Where do I go from here!?

Lol whoops sorry guys ! I’ve never actually been on a forum ever before ! My university has them for each subject but even then I never use them 😛 . I thought I was good at using the internet lol obviously not haha I have no idea how this stuff works. Lynnwrigley my post is in reconciliation (again whoops haha didn’t even occur to me, but then again reconciliation is the most active forum). Also Leslie, that seems like a really positive message you got back from your ex. Sending really cute videos and he wanted to see them and thought they were really cute is good! I wish my ex showed that kind of interest regarding how happy we used to be together ! I believe the fact he is interested in those great moments together is a really positive sign 🙂

I feel the same way about my ex. As though he’s responding and being there for me purely out of pity. However when I’ve sent cute nice things like that to my ex he’s just like “yeah that was good/nice” not ideal responses in my opinion. However he was interested in what you had to say and show rather than just ending the convo then and there. You two sound like you have some nice memories together especially if you have videos together, sounds lovely to me. I wish I had some really cute nice stuff like that with my ex, though it is good I don’t because I would find myself looking at them too much. I myself have given up completely on my ex 🙁 . Its very hard and sad for me to say that but its the truth. He doesn’t want us to have many happy memories together even as “friends” and I feel like he’s been pushing me to the point where I myself back off making it easy on him because he doesn’t have to back off. I believe you can keep going which is great and super positive as well :). Let me know how you’re managing to get through right now, I’m to the point where I’m so angry and disappointed in his behaviour where I have to do it out of respect for myself but it kills me 🙁

Well hey at least he responds 😛 unlike my old ex hey haha. But we are in the exact same boat it seems (though you’re doing a bit better I believe). I’ve tried to throw myself back out there and start chatting to guys again but I don’t know how I feel about it. I just feel sad I can’t wake up next to my ex each morning which was a great feeling. I know I should stop thinking like this but blah don’t know how haha.

I think you’ll be alright, I’m sure you have lots of activities you can throw yourself into right ? I feel like I don’t have that much at all and that drags me down even further unfortunately ! I did actually go to a clairvoyant yesterday which was interesting and very positive and helped me a bit surprisingly. He said he saw new love for me soon and that my ex may try and come back into my life. They were just a few things he said but I didn’t cry at all during my session and it sort of helped me. In my case though I think the 30 days is a bit late now to try and help me get back together with my ex which I am kicking myself for thats for sure. He just used me up til he was done with me emotionally :(. I’ve made too many mistakes to begin with, but you’re lucky cause you’ve made a few mistakes here and there (though I’m sure they seem major right?).

Its been 5 weeks today actually. We started out friends and I obviously begged and pleaded with him trying to convince him I’d changed, was overly emotional a lot, messaged him hear and there, then he decided he wanted a relationship again and would try anything to make it work then 5 days later changed his mind (I might have been a bit too intense) but we were happy during that time again. That was when he began growing more cold and distant, didn’t message me as often, just dirty messaged me and expected I would be FWB with him which he knew I didn’t want to do. And again only last week I was emotional with him again trying to convince him to give us another chance. So I’ve done everything wrong pretty much :/. He’s moved on and is using tinder regularly to try and pick up girls, snap chatting a new person somewhat regularly i think, or at least receiving them anyway. He also deleted my best friend off Facebook yesterday (not much I know) but he kept her on there and deleted me and all my other friends but has now deleted her 🙁

I think that since he broke up with you and you contacted him and all and he stll seems to be on the same place, you should move on, he might love you, but he doesnt seem to be making the right decisions, start the NC again, but dont think about it, concentrate on going to the gym, getting prettier for yourself, dating someone else, but never throw that on his face, its very immature. Just worry about yourself and your life. And then after the NC for 30 days see if he contacted you, if he did before, break the NC and try to take things lightly. But if he didnt, text him and see how it goes but if he doesnt make any moves, just move on. Its the best for you.

And that girl is nothing.. I am having three girls in my situation :p
Dont worry about her.