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Good job! Good work girl! I’m proud of you! and happy for you you have him chasing you. Keep up the NC be strong.
My ex still hasn’t tried contacting me don’t think he will honestly.I understand. I’m on my second round of no contact myself but hey guess what you’re a step close than I am he’s actually said he still loves you.
My guys with another girl
Flirst around so much
And he would probably tell me he doesn’t love me anymore if I asked.
So you hVe a lot more hope than I do.I know it’s hard and it’s all you can think or worry about. But in order to get him back or increase your chances. You’re gonna need to go no contact for awhile. You can’t beg him back.
You cAnt reAssure him how much you love him, cause trust me he already knows. Doing all this will push him further away.Just please keep doing no contact. We will do this together I’m on day 6 so we are right together except your a little further.
We need to higher out price tag. We need to be confident and independent. Prove to ourselfs we will be ok without him before we get them back. Because if not well always be dependent on them. Worrying about them. Stressing.
Once you start to feel better and more confident and start to stop thinking about him.
That’s when he’s gonna come crawling back.Stick to no contact for ATLEAST 30 days.
If he tried contactin you before then just ignore it then text him back after 30 days.
If 30 days come and he hasn’t tried go a little longer.
He already knows you miss and love him. But it’s not good enough yet. You have good signs he said he still loves you and if you really believe yor love was so want to be he will realize that but he has to miss you first. Don’t be waiting up for him. Prove to yourself you can be fine without him.Okay. It is definitely not too late.
You need to do no contact for 30-60 days. Trust me. He’ll wonder what happened to you because you have been begging and stuff and then you just stop.
Don’t have him on social media don’t stalk him or text him beg or plead. If he tried contacting you don’t answer.My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for 3 months now! And he has had this girl to do whatever the hell he is doing with her ever since. So if you think that my chances or okay then yours are much higher. Trust me. Do no contact.
Yes I also agree with what everyone is saying go No contact again.
You broke it and that’s fine just learn from your mistakes! And while doing this round of no contact try to work on yourself and you trust issues. Trust is one of the main keys of a relationship.
And then after 30 days or however long you are goin no contact, when you contact him again do not get emotional on him or show him you want him back.
Remember : it needs to be his idea to get back together! Show him the fun happy confident trusting girl you can be!It’d also mean a lot if I could get your advice on my updated threads
Well how long has it been since the break up? I don’t think it’s too late for Nc at all. @nattycatty1
Thank you
The first time I did Nc I will admit I was always thinking about I can’t wait til it’s been 30 days and I get to re contact him and just worrying about it.
I’m trying to do no contact again because I think it’s probably the best idea for my well-being. When my ex and I were together I had bad depression and anxiety problems and I realize now I leaned on him for my support and happiness. So now that he’s gone, it’s brought out my depression ten times more and now I don’t have my escape. My person to lean on, the person that I DEPENDED on for everything.
That’s not healthy or fair to him or myself to rely on him for that.
After trying to re contact him and he responds nicely but never tried to contact me first I began to feel hopeless and like he’s never coming back. I get legit withdrawals from him I feel like my body will hurt and I will feel the total NEED to contact him or be with him and have him hold me.
And this is not right. Because the thought of me not having him back makes my life look dull and sad in the future and I don’t want to depend on him.Soo.. I’m doing my second round of no contact and am seeking advice on how to do it right this time.
I want to be independently happy. I want to be able to feel okay knowing that I probably won’t get him back. I want to not cry myself to sleep anymore or feel so hopeless that life doesn’t even seem to be what I want.
I just need some guidance.Yeah his responses are short though so I feel like he’s just trying to be a nice guy but doesn’t care.
I’m just gonna not contact him anymore. I need to not have hope anymore because having hope just leads to disappointment.I am at the same point as you @nattycatty1. I’m just sick or wanting someone or being unhealthy sad about someone who doesn’t want me back it’s exhausting.
I honestly do not know how I’m gonna do this but I think I really need to try. I’m sorry you feel the same way.
It hasn’t been that long I don’t think since you guys have broken up and you haven’t actually tried to give a full 30 days of no contact to him it seems like. I’m not saying you’ll get you ex back but it isn’t hopeless. Just do the Nc for at least 30 days and if by then you decide you still wanna try then recontact him casually. But if you decide you actually don’t want to try anymore then you’ve gotten that far at least. Good luck no contact is super hard the first week I feel like then after that it gets a lot easier.Thank you @nattycatty1. I just can’t tell if they’re sincere or if he’s just answering out of pitty.
@nattycatty1 I will go take a look at your threads!
Thank you @lynnwrigley and I feel so stupid honestly for getting so upset because he did end up texting me back. I told him about the videos and then he said
“I wanna see!!(:”
And so I sent him some which led me to sending one VERY cute and happy video of us and he replied with a “awe haha@lynnwrigley
I’m so stupid I broke no contact. And I can’t stop crying. I heard he went to the emergency room and wanted to see if he was okay. So I texted him and then I asked if we were friends and he said yeah really happily and then I told him how I found some old funny videos and that me and his friend were laughing at them and he didn’t text me back. I feel so stupid and upset and like there’s no hope and I messed up. I need to just not have a cell phone I feel like ugh.
