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I don’t think if hey,how is it going is a good way to try.I personally ignore this kinda texts no matter how much I like to talk to that person.And you don’t have to text her again when she doesn’t answer your call.Its kinda nonsense.You should wait at least four days before you contact her again.
Or,you can say something like this, Hey I wanted to call you earlier but I thought both of us needed some space to move on and I didn’t want to make you feel uncomfortable so I hope we can be friends again when you think you are ready.I’m sorry if I ever acted crazy and I really wish you all the best.
What do you think?
Sorry for the late reply I was at work!
I thought about it. And I’m going to call her first, if she doesn’t answer then I’ll wait 4 days and try again. Then I’ll send her the text! But I kinda feel like to write this instead:
“Hey I wanted to call you earlier but I thought both of us needed some space to move on and I didn’t want to make you feel uncomfortable. How are you doing?”
What do you think? I feel like a question has to be in there somewhere, or else there is no point for her to send me an answer back is it?
WEEEEEEEEELLLLLL.. Fucking hell. She’s trying to make me jealous..
She updated her profile on tinder and said “Need help with homework! ;*” like with a kiss emoji. I have no idea what’s gotten into her, but she’s trying to get me so jealous, and it’s so obvious.. Her tinder profile keeps popping up, I’m not even stalking her or anything..but did I make her too jealous? and now it’s backfiring?You know, man, I actually suggest you continue to NC. I’m sure you’re more than ready to restart your relationship if she came around, but that’s the problem, ain’t it? She’s still “stubborn”.
Something in the tone of your latest posts makes it sound like you think it’s your job to bring her to her senses. Remember that you’re supposed to be accepting the possibility that you’re no longer together. Live your own life and stop trying to make her jealous (a very passive-aggressive tactic) or scheming to fix this “stubborn” girl. Right now, it seems like the only choice is her’s, not yours. Like I said before, having changed your passwords, you’ve deprived her of her power over you. All you have to do is wait.
You seem to be ready to move on with her life; she clearly doesn’t. Therefore, NC’ing will only bring about one of two things: either she moves on as well, or she finally breaks and contacts you. Considering her behavior so far, contacting her again or passive-aggressively obsessing and sending messages over social media won’t do you guys any good. Trust me.
No you didn’t and no its not.You’re not stalking her but stop checking your profiles,accounts etc for a little while.You really need to keep your mind off her for a little while.
Well. Tried to call her obviously got blocked number. Saw she was online on skype, sent her a message. Asking,
“hey do you have time?” then she went straight offline.
17 minutes later she got back online and said
“what is it?”
then I said “how’s it going with you?”
and she replied “it goes well”
and I said “well that’s good, how’s school going?”
she said “goes well there too”
then I said “how is it going with (‘her sport’) and everything?
then she said “good”
and then I said “that’s good, but I’m going to sleep now, good night :)”AND boom she deleted me off skype.. What the hell is going on?..
That was not the best conversation you could have had with her. It would have been better if you brought up something else instead of straight up asking how she’s been doing. But anyway, you will not get anything out of her anytime soon from the way she acted. Start the NC and do it 2-3 months at least. Start dating other girls and have fun and some perspective. You need to get your head off of your ex. This obsession will go nowhere, you’re only doing bad to yourself. In mean time, if you still want her in any form, do not attempt making her jealous. Sending messages via social media is pretty immature and she will sense it immediately.
Yeah I guess so. But this is how the conversation went and there isn’t really anything else I can do about it now. I don’t get why she’s still acting this way…. So immature.. But I guess this is what teenage girls do? I don’t really get why she deleted me straight after I said goodnight was she expecting and apology?
I was thinking of writing this on facebook to her and then completely do NC for about 3-6 months.
“Hey, the thing that I really wanted to say on skype yesterday was that I wanted to say that I’m sorry for how I acted both before and after the relationship. I haven’t contacted you earlier because I felt like we both needed some time on our own. I’m sorry that I put all that pressure on you, that I’ve put the pressure on you to make me feel happy when it was something I should of worked on myself. I really care about you, and I wish nothing else than that you’re doing good. I hope we can talk to each other again once you feel doing so”
any thoughts? a.z?
I sent it. Now I’m off the boards for a while to collect myself again, thanks for all the advices. I feel okay with stuff and I will continue working on myself, I wish you all the best and I hope I can see a lot of reconciliation stories once in a while when I check in!
So a little update.
She logged into my instagram and twitter, and she had tried to log into my skype as well.. I had gotten logged out both on twitter and instagram, so I thought maybe I should check if my skype was also affected by this. I wrote the wrong password 2 times and then it said “you’ve written the wrong password to many times, please do this blabla”.. So obviously she tried, but failed because of the password..
No response from her whatsoever after the message I sent her on facebook. Her little brother has deleted me on snapchat but still views “mystory”. I don’t get her behaviour, she likes stupid romantic love songs, write tweets like “application for this spot is open” and there is a picture of a boy and a girl laying in bed together.. Anyways.. Where should I take it from here?
Obsessing? I’m talking with other girls 24/7, having fun with friends and everything. I’m not obsessing, she’s the one that logs into my accounts lmfao.. I’m just trying to figure out her stupid behavior. So what do you mean by “stop obsessing”? What does that comment contribute too?
She seems to still care for you if she is logging into your accounts and getting so upset. I feel that if you talk to so many girls 24/7 it’s going to back fire. You shouldn’t be extremely available to her but you shouldn’t make it seem like you have moved on completely if your goal is to get her back. Maybe do NC for a little longer and then when you talk to her again instead of asking how things are going, tell her about things you’ve done, like if you’ve done something different or seen a new movie or something or remind her of things you have done together, but be very subtle! She seems to be taking it hard as well and she might even be doing something similar to what your doing! It would be nice to get an update!
Also, please reply to my situation as well I would love any advice!
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