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I’m so freaking mad… Like all this time she’ve known exactly every single one of my motives. She knows I haven’t moved on at all.. And that all other girls doesn’t mean shit. This just fucking makes me so mad.. Now I know the reason why she hasn’t contacted me, because she’ve had everything in front of her.. I don’t really think NC will do any good, this girl is seriously crazy.. I need to confront her about this. She has fucking gone into my private life for so long even though we were broken up! I’m going to call her, and if she fucking doesn’t answer I’ll talk to her mom about this. I’m so mad, knowing that she has gone and read everything on my skype.. It’s so fucking manipulative!
I understand your mad but you never changed your password so in part you also have some fault. also if you want her back telling her off or telling her mom wont help at all. yes she shouldnt have done what she did and I feel your pain but look at it this way, if she didnt care about you why else would she try to see what you were up to and things like that. if you want to confront her do it when you’ve calmed down so you wont say things you’ll regret later on. so think about what it is you want to say. to be honest with you I still feel like you have a chance of getting her back and more now that you know what shes been doing. I think you need to change your plan around some and go from there. you can do this. good luck. 🙂
If it is not too late, I second what @Bullmoose said. Go absolute cold turkey this time. And you don’t need any plan whatsoever. She invaded your privacy for a reason. It is so rude, and you are right to be mad but that is also the sign you are on her mind so much that she’s wondering what you’re doing and going to lengths even she’d admit risky for her. A ballsy move.
But once you change your passwords and go absolute NC again, this time she will realize you actually gave up on pursuing her. She will go crazy wondering why and reach out to you sooner rather than later.
If you still want this girl, this seems to be your best option.
I agree with the last two comments,
She has been logging in to feel close to you, because she misses you. You should take that as a win! I understand your mad.
Just NC for 30 days, I telling you she will contact you before your days are up…
So a little update.
I haven’t contacted her yet. I’m kind of in doubts that she did check out my skype etc (but I’m pretty sure she did, she checked my twitter and instagram and I had the same password on both, so I’m pretty sure she checked out my skype as well). But I won’t confront her about it.I went out on saturday on a party and I put a video on instagram ever since I put that up she’s been acting out weird on social medias. Liking pictures of “fit guys” and stuff. I think she’s trying to make me jealous. I’ve gotten a ton of attention from girls, I’ve gotten like 20 new GIRL followers and I’ve liked some of their pictures. Etc so I guess she’s seen the video and that I’ve gotten new girl followers etc and she’s gotten jealous(?) so she’s trying to make me jealous as well? Ever since I changed the password and gotten new followers as well as following other girls she’ve been acting a bit weird on social medias. Do you all recommend that I go NC? It’s been over 2 months now.. Reached out once with that text but that’s about it. Should I keep nc? I want to call her or something soon, as I don’t want her to drift away from me. I’m also not 100% sure about the skype thing, so I’ll just pretend it hasn’t happened.
Also this girl is REAAAALLY freaking stubborn! I don’t think she’ll contact me to be honest.
Hey,
Continue NC for another month and act normal.Do not stalk her on social media or anything it only freaks you out.Now that you have changed your password,don’t say anything about it to her cuz she won’t admit it.
Don’t overreact,don’t show jealousy and don’t try to make her jealous.Just be normal,show her that you are having a great time but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are busy with women.Here is a checklist for ending No Contact:
-You followed the no contact rule for at least one month.
-You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup.
-You have made a few positive changes in your life.
-You are absolutely sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
-You have gone on at least one date during no contact.
-You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you.
-You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.Remember,the most important part of NC is about you not your ex.Once you think you are ready,go ahead and contact her.
Best of Luck
A.z
I’ve done NC for more than 2 months, I broke it once by sending her this text
“Hey, I just the new trailer for “****” and it reminded me of the time when we went to the cinema with your mom”. That was on day 38 of NC. And I haven’t contacted her since then. I feel ready, and I’ve grown so much, developed so much. I have no problem doing NC for one more month or contact her tomorrow, I just don’t want to mess anything up that’s it. I’ve tried to make her a bit jealous but I think the more jealous I make her the more it backfires. And I’ve done everything on the checklist. All I need to know now is if I should do NC for 1 more month, which will be 3 months in total, or if I should contact her now? I feel ready and I’m ready to handle things.If you contact her now,she may think you are doing this because she made you do this,or she may think you are affected (If you think she is trying to make you jealous or if she checked your Skype etc ).Thats why I suggest you not to show any reaction for now.Just wait a little while before you contact her.
Okay, I’ll do that. I’ll just stay on NC for a while longer. Thank you a.z! I hope you you can follow my posts a bit and give me advices hah, you seem to know everything!
She’ve started getting active on tinder again (dating app), she wasn’t active on that app for almost 8 days or something, but right after when I made her jealous (I guess) she started to get active on tinder. I know this isn’t so much to concern myself about, but I feel like it’s time to contact her again. She’s a stubborn girl, and there is no way she’ll contact me first.. And I don’t really think it’s necessary for me to wait any longer to contact her. I need some advices on what I should talk to her about, and I’ll probably call her. And if she doesn’t answer then send a text? Need some advices. I’m getting tired of NC..
Hey,
Thats why you don’t have to stalk her.Everything can freak you out when you are doing NC.I really suggest you to continue NC for a little while.Trust me,its all about you.You should feel totally ok before contacting her.but its your decision to make and if you want to contact her,be cool and confident and control your emotions.
Everything you say/send to her,should be bliss reminder.It doesn’t have to be anything emotional,getting back together etc.I know NC is all about me, and I’m more than ready to handle my ex. I’ve done everything the 5step plan has told me to do. I’ve gotten my life on track, made a ton of new improvements and I’ve changed ( everyone else keeps telling me this as well ).
I know I can’t talk about anything emotional or getting back together, but I need to be able to find out what I should talk to her about, that’s about it. I’m almost 75% sure she won’t pick up the phone though.. She’s such a weird and stubborn person lol..If you think she won’t pick up then don’t call her.You can use one of the text versions mentioned in the article.
I used this one last time “Hey, I just saw the trailer of this move “name of the movie” and it reminded me of the episode with your mom when we went to the cinema.”
And 2 hrs after I sent her that she removed me from snapchat hah.. So I really don’t think those text versions work.. I think calling her is the best thing, and if she doesn’t respond then I’ll just send her a text and say “hey, can we talk?” or “hey, how is it going?” What do you think a.z?
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