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@mj.. all good. But there is a problem. I mean i have a problem. The girl i hated (my ex best friend) and my bf are still in touch. They sometimes talk for hours late night. I mean they are friends but i dont like it. I dont wanna get in between his privacy as i trust him. But i dont like him to talk to her.
Do you think they ll ever stop?
He is treating me right. I dont have a single problem being with him.I know I shouldn’t think anything but I’m about to lose my mind! My mom is still a friend of him on facebook so I checked his wall and he is now friends with a beautiful girl! He told me before that today he’s working in the evening. Also I can’t see her friends so I don’t know who is she. The only thing I can think of is that maybe she’s new and working with him (He’s working in a video games store), or maybe he met her today while working and then added her on facebook, or even a few days before? The thing is that he’s not the flirting type, he’s shy and never tried to hit on girls before (He had one relationship in high school that lasted 2 months) Also he doesn’t have female friends, only one that was in a band with him and his friend but I know her and they barely talk.
I’m feeling so bad and I don’t want to do something I regret of.
My brother’s friend added her on facebook and said he would flirt with her and let me know about her.@Oshi Random people add each other on Facebook all the time lol. Your brother’s friend shouldn’t do that. Manipulation isn’t going to get anything out of her. Chances are youre really overreacting. Facebook friends are different from having posts and pictures with facebook friends. If you don’t see any of that, then 9 out of 10 chances that there is 100% nothing going on and it is just a random add.
@divjun He may not stop if you don’t say something. I wouldn’t say something right now though. Just suck it up basically. I’m in a similar position. My ex and I are doing great, but he is still friends with the 2 coworkers he slept with. He still hangs out with them and a group of friends. As of right now, I have got to suck it up. Then, when the time is right that he brings up getting back together, I’m going to make it clear that that will not be happening if I say yes. If he says that’s not right or that’s not fair, I’ll tell him to look at it from my side and then leave. That’s all you can do.
@ellie I know that I sound a bit crazy, but he never adds random girls he doesn’t know on facebook, also the only new girls he had on facebook since we’ve been together are two friends from the army he worked with. My brother’s friend isn’t going to manipulate her or anything, he wants to add her so I can see her profile and made some jokes about flirting with her but I don’t know if he’s going to do that.
@Oshi I just don’t think you should do that because it is just going to stress you out even more.. But if you feel it is necessary, then I guess just keep doing what you’re doing! Just because he hasn’t done it before, doesn’t mean he won’t do it now. People tend to add attractive people quicker. Not because they want to be with them, but just because it is interesting. Anyways, if she asked to be his friend, then it was probably a very innocent situation. I think you’re thinking way too much into it. But I understand. I’d be the same way.
I’m finally giving up. I realized nothing has changed. I keep doing the same mistakes over and over again and I feel stupid. I was so emotional that I’ve called him and added him on facebook again. We’ve had a long talk. At the beginning we’ve just talked as friends, but then the conversation turned about our relationship, he said that from my behaviour last time we talked he could feel that I was frustrated because I expected something more between us. He said the same thing he said after the break up, that he realized we are not fitting for each other and that his work is the most important for him than anything. I’ve also asked him if he has someone else and he said no and that he doesn’t want to date anyone right now.
I’ve made a mistake again, but now I can at least move on and know that all the things that happend lately were just my imagination. Even if I kept trying I don’t think anything would have changed his mind. He still sees me as the same girl he broke up with. It’s lost for me, but I would keep helping you guys here as much as I can.@Oshi Just focus on you.. That’s all that matters right now. You. Improve yourself and become happy with the life you have. I support you no matter what!
hey @div i think you should let him know but not right now.
@oshi I agree with elliesigh guys i’m still having such dreams about her
@Mj I had a dream about my ex last night too. I hate having bad dreams about him because then it scares me about having a relationship with him. You’ll get through it though!
@ellie and the others
the more i think about what have happened and all the things that have been going on the more i think that it will be impossible for use to be together 🙁
@ellie Thanks!
@Mj: I know how you feel. I’ve had this feeling sometimes too, but now I realized that all the negative feelings I had in my mind prevented me from doing my best! I was thinking too much and that what caused me to make so many mistakes.
Don’t think about it, no matter what happend between you and her you still have a chance and even if it’s hard to see it now it can still happen! just like when you meet someone out of nowhere and that person suddenly becomes you whole world, it can happen again!@oshi yes you are right about all this! but when i look at it, i think maybe i do have and actual chance if i try and then i’ll think but maybe in reality she is happy with whoever she is and is meeting me purely to catch up. if you get what i mean hahaha!
@Mj Yes that’s how it was with my ex. But if she’s dating someone else I don’t think she would be willing to meet up with you. Also she starts to initiate and texts you, I think that’s a good progress! You have nothing to lose, if you’d try and see that it goes nowhere then you can give up but currently it looks good 🙂
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