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I’ll try my best, but it is so hard trying to not think about her..
She’s really stubborn, and her whole family and friends support her breaking up with me, should I even keep my hopes up? Her friends and family mean a lot to her, so they can easily affect her decision.. I really love this girl and I only want her.. But I’m afraid that I have really thrown her off the cliff with all of my begging, being so needy, writing her a 8 page letter declaring my love and that I brought her roses plus candy that she didn’t even want to accept. She was so furious, is it a good sign that she was mad at me?.. And she called me pathetic etc..Clear,
It’s clear that you need to follow through with NC for 30 days. You need to focus on yourself and your own life. Your emotions need to stabilize. Hang in there and deep breaths (0:@lynnwrigley
I know.. But I miss her so much, all the memories, everything.. It’s so not like her to drop everything so fast.. It’s like she completely changed. Everyone is saying that she is doing good though, like her mother told me she was sleeping well and everything. It seems like she seriously has gotten over me.. And I don’t know anymore, it’s so hard and it hurts so much. I only want her, no matter what.. But I feel like I pushed her way to far, like if I pushed her off the cliff..I understand it’s hard – believe me (I am on day 21 of no contact)! You really need to give this a try though, you know? It’s the ONLY thing you haven’t tried!! Think about that!!!!
What you tried wasn’t working so, try Kevin’s plan! I mean, that IS why we are all here right? I say that sincerely.
I understand it’s so hard though – the pain – the anxiety. I so so so get it. You will empower yourself though.
Kevin’s plan works! So, you have a plan in front of you that is proven to work. Why don’t you just try it? I would do NC with her mom too – her whole family. Just try – 30 days!
I guess you’re right, I don’t have any options at all.. I’m just so afraid that she’ll move on, or that she has already moved on and that scares me really.. She was the one I wanted to be with for the rest of my life, she told me I was the one too.. So hard knowing that 2 months destroyed a 2 year relationship.. If I only had done NC right away before begging and doing all the stuff it would of made me more attractive and I’m sure she’d be with me again now..
I honestly and truly do not think you are too late at all. I think personally that following this plan? I think you have a shot. And I am not just saying that. I think it will throw her for a complete loop. Your challenge is in following the plan. Who cares what you ‘did’ – you have a new chance to start today. NC with her or her family – you know what to do b/c its’ all written down for us. Trust me, I am going through the same thing – exactly -I have followed the plan for 21 days and still no contact. It’s excruciating – painful – awful – ugh! I get it!!!!
You really owe it to yourself to follow the plan! You will be a much better boyfriend to her when you do get her back. I would really not talk to her family either – just follow the gameplan. You CAN do this!!!
You never know until you try!
Here was my own question about my situation, please let me know! https://ebpforums.com/boards/topic/mailing-belongings/#post-8100
Your post gave me some hope.. I hope that she realizes that I truly loved her but that I just had a fucked up 2 month period.. And I hope that she will contact me soon. She is still mad at me, so maybe when she has calmed down she will regret her decision and try to talk with me? Because I didn’t get mad at her or anything even though that she shouted at my face telling me a lot of shit the day I tried to make up for her.. It felt like she really meant what she said though so yeah, I don’t know.. NC is the only thing I can do.. She hasn’t deleted me off facebook yet, nor snapchat or instagram.. Maybe she wants to keep tabs on me? And see what I’m up too? I can use this to my advantage, but it can backfire if I do it stupidly.. THIS IS A GAME OF CHESS. Honestly hate the games girls sometime play..
This is why I think you have a chance. When someone is mad (aka her) and you are calling/texting, it gives her this sense of control (trust me, I am a woman and it’s true). So, she knows you are in her back pocket and it will make her extend this whole long breakup.
So, now you are going to follow through on NC but you really need to do it with her WHOLE family – literally do NOT answer your phone. If I can do this? YOU can do this (trust me).
So, you literally do the NC – you follow the plan – but you do everything in your power to focus on YOU. I think you are like the ideal person for Kevin’s plan – you just have to somehow find the strength to follow it. You want to be a strong guy in general – you really have to do this!
She WILL contact you at some point but where you have to stay is THE PLAN – Kevin’s plan. Do not respond to her. If anyone asks you about her be pleasant and cool- ‘we went our separate ways’.
You need to do this for yourself. When you start to focus on YOU, your confidence will go up too – and I am telling you, she is going to come a runnin’.
The key will be too not talking about her at all to anyone where it can get back to her.
You want this girl back? This is how you do it.
Omg! I’ll do exactly as you say :)! 2nd day of NC, I’ll just focus on myself and not talk about her at all to anyone!
I’m telling you- she will come running. It may not be the first two weeks but she will come back. I’m a girl. I can close to guarantee it. If you are asked about her? Be calm- cool. If she knows you are doing this to get her back, she will keep at it.
Here are all the links I’ve written about her on this forum I think
After reading both of those threads and this thread you still have hope for my case?
Okay thank you soooo much! 😀 I’ll keep you updated on progress! This really means a lot, I got a lot of hope from you today! Thank you!
I’m losing hope.. This is so hard.. I should try to move on, but I want her so much that it hurts, and I only think about if she really wants me back too.. She still hasn’t done anything to get rid of me on social media, what does this indicate? I’m just so sad, I want her back as fast as possible and I’m so afraid that she will find someone else..
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