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Hey kaila..
I get u.. everything you said made sense to me. I too got my ex back and i too was facing this problem. Dont worry about anything. Its a new relationship. I just let it be amd now everything is perfect and i am happy too. Take iy slow amd dont expect so much from him at this point!!@sam.. yes it sounds good to me. If she shows interest then u can go for twice a week if she also initiates contact sometimes!
@confused girl.. sad about what? He is with you amd loves you. Dont overthink. The only problem you have is your mind. Try to control it and everything will be fine.@sam i think you start being her friend and try to arrange a meeting. Go slow and never talk about past or anything. Let her text you on your birthday first then start trying to be her friend
Ummm. I would say wait till your birthday. If she texts you, start having friendly chats from there on!
Just be normal… and do not fret unnecessarily.
You are being desperate. This is the wrong thing about you.
He admitted he loves you so don’t doubt it. Let him be. Text him and say you are missing him and arrange a meeting. Have fun together and take it slow.@sam.. you dated your ex for 8months? Well i dont think it matters. What actually matters how you felt and how much you were in love and what beautiful memories you both made.
As far as i can see, she got frustrated and felt she wasn’t having her freedom. She also was suffocating but her so called best friend was keeping her happy as their were no rules or restrictions. So she enjoyed his company more than yours.
Her saturation point came and she broke up with you because she couldn’t take it anymore. Maybe he proposed her and she accepted because she was happy with him as friends. They were already close as they were best friends and she gave it a try. Maybe it was like a break she was taking because she got tired of your nagging behaviour. While she was taking a break and giving him a chance, you had sex with other girl which obviously hurt her and she became more adamant about the break up. Then no contact and all kind of distanced you both. She missed you and she showed signs also but she doesn’t want to take the first step. Because for her it looks wierd as you both are broken up for so long and she is with someone else. But i can assure, she thinks about you sometimes but not always.
I would say its time to create false friendship. Break this NC as its getting very long. Show your changes and be her friend. Remind her of your good times by being friends only. It will take time but start working on it. Don’t do it too much. Concentrate on other things too. Good luck:)
@confused girl.. i have been there where you are right now.. i would say, give him attention and love but dont bound him. Give him his freedom. Take it slow and dont think about him all the time. Dont get your expectations up too high.it will hurt you. I have been there.And he’s succeeding at it. Dont worry. He’ll unblock you soon and its nice that he wants to meet you.:)
@Samuel.. i can only say to keep doing what you are doing. If her close people are saying that she ll regret her decision, then she probably will.
Maybe she started dating that guy because you doubted and she was sick about it. Or maybe because you got invioved with another girl. She still being mad at you is a sign that she Still feels something. That guy was her best friend so she cannot just abandon him.I would say to text her something which which would bring back the old memories. like that video game? Or a place u used to go together. It would also calm her down after the argument u had with her.
But it’s nice to see you’ve grown so much. You are a strong person and they are always attractive!!
Why dont you try meeting her just to catch up?
@confused girl… it’s normal for a guy to act like this. He wants to remain in his comfort zone. You have him but you don’t own him. You cannot expect him to do everything what you want him to do. It’s normal!!!!! Stop thinking!!!!@samuel.. thats a great way to get back into contact with your ex. 🙂
@confused girl..i have been reading this thread from a long time. Please what i am gonna say listen carefully cause i am going to tell you for your own good and i am sorry if i sound rude. But tell me what is wrong with you girl?? You wished what happened with lolita happens to you and it did happened to u. Actually a better is happened to u. Instead of being on cloud 9 you’re thinking why isn’t he talked to u properly?
I really dont think you worked well on yourself dear. You are desperate!! And its not attractive at all!! Why cant you just let it go?? He might be exhausted!! Or maybe not in a mood to talk. You cannot impose anything on him. He said he loves you and you should believe him!! Give him his space! And nothing is wrong with him.. your thinking is wrong. You’re going to ruin your new relationship if you kept thinking like this. I am so sorry i said something like this but you are not in a good state dear.
He confessed he loves you!!! That’s it! Give your mind some rest and stop fretting unnecessarily. Nothing is wrong!!! Everything is fine. Give him his space and you too have other things to do besides talking to him and noticing his every move.
Remember if you hold your relationship tight,it will die. But if you hold it light,it will fly!!!!
I am sorry if u felt bad!Whenever you’ll remove it, he would know you were thinking about him.
I would say, maintain nc till he approaches you in a nice way!@mj.. all good. But there is a problem. I mean i have a problem. The girl i hated (my ex best friend) and my bf are still in touch. They sometimes talk for hours late night. I mean they are friends but i dont like it. I dont wanna get in between his privacy as i trust him. But i dont like him to talk to her.
Do you think they ll ever stop?
He is treating me right. I dont have a single problem being with him.@mj. Nice.. i hope you all get your exes back soon:)
@mj.. good luck for the letter. I really hope it works for you. You still in nc? How long its been?
