not work out.Oh in this case its tough,i did same thing with my ex g/f for 4 years and its been close to one year and she is not back yet and I am on NC and its been more than 60 days.Chances are slim but there is hope.
I definitely think you should do 30 days of no contact. Stay busy, work on yourself, and make some positive changes. 7 years is a long time to invest in a relationship and I understand why you don’t want to give up. If he is saying he does not want to break up, I definitely think there is hope. I had the same experience with my ex – keeps in contact whenever he feels like it. In that case, you need to show him you won’t always be around and everything isn’t at his convenience. When you contact him after the 30 days, keep it casual and not about the relationship! I hope this helps somewhat.
Can you read my thread “Has anyone tried no contact more than once?” and let me know what you think? Thanks!
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