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First, it’s great she responded to you! It really is. And she wasn’t cold toward you. Which means she has no resentment towards you. Maybe ahe knows she kinda screwed up a little. It was a little late so yeah the conversation was bound to be short. It’d be a good idea to wait a little bit to text again.
Second, the chat thing might not be all that bad. It’ll actually give you two something to talk about. Catching up. I would still avoid the chat. Whatever you see on there may be intended for you. Some of it may be embarrassing to her if you k ew what she said. Not to mention a little obsessive checking up on what shes saying. So it might be a good thing that you don’t know what’s going on.
Third, for the next few days before you text her again, don’t think too much about her. Not till the day you’re trying to text again. Make yourself busy. I know the whole snails pace sucks. But it’ll be good in the end. Youll have to start slow then build that attraction again. So it’d be good to just start out as friends. Takes a lot of pressure off her.
I’m majoring as an aircraft mechanic. I should be done by may 2017. She was there again. I just couldn’t do it! She was right next to me working out and I just froze up. I’m def going to tomorrow though. Not gonna pussy out this time. As far as my ex goes, nothing new. Still silence. Which is what I expect for a while. Maybe even for good. Sucks to think about. I’ll try texting her one day. For now I’ll just go on with life.
Take it easy. There’s no way she’s moved past you. Not after only a month. She most likely feels that empty feeling the same one you do. Usually they’re at the same stage we are at this point. They just haven’t found this site. And they might think the relationship is dead and that we are actually the ones moving on. But really we’re trying to get them back. If she doesn’t want to talk then she needs more time. It only means you need to wait till she’s ready to be friends. She’s not just going to cut you out of her life. Unless she’s just a total bitch. Which from what I take, she’s not. So stay calm. If you’re freaked out then wait another week. I know you want to do it now but you should be in control of your emotions. Right now they’re everywhere. So wait till tomorrow to really decide. If you’re still sick-to-your-stomach nervous then don’t send the msg yet. She’s not going anywhere. Hope this helps.
I didn’t feel I was ready to come out of no contact either. And the thought of the the long wait and the patience game is daunting. Because you know you still love them and care about them and already want things to work. But you’ll be forced to go at their pace. But you have to see the end goal. A happy relationship. You see it already and it’s keeping you going. But she doesn’t see that. That’s what we’re here for. To hopefully make them see.
If she has been seeing this guy, you contacting her might confuse her. It’ll make her really think about what she want. It might even freak her out a little. That’s why you should go slow. Any hint you want to get her back will cause her to just lock up immediately. It’ll be too much. If she’s not texting him or seeing him then it’ll be easier for you. But you should still take it slow. You want to be her friend. Make her have a good time. Be fun and new. If you’re taking her out, go somewhere she’s never been. Don’t recreate old memories. Make new ones. It’ll take her mind off the past relationship she had with you. Not entirely. She’ll remember why she was dating you. I’m going out on a limb and saying she’s talking to that guy still. Her seeing him get hurt like that will make her feel a little obligated to stick around till he’s recovered. Which isn’t a bad thing. Her getting close to him could act turn her off. She may figure out she actually doesn’t like him. He honestly sounds like a dumbass.. either eay be cool with whatever is going on. It’ll make you look really good if you’re more understanding.
Again if she responds, keep it short and be cool. Relax and take it easy. If she doesn’t respond don’t freak out. Just continue on focusing on yourself. The plan doesn’t change just because she doesn’t text back.
My day wasn’t bad. I have college every day and I go straight to the gym after so I’m always distracted on the weekdays. That girl wasn’t there today so didn’t get a chance to talk to her. Maybe tomorrow. Got my car kinda fixed up. Had to drive without a front bumper or my hood today. Looked pretty getto. Thankfully nothing internal was messed up. The Japanese know how to build a car..
Did you end up sending the text today? Hope things are going good.
Thanks for the advice. Yeah it doesn’t matter what she posts. I mean I’ve known they’ve been together for well over a month. I guess my letter did get to her. It was prob meant for me to see. And yeah I think I will take a break from Facebook. I’m pretty connected as far as social media goes. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat. Might be a good idea to just step away. I think tomorrow I will talk to that girl. A little excited to. Hope she’s not already taken..
I’m glad you’re going to keep going. It’s great you care so much for her. She may be too blind to see it but I think you’re good for her. If only they knew huh.. and skipping the letter isn’t that bad. It’s just a minor detail. And yeah be thinking what to say in that text. It cant be too strong with emotion but it needs to be friendly. If a conversation starts, keep it short. Don’t tell her every little thing you’ve been up to. You’ll run out of things to talk about pretty quick. Probably just ask how’s she’s been doing and tell her about something big that’s happened. Talk for a little and end the conversation by saying you have to go. If she doesn’t respond to your text it just means she’s not ready. Or she’s talking to that guy. Which isn’t a big deal.
If this guy is still around, which there’s a good chance he is, she’s not ready to be with him. Think about yourself with a new girl already. Every time you kiss, hug, go anywhere. You’re comparing it to your ex and thinking about them just about the whole time. Youll have moments where you’d feel happy, but once you’re alone, you feel that creeping feeling. The thoughts of your ex. And you miss them. One day you figure out the relationship is empty. And that you weren’t actually over your ex. The only bad thing is it might be a year down the line. But either way you end up at square one. Sad and lonely missing your ex wishing there was some way you could maybe talk to them. That’s the most probable scenario if she starts seeing this new guy. She will only think she’s happy but you’re a good guy. It’d be hard not to miss someone who cared for you. So don’t sweat too much if she’s with him. It’ll just postpone your plans. Which gives you even more time to work on yourself. Becoming stronger and smarter.
No matter what just keep improving you. Ik I’ve said that a lot but it’s important. I’m happy to hear you’re going to keep fighting for this. I’m okay with my choice to start moving on. Maybe she’ll wake up and figure out that she’s letting go of a guy who really loves and cares about her. I just need some time from all this to be happy. I like the idea of getting past the sad days and getting past this missing her badly stage.
If you’re unsure and dont feel it’d be your best option, then don’t send it. A text may not be quite as meaningful but it could still work. I know you don’t know where she is tight now. And yeah that makes it kinda difficult to really know if it’s the right time. Maybe you just have to take a leap of faith with the text. And if it doesn’t work out just continue to move forward.
Today I got on Facebook. I saw on my wall that “your ex is now in a relationship with new guy.” So yeah.. that hit me pretty hard. My heart’s still beating and I’ve got a pretty sick feeling churning inside me. Maybe she got the letter and that’s her way of telling me “look I’m with this guy now.” Maybe I’m just looking into it too much. Either way it hurt. I think I’m just going to unfriend her and block her now. I’m honestly just tired of all this. It’s definitely taken a toll on me. I don’t want to wait around on her anymore. She’s not the girl I loved. Maybe one day she’ll try to contact me or want to try again. For me I think I’m done trying. It’s just too much for me right now. I’ll focus on my career and myself. Wish this never happened. It’s rough.
As far as your situation, if things don’t work, then you should start moving on. There’s always a chance that it’ll work out one day. But if it doesn’t work now then there’s no point in waiting around for it to happen. It’s not healthy. And you never know what other chances you miss by dwelling on your past. I’m sorry this all happened to you. I know it’s hard. I understand you love her and care about her. But there are other people in this world that will make you happy. And you can make them happy. Endless possibilities. Life is weird. Our existence is weird as hell… I’m not trying to make you question life itself lol. But life is hard. In the end we all find happiness. I know you will. No matter what happens.
If you do contact her and she replies back, be cool. Be ready to take it slow. If you decide to not, then focus on you. Try to think of her less and less. This site helps get your ex back, but it also helps move on. I don’t want to say I’m giving up. I’m just tired of being hurt. I want to be happy again. And I can be happy without her. I hope things go okay with your situation.
My favorite books are either the Harry Potter books or the Eragon books. The series I was talking about is called The Rangers Appreciate. They’re good reads if you’re looking to pass the time.
I think you have a good idea with your letter. My problem was also not really knowing how to get it to her.. perks of living in the digital age 😛 in the end I just drove to her college on a day off and plopped it at her pod. So basically I left the letter sitting out in the open with her name on it. And I’m just hoping no one took it but her.. kinda not smart on my end but then again ik her friends who live in the same pod would’ve given it to her. So I’m not worried too much about her actually getting it. It’s just the fact that there was no reply from it. And obviously I can’t send another one or else I’ll seem needy or desperate or even a little creepy. So now I play the waiting game. Which I was going to try my best to continue no contact through the holidays. I hate to think I’d have to go on that long but there’s not much else I can do. Kinda sucks :/ but it is what it is. As far as your letter, I’d figure out how you’re going to get it to her. Then think about timing. Usually it only takes 4 or 5 days to be delivered. So kinda plan for that. Your timing is important but your window is bigger than you think. I feel like I may have jumped the gun. Should’ve waited for her to stop being with this new guy. But I got a little nervous and delivered it anyway.
Ill actually try the shoes thing. It’s a pretty good idea. Hopefully she’s not already seeing someone.. she’s really cute. It’s nice to have a little crush on another girl. It stops me from thinking about my past with my ex and starts making me think about a possible relationship with this new person. Of course those memories flood me every day. I miss my ex pretty bad right now. But things have been taking the focus off that. Just spent two days with friends playing games and hanging out. It was pretty fun. Pretty much just got home. Hit a deer though.. fucked up my cars hood pretty bad -_- atleast nothing serious wrong. Just some body damage.
Try to keep positive thoughts. And remember to prepare for the absolute worst. It makes it easier to collect your thoughts and plan your next move. And if the worst never happens then that’s good. It’s always good to be ready though. Stay hopeful and continue to be strong. No matter what work on you. Good luck with the next days. Try to think of better things. Hope things go well for you. I’ll be in touch.
It’s great you’ve been busy. As you get close to day 30 you’ll def get pretty nervous. You have to try to suppress these nerves. It won’t help prepare for the day you try to reach out to her again. Just use what youve learned from this site and try to look back on the last month and really take a look at how you’ve grown as a person. Leave behind the bad and continue forward with the good.
I used to read a lot. I loved reading. There was a great book series that I could dive into for hours and hours. The author used great details to really drive the story. It was set in a medieval like time. One thing ive always remembered from the books is a motto one of the main characters used to say. “Have a good plan, but always prepare for your plan to fail.” Technically saying, prepare for the worst. Now if she’s with this new guy or is talking to him seriously still, remain calm through it. There’s no way she can go from having a relationship with you to a new, great relationship with another person so quickly. You have to take a lot of time. Like almost a year. If she’s with him just remember it’s not for good. Yeah it’s a shit bummer but you just have to keep going on. Stick to the plan. Each day you get stronger and she only gets weaker. I’ve had to deal with the fact that my ex is with a new guy, already having sex with him.. it’s really hard to think about sometimes. But I’ve gotten through it and just learned to accept it.
If you can’t get any info to assess the situation then you might just have to trust your instincts. Ik it’s pretty hard to do. But you know her (for the most part). Just send the letter if you feel the time is right. If it’s not, just wait. She’s not going anywhere. You can just wait for the right opportunity to present itself. Timing is seriously everything.
For now, keep busy like you’ve been doing. It’s good you dont immediately respond and sit on this site all day everyday. You’re staying busy and working on yourself getting through these rough days. Continue to stay strong.
As far as me, things aren’t exactly great I guess. Yesterday I dropped of my letter. It pretty much said “happy birthday, sorry I missed that. I’ve accepted the breakup, been pretty busy with college, sorry for the way I acted in the beginning, hope you’re doing well, maybe one day we can catch up as friends.” So far, no reply.. so the only thing I can do now is wait. I feel like eventually I won’t want to wait any longer. For now I’m not too concerned. I kinda felt like it may have been too soon for the letter. But it is what it is. For now I’ll focus on college and working out. I’ll most likely get a weekend job too. There’s a really cute girl at my gym that I want to talk to so bad but I’m so bad at starting conversions.. maybe one day I’ll just say fuck it and approach her. Until then I’ll just continue to awkwardly look over at her from time to time..
Take these last few days to collect your thoughts and think about if it’s the right time for you, not just her. I understand you really miss her. And ik how every thoight seems to be of her. But you can’t let them get in the way. You still need to be smart and patient right now. In all honesty you’re the only one who can decide when to try to contact her again. It’ll be tough. If anything, just keep going on. One day you’ll have your chance. As far as the holidays go, yeah I’m right there with you. I’ve always gone to her families house since we started dating. It’ll be hard this year. From the looks of things for me it doesn’t look like I’ll see them this year. I kinda hope she brings her new boyfriend with her. Her dad knows a deadbeat when he sees one. More points to me in the end.. but yeah, holidays suck. Just continue to be strong through them. Ik you’ll make it. Youve come a long way already. Hope these next few days are good ones for you. Till next time.
It’s good that you’ve gotten through these days. 22 days of no contact is rough. But you’ve done great so far. Keep finding things to improve yourself overall. You’re getting closer to that day 30 mark. And I bet you’re feeling that pressure. I did. As far as you contacting her, that’s up to you. You know her and your situation better than anyone. It might be a good idea to check up on her through a friend if you can. Ask how she is. Or if you can’t do that, look at her Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, ect. You might find out some info to get a better grasp on the overall situation. Do that on day 27 or so. Until then keep working out, cooking, being around friends and distracting yourself. I’ll go over the scenarios of after no contact.
Scenario 1: you contact her after day 30 and she contacts back. You have to be ready. No talking about the relationship! Your relationship before is now over. So you have to start over. Be polite, positive, happy. You cannot show any signs of bad emotions, even if they’re swimming around in your head. You must be confident and a friend. Talk about what she wants to talk about. Start slow and keep it short. Maybe ask how she’s doing to know her situation. Just don’t let the past conflict with your conversations. If she wants to talk about it, she will. And if she does, keep your emotions in check. Do not point out her mistakes at all. Focus on yours and apologize for them. Just remember it’s a new relationship. You and her are different people now. So it’s new yet the same. She obviously loved you at one point. She can love you again.
Scenario 2: you contact her but get nothing back. Remain calm. She’s not ready. Don’t try again to contact her. It’ll make you seem desperate and needy. I know it’ll be hard. But you have to keep cool in that situation. Just go on like normal. Keep your focus on yourself. Try again in another month. Maybe she’ll be ready by then. But again you know her and the situation better than anyone else. So be smart and be patient.
Scenario 3: you choose to continue no contact. I chose this because of my situation. My ex is still having sex and getting high with this new guy. So I felt anything I did wouldn’t really matter. I assessed the situation and made a smart decision. If you do choose this path, keep focusing on yourself. And be ready for the time when you do contact her. Or maybe she’ll even contact you. And since you’re past day 30, you can respond without a problem.
I know you wish she’d just say something to you. Me too. I’ve waited for her to tell me she messed up and sorry and blah blah blah. I’ve realized that this won’t happen from my ex. She’s stubborn. At this point you should stop wanting it. Ik that sounds a little harsh and yeah its hard.. but it’s a little obsessive as well. That’s why I stopped thinking it. It’ll help you focus on yourself a lot better.
As far as me. Today’s tough. It’s her birthday. Im just confused on how to handle today. I was going to send a card but I didn’t. So I’m just kinda letting today pass by. I’m beginning to really get into that “missing her badly” stage. I’ve kinda felt a little empty the last few days. The relationship with that new girl kinda fell out. I knew it would. But we haven’t texted in a few days. It’s not a big deal though. I knew it wouldn’t last with me stuck on my ex. She’s still with that guy though. So every day it seems like she moves further and further away from me. It’s tough to think about it now.. moving on. I’m conflicted. She’s not the girl I used to love anymore. She’s changed so much. And not in a good way. Maybe one day I’ll figure things out. Right now, I’m just going to start preparing for the worst and start moving forward from all this. Maybe she’ll figure it all out someday and want me back. Maybe not. Either way I just need to keep moving forward in my life. One day I’ll feel better. For now, dog days.
I’ll let you ready all this and once you respond we can talk about your ex and this new guy. It’s important you know what to do if she does decide to be with him or becomes close to him. Hope to hear from you soon.
Be cool. You’re all over the place. You’re freaking out and warping the meanings of his texts. Analyzing them too much. You just have to stay cool and think about what to say next. Continue to go slow. Eventually you won’t have to start the conversation. Just keep it short but interesting. No matter what keep your focus on yourself. It’s important. You can’t go through no contact just to freak out as soon as they text you. Maybe wait a day or two. Stay busy during those days. Have something ready to talk about. If he doesn’t respond, don’t think too much into it. He’s in Germany so I’m sure he’s pretty busy right now. It’s great you’ve made it this far. Just stay patient. He’ll warm up to you eventually. Good luck!
It’s good things are beginning to get easier. The memories will always be there though. There’s a lot of things during the day that make me think of her. Mainly music. I’ll get pretty down suddenly and really miss her. The only difference is that the sadness goes away a little faster. And you have to just embrace the memories. For a while I couldn’t listen to this certain song cause it’d just put a knot in my throat and make me cry. Today I listened to the song on my way to school. I would’ve liked the song a lot if not for her. But those memories that make you miss her so bad, those will be around for a long time. Probably a year or more. So it just takes some getting used to. One memory that really gets to me still is one over this last summer. I was over at her house and I was sleeping. Well she used to stay up all night cause she had nothing to do over the summer. Well I was asleep and she I guess just stayed up and for a while she watched me sleep. Every now and then she’d kiss me. It’d wake me up and at the time I was a little annoyed. I didn’t show it. I just kiss her and go back to sleep. But that feeling it gave me.. later on when I thought about it, I just felt that love from her. I just get so down when I think of that. I try to put it far away in my mind but sometimes it just comes out. I want to feel that love again from her. That’s why I’m going to wait like I am, just for a chance to make it work again.
I think now that you’re on day 15 or 16 now, you should think about what your bad points in the relationship were. Just focus on you, not her. This k about the last year. It may help you kinda understand things a little better.
And it might be a good idea to go to a gym. Might cost a little more but you’ll have a chance to meet some new people. And doing things you like is a great way to clear your mind. So cooking could be a really good thing for you. Try to start doing things that’ll get her off your mind. And try really hard to stop thinking what shes doing or wishing she’d text you. I did the same but the texts never came.
Keep continueing onward. No matter what you have to get up and keep moving forward. You just have to wait patiently for your chance to start over with her. Sorry I didn’t respond sooner. I was pretty busy today. Alternator went out on my car.. $150 I won’t get back -_-
Hey sorry I haven’t responded in a while. All those things you’re thinking, that this guy is a total dickbag who doesn’t have any honor. Yeah.. me too. My ex did the same. Idk how long she was texting this new guy she’s with. But obviously he didn’t care. I even met the guy.. after I found out they were together I just lost my shit. Initially my ex told me she wanted a break. But when I found out I called her a cheat and broke up with her. Maybe I burned bridges. But at the same time I didn’t want to be her second choice after she’s done having fun with him. Its just all a big pile of bullshit. And you and I were thrown into it. It all sucks. We have to wait until our ex’s figure themselves out. Meanwhile we’re left to pick ourselves off the ground. All while having to go on with life.. it’s all just such shit. But we have to go on. Because if we don’t, we won’t get that second chance. We’ll only push it away from ourselves. I’ve looked at myself non stop for 31 days now. I’m 21 years old, 6 months away from graduating college and going to work. I’m not bad looking. I’m a pretty decent person. Atleast I like to think so. I just got out of my first relationship. She was everything to me. Yet it’s over and I let it all get to me. I have so much to live for. But I can’t let her go. So I’m going to fight for what I want. I’ll fight through the heartache cause I have to. One day we’ll both get our opportunity. I know I’ll be ready for it. You will too if you continue to be strong through all this.
Even if she is waiting, it’s going to be a rebound relationship if she does start dating that guy. Him falling was just an inconvenience. She had him lined up though. She knew something wasn’t right in the relationship with you and her. She might not even know what it was. Because it sounds like it was her. But eventually you still need to ask yourself what some of the problems were so you can improve yourself to handle situations in the future. Maybe she just wanted more. More dates, more laughs, more fun.. it’s up to you to figure that part out. And one day ik you will. But if she does start dating that guy, just stay cool. No matter what that’s her rebound. He sounds nothing like you. Your ex dated you because she liked being with someone like you. If the new guy is just nothing like you, it’s def a rebound. She’s trying to find you in this guy but won’t. So stay cool with it and start focusing on you more. You’re starting to get stuck again. Ik it’s hard but you can’t give in.
As far as the no contact at all from her as well, it’s the same for me. Day 31 and absolutely nothing from my ex. I doubt she’ll ever contact me unless I do so first. Us doing no contact is exactly the same as them not saying anything. And I bet they’re thinking pretty much the same thing. “Does he not care? Why won’t he text me? Didn’t the relationship mean anything?” We have to put it into their heads that we’re beginning to move on. Cause then they’ll feel like they’re beginning to lose us. And once we do contact them again, they’ll want to catch up and see what’s up with us after so long. It’s all a mind game right now. And if we lose, we lose everything. So you have to be careful and patient. I don’t know if she’ll contact you. If she’s like my ex, she wont. You just have to put that out if your mind. For three weeks i basically waited for my ex to pull up in my driveway to tell me she made a mistake and blah blah blah.. it’s up to us to fix it all. And with patience and staying strong, we have a good chance of doing so. I’ll definitely be checking my emails more for a response. I want to help you through it. And I myself kinda need help some days too.. she’s still with that guy. It’s hard. But I’ll get through it. This new girl is really cool. I’m glad I have her around honestly. In a week or two, you should maybe try to go out with someone new. Just be active and go meet some new people. You might even get someone’s number. I know you don’t exactly go out much. I’m the same way. But I worked through that so I can become a more confident outgoing person. It’ll really help later on.
Try to keep your cool. I know it’s very hard. It’s just all part of the breakup. The hurt, anger, frustration.. it’ll go away. For now just keep writing it down and talking to me or anyone who will listen. It helps the most. Stay strong. I’ll stay in touch.
Yeah it’s good having someone to be with to maybe talk to and just have some fun with. But it’s also good to maybe wait till you know you’re ready to see someone new. Sometimes I just get that guilty feeling when I’m with her. I can tell she maybe wants a kiss but idk if I can do that yet.. not to mention when she gives me that look I can feel my ears glow red hot.. for you, continue to work through the tough days and find some stuff to do. It’s good you went shopping. That’s something I need to do. A new look is always great. And it’s great you talked to some girls while shopping. A little bit of flirting and a few smiles from your jokes will give you a great feeling after.
Her friend just posted a selfie with my ex and her new boyfriend in it. They look pretty damn happy and like they’re having a great time but according to Kevin, she’s not. It’s just a face she puts on. And from what her friend tells me, this is true. But seeing the picture made me realize how bad I miss her and kinda made me look at the continuation of no contact as something really really sad. But I know that I will be very patient. I just need to continue to move forward and improve who I am. One day, when the time is right, I’ll have a chance to make things work and hopefully start a new happy relationship with the girl I love and care about. One day..
Glad things are still getting easier for you. Just continue being patient and improving yourself. You’ll start to feel better soon enough 🙂 good luck!
I think your ex is most likely talking to this guy trying to fill that hole. But even if she takes it slow or not, it’ll still be a hollow relationship in the end. She started texting him while you yow were together. So she will always automatically associate him with you. So even if she’s with him, she’ll have you on her mind. Just be patient with this. And stop worrying about her. I know you care but you can’t think of what shes doing or thinking all the time. It’ll drive you nuts. So continue to stay busy. It’s definitely a good thing to have something to distract you. And keep up those workouts! After a month of that you’ll start noticing a difference in the way you look. So keep it up!
And the date went pretty well. Went rock climbing and had a great time. Talking to her friend went pretty well. Got some decent info on the situation. She’s still with that guy so I’ll have to extend no contact :/ kind of a bummer but I’ll continue to be patient. And this new girl does know my situation. I told her the trust and said I may not be ready for anything long term. I just want someone to talk to and have fun with. She said it’s all good and we’ve continued to talk and will most likely go out again soon 🙂
My troubles lately have kinda been with that guy. Found out that they’ve been having g sex a lot and just drinking and smoking pot (which she said she would never do). So he just sounds like and overall bad influence. They’re both on the cross country team but all this stuff she’s doing has really taken a toll on her performance overall. So she’s giving up a great opportunity. I’ve come to accept the fact that this rebound relationship of hers is nothing more than that. Her and I have done just about everything so I imagine she won’t hold back on him to try and fill that void. Good thing it’ll only make it worse in the end and she’ll (hopefully) start to really miss me. Today I saw a post her friend posted and my ex and that guy were in it so it kinda hit that sensitive spot. But other than that I’m doing okay. Just getting through the days focusing on myself.
I’m sorry to hear you had a lonely Saturday. It’s good that you’ve been starting to focus on yourself more and more though. And I’m glad things are getting a little easier. Just continue to stay busy. And just remember this, she does miss you. She may not show it or even know she does. But deep down she still thinks of you and one day, with patience, you’ll have another chance to start over with her. For now, continue improving yourself, try to think of her less, and stay busy.
Hope things continue to get easier. Good luck my friend. I’ll keep in touch throughout your no contact. If you have questions or just need to talk, I’m always checking my emails for a response so don’t hesitate. 🙂
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She’s not going to just move on super quick. You two dated for a little while so obviously you meant something to her. It’ll take her some time to really move on. Several months most likely. Just take it easy and take it slow. Patience is extremely important right now. Work on yourself for now and tell yourself that she’s not going to move on anytime soon. That way you can take those steps to improving you.
Either way you come out in a losing situation. But sending it would be the worst decision. You actually want her to think that you’re taking steps to get over her. Later on it’ll make her miss you more. And by helping before it already showed her you cared. But right now if you were to send it, it wouldn’t make her think you cared. It’d only make you look like you aren’t really over her. Now obviously the breakup is still fresh. And you really do need to separate yourself from her. Worrying about if she thinks you don’t care about her because you didn’t let her cheat in a class she decided to take isn’t going to do that. Just take things one day at a time. It gets easier. For now really focus on you and your grades. Find new and fun things outside of school to distract you. Go for a run, get in good shape, hang out with friends. Be an active person because later on it’ll only make you a more confident and attractive person.
