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@caz15 check out my Topic. I Need advice please.
@caz15 Got another text just now. I didn’t reply to yesterdays text.
“was worried yesterday. But I see your Posts on Facebook so you must be alive and well. Take care”
Should I answer that? Or leave it? Let her stew some more. BTW, I posted on Facebook to my sister about getting a part in a Play (very different for me). But in my area everybody is into arts and it turned into a big conversation and loads of likes.
Please advise. Should I send your message now or leave it? Think I should leave it
i have thought about that Long and hard. That happened then unhappened again. But now you have me doubting everything.
Thanks @caz15
I really wasn’t expecting that. It’s almost 5pm here and that is a really unusual time of day for her to text me. Over the last few months it was always evenings or saturday afternoons when she would text. And I always replied within minutes or Maximum a few hours.
I will Keep you posted. Thanks so much for your help. It really made a difference. She is thinking of me and that makes me feel good and as if i am getting some power backAhh. Just got a Whats app message.
“Hey, how are you? All ok?”
Scared me actually. That’s on day 7 of NC. Wasn’t expecting anything for a while. I know it will hurt her when I don’t answer. But I have to be strong. Let her think that I am gone.
Ok. thanks. The sooner the better i think. Then she can think of me maybe more. She gets stressed around exam time and usually stays in the room studying. She might realise what she is doing with hime and tell him to go away. Still hard to stop having the doubts that it might last
I guess so. I hope this thing with the new man finishes soon. It could be already for all i know. That is the thing I can do nothing about. But she has exams coming soon and is studying hard. Maybe that will put an end to that?
What about her even saying that we could never go back? Is that Anger also and her justifying things?
@caz15
Thank you so much for your reply. That makes me feel so much better. But false hope could also be detrimental?
Anyway, I’m doing stuff now that I never dreamed I would do. Trying out tonight for a role in a Play with a Drama Group here.
I always got the Feeling that she still loved me. I could see it in er eyes last week. No contact will be easier now because of your help.Thanks again
@LAbound @ThePheonix
Just wondering what your opinions on this are.
Close to were I am from in Ireland is an old woman living in the grounds of a Castle. She is reknowned all over the Country for her tea leaf reading skills. I was always fairly sceptical of this but I have yet to meet a Person who hasn’t been blown away by her. She is quick and to the Point.
Anyway, being in the crisis that I was, I visited her on 1 January gone by. She said that I had a really bad year last year. Spot on. She said not to worry because this is my year. I will make up for lost years etc. She mentioned about being really settled and she sees a nice Family life with me in the future.
I then asked if I knew this Person (see my post on my Story – 5.5 years, broke up end November). She looked at me and said of course; as if I was an idiot to ask. She said that the ball was in my court. I know what to do. Just score the Goal she said.
Without saying a Name to me, she can only mean my ex. I didn’t even know about the new man at the time and wasn’t really sure what was going on because she was sending so many mixed Messages.
My question; would you pay much Attention to her and what she says? I went before to her years ago for a laugh and every single Thing came to pass. But I feel like it just gives me false hope.Thanks
Could you hold out until the Magic letter time?
It sounds like a tough one, but looking from the outside you are still sort of there for her. Pity her stuff was at yours in a way. She deep down still likes you in my opinion or she wouldn’t bother texting happy Christmas.
Depending on the reasons you broke up, have you sorted your side of those Problems yet? If not, then she will just think that nothing has changed. Be you but a new you. Hold out a bit longer and use the letter then not to pour your heart out but to pull on her heartstrings.
Give it your best shot. And start Meeting other Girls even just for flirting or the jealousy will consume you.
I wish you luck. We are both in very similar situations
@Martin
I am on day 7 of NC. She always complained that I was too clingy and never created my own circle of friends here. Well in 1 week I have achieved a lot I think. Met new People and joining Clubs. Waiting on the wages this week and I can do more then.As for you, you told me not to get friendzoned. Don’t do that to yourself. I think that telling her how you feel would be dangerous right now. Go nc and don’t give in this time
@Martin thanks for the reply. I’ll stick to nc then. I really want to believe that given time she will reach out and want me back.
Thanks for that. I think i will do nc for a few weeks more. Give myself time and her time to miss me. I was always there and that sometimes annoyed her. My female friends were really surprised with this new man as they were convinced that she was Holding out for me.
It took me by surprise needless to say.
What do you make of this?;
In October when I first moved out we met with friends. We had a Chat. She said then that she knows that I am the one for her but not the way my head was then. I didn’t have my own life she said. Only when I felt free could we be together again. She said it could take a Long time or a short time, maybe we would get involved with others, but she knows that deep down she wants me back someday.
About 6 weeks later she was saying that she loved me again but was still worried. Could she be in crisis mode now? Pushing me away to improve me? Maybe i’m clutching at straws here, but strangely her sister told me the exact same Thing just as I left for Ireland in December. She doesn’t want to lose you she said, but love can be shown in different ways.
