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Well instead of being a sad idiotic loser, I went to my hometown went out with a friend and I went to play bowling and “pool billiard” or whatever it’s called. I did lay out a picture on snapchat on mystory. And guess what, she looked at it hah. I think she keeps me on social media too keep tabs on me and see if I hang around with other girls. I didn’t do anything wrong did I? I used social media to my advantage, and she still looked at my snapchat to see what I was doing. I won’t get my hopes up about anything, but it does still mean something doesn’t it?
No,you did nothing wrong.Yeah,thats a good sign but don’t try to overanalyze it.You are doing well just keep it up and try to enjoy being single.
I don’t know how to enjoy being single when I want HER. If she finds out I’m talking to other girls etc I’m pretty sure I won’t have a chance in hell to get her back. But I’m also afraid that she’s talking to other boys, or already is on the merge of haven moved on and will soon date someone else.. These negative thoughts are fucking up my head, her girlfriends are party animals.. So I’m not sure what will happen :/
a.z
Remember that I’m the one who cheated. I want to show her that I regret it, and that I regret acting like a child and completely think only of myself after that I cheated and she accepted me back. I was acting like a child and I completely destroyed her within 2 months during the summer vacation.. You know the story.. And for 3 weeks even though I begged her, and I told her I wasn’t talking to other girls she couldn’t believe me.. Even told her I had deleted the girl she wanted me to stop talking to on facebook but I had forgotten that I had deleted her so she said I lied.. And she got mad… That was 2 weeks ago. I should give her time YES, I agree. But I shouldn’t like show her that I’m enjoying the single life.. Do you think that she is doing this to hurt me?
Honestly I feel like there is no hope at all.. She watches my snapchats on mystory but I think that’s just because she wants to know what I’m up too.
Should I make her jealous in some way? I know that she has, or is moving on. And I should do something that can attract her too me! Why hasn’t she deleted me on facebook, or instagram or snapchat for that matter? Is it because she thinks it’s immature or because she wants to see what I’m doing? Everyone is saying that being “MAD” is a good sign, but it doesn’t seem like it.. She was furious the last time I talked to her.. I’m on my 5th day of NC and this just keeps getting harder and harder. Is it when I move on that she comes back? What am I supposed to do? I don’t want to make her jealous, because then she will probably think that I’m still the one who cheated on her and that will just make my chances less wouldn’t it?
I won’t bump into her, that will be impossible, and we have no mutual friends, so how is it possible to attract her back to me?..
What I don’t get is that she hasn’t started following other guys on instagram or anything, I’m not sure if she talks to other boys on facebook or not.. I’m just so confused, I want her back.. Should I follow some girls on instagram? This could backfire couldn’t it? I know for a fact that she hates ONE girl that I kissed before I met her, should I follow her on instagram? I JUST NEED ADVICES, I’m honestly hopeless atm..
I want to seem like an Alpha which I were before, but I don’t want her to think that I’m dating other girls already, because that will blow my chances off…
Well some new updates…
2 days ago a random girl added me on facebook, she is in the same class as my ex. And I’ve only met that girl ONCE in my entire life with some couple friends last year.
She added me and I asked who she was and if I have had met her before, she said yes and that I’ve met her last year with a couple of friends. We discussed how we met and with whom and what happened etc. When I stopped answering her, my ex liked 2 of that girls pictures on instagram, started to follow her and even liked her picture on facebook.. This is how the conversation went:Me- “Hi, do I know you?”
Her- “Hahahahha I’ve met you once but besides that no”
Me- “Oh hah, okey. Where did you meet me? You know Simon? (Simon is a mutual friend on facebook)”
Her- “I am ‘Jamie’s best friend (the girl that added me first but that I didn’t accept until the girl I was talking to added me). She knows ‘Simon’. We met last year at burger king with a couple of my and your friends.
That time my friend kicked you and hit you”Me- “Ohyea! That’s true! I remember that, don’t have a clue what her problem was! Such an awkward situation”
Her- “Hahahahaha I didn’t know what happened first, but it was hilarious. Do you remember me?”
Me- ” Funny?… I got really hurt, like seriously.. She hit me in.. With her knee.. Without any reason. And yeah I remember you.
Her- “She goes to martial arts. But yeah she kicked you, and then you got friends again, and then she kicked you again.
And then you went, and me and my bestfriend Jamie went home.
I heard you guys went to a party after that (big emoji smiley icon)”Me- “She.. Is crazy.. Met her once after that episode and then she was nice towards me. Went to a party? No?” (We did go on a party, but I don’t even know HOW she figured that out or how she even thought about that now.. I’ve only met this girl ONCE without my ex being around, NEVER talked to her again before now.)
Her- “She has a bit of mood swings yeah. She is nicer to girls than boys though.
Yes, you, simon and kevin went to a party?”I didn’t talk to her after that.. I’m almost 70% sure my EX is behind this.. They go to the same class, they all of suddenly started to like each others pictures on instagram. AND my ex after 2 hrs I had the conversation with her friend, she changed her profile picture lol..
IS SHE BEHIND THIS? AND IF SO, why the hell is she doing this? Oh by the way, I went to a martial art class yesterday, and I put a picture on snapchat, and she viewed it straight away!I want you listen to me, clear. And let this sink in: YES. As in, 100% YES SHE’S STILL INTERESTED.
Like most of us on these forums, I, too, am going through a breakup. Just happened yesterday. Not as bad as yours; my girl just seemed to lose interest because I rested on my laurels too much, so she apparently got bored and told me she’d moved on. Now, I’m sure even you would tell me that I have an amazing chance to get back with her if she eventually sees the new and improved me and realizes how she threw away a great partner.
I’m telling you this because imagine: I’m dying to hear back from her. Even a sign that she’s still interested. But you, dude, you CHEATED on her and did a bunch of stupid things. You admitted it yourself. But the fact that after all that, she STILL looks at your social media profiles? Possibly even stalking you through another friend?
My God, man, how can you be so blind as to not see how much this chick still digs you! :))) Seriously, it doesn’t make sense for her to keep tabs on you because she thinks you’re insecure/moved on/etc. Let me tell you, girls don’t work like that. Heck, people don’t work like that. If they truly think you’re immature or pathetic, why bother wasting their time trying to know what you’re up to? Ever think about that? No, she’s obviously keeping tabs because like Kevin said, at this point in the NC, she’s getting curious about why you’re not running up to her doorstep crying for forgiveness. She realizes she’s losing the power over you. Her ego’s getting crushed. If anything, SHE’S probably the one being immature right now.
So basically, I want you to keep up what you’re doing: continue the NC, continue to let her be curious, but NEVER draw attention to yourself. Just live your life. Think of it like this: the more you grow through this absence, the more you become a magnet to her. But it only works if you improve for YOURSELF; not because you just want to get with her again. You lucky, lucky dude. If I found out my ex was still checking my profile now, I’d be ecstatic, and my situation’s not even as bad as yours. You ought to be celebrating, man. :))
All joking aside, please, have faith and keep it up. You’re exhibiting typical breakup behavior in that you’re overanalyzing and making clearly illogical judgements on her actions. Take the word of us commenters who aren’t emotionally wrecked from this situation. Finish the three months (or even less, considering her very suspicious behavior) of NC and watch the magic happen. 😉
@clear
You’re doing great you just need to keep up on the no contact and try working on yourself. It’s funny your guys’s relationship was almost just like mine and my ex. First of everything together. We were together for 2 years. Went way too serious had sleepovers 24/7 same school everything. So trust me I know how hard this is. I hurt everyday too and I wish I knew how to take the pain away.
But you need to just follow Kevin’s plan. It may look like there’s no hope some days but there is. Don’t get our hopes up but also if you really love her do not give up. You need to work on yourself and show her how happy and confident you are. Show her the guy she fell in love with at first. Go workout or do something good for yourself. You can do this. I agree with everything @a.z. And @lynnwrigley is saying!
If you could maybe please check out my threads and helpe out with some advise it would mean so much. Is crazy how similar out relationships were.
I understand how it’s so hard to believe that your ex seems perfectly fine how could they move on or be ok that fast? Cause my ex is doing the same thing.And this is where I’m sort of stuck and where I’m at. Do I have any hope?
Well I’m trying my best on the NC contact thing. I’m thinking of not liking anything or follow anyone or lay out anything on snapchat for a while, to make her even more curious? SHE has been doing it for 2 days now. I took a picture and laid it out on snapchat yesterday that I was in the bus late at night, and she viewed it STRAIGHT away. I tried to contact her friend again asked her
“Why do you ask? :)” and now she isn’t responding me lol.. Seems like my ex has told her to not talk or respond to me anymore, I don’t get it. I ignored her friend for almost 3-4 days and now it seems like she is trying to ignore me.I want to get her attention so she starts to talk with me, I want HER to break contact but how is that possible? Should I just stop talking to her friend? that is if she does respond.. She still hasn’t responded and I sent that message yesterday. I’m on day 9 of NC and it’s so freaking hard..
Hey @clear,
From what I’ve read, I think she really is still interested in you. I’m also a girl and I’m also 18 years old so I think I can relate to her. If she’s still checking you out on social medias there’s a huge chance that she’s still not over you. She’s probably just waiting for you to post stuffs on your snapchat, facebook etc just to see how you’re doing. Sometimes when girls get too hurt, they need a break. Sometimes a few days, sometimes a week, depends on what kind of girl she is and how hurt she is. I think she really is hurt from the things you did and she’s still confused and what she should do.
She gets jealous when you’re around other girls and I think that is a good sign because girls get jealous usually because they still have feelings for the guy. But, there’s also a downside to that. She might feel like the other girl is a threat to her and she’ll run to you back and make up or she’ll feel brokenhearted that you’re talking to another girl and she’ll feel like you moved on and she needs to move on to. The key is to not make her too jealous or you might lose her. Just be positive. Smile and show your good side when she’s around. Try not to hang out with other girls since for now, I don’t think it’s a good idea. You absolutely have a chance to win her back and get back together. She obviously still wants you. Maybe try to give her a few days and then try to slowly make contact with her and check up on her. Just make her feel like you still care about her, you still love her and you are always there for her. Do stuffs that will move her and will make her come to her senses, I know you can get her back, just have to make sure you do the right things.Good luck anyway, update me on your story anytime, I’ll be here for you 🙂p/s : Mind reading my story? I need some advice too. Hope you can give me your thoughts on it, thanks 🙂
3-4 days ago she changed her profile picture on facebook. Last night she blew out on social medias after being inactive for almost 2 days. She got tagged in 3 pictures of her and her girlfriends on a training picture from the sport she is on and she laid out 2 videos on snapchat “mystory” before that which is sooo unlike her! Never seen her put anything out there (snapchat), and I still haven’t watched her mystory yet. Is this a good thing or should I watch it? I feel like she already is moving on, I’m not sure what to feel or what to think. I just want her back and each and everyday of the NC it gets harder and harder I’m on 10th day of my NC.
When should I contact her? I think that she really still is mad with me, but she seems like she’s having a good time with her girl friends.. And is she trying to get my attention by putting those videos on snapchat? I haven’t viewed them yet.. What should I do?……..
You all say that she is interested, but how can I keep her interested on NC? I don’t want her to forget me or move on.. I want her to remember my good qualities. I don’t think she’ll contact me during NC, that’s so unlikely. I really think that she’s having the time of her life without me. Remember she told me that she didn’t trust me, that she wanted me but I had hurt her and she didn’t trust me at all. So a jealousy game with her isn’t a good game.. At least I can’t make her jealous with other girls, so how can I make her jealous and want me back?
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