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Steve, in my experiences best thing is no contact for at least 2 months. I know it’s hard but what you gonna do.

They need to dry out for awhile, mostly shedding the “hate” or disappointment. And contacting them in that time frame is pointless.

You could say whatever, and they like it secretly knowing how you feel, but they’ll be stubborn and stand firm.

Until they get weak, with the constant build up of thoughts and memories popping up in their head and contact you one lonely night.

My ex contacted me 7 months down. Past 4 months on and off contact. I put my foot down NC 3weeks ago because she’s either hot or cold. Wanting to meet up, then backing out saying all she wants is “closure” So I’m going NC.

Hey Mordecai,

Sorry should clarify. I didn’t realise my last reply had gotten so long, sorry folks, amazing what I can type/dribble about the situation. At this stage I am doing NC with the intentions of it being permanently. Just maybe in November I may reach out, but I wont be waiting around for my Ex during this time. I plan to move on with my life

Steve, yeah I understand lol. I could also blabber on about the situation.

If it wasn’t complex or complicated, it would be 2 sentences.

I agree about not waiting for the ex and moving on.

Personally, what I could carry with me is the experience. And I’m not talking baggage.

Only reason I’ve been struggling, or at least enough where I’m trying to come to terms is my ex contacted me 9 months down. These past 4 months while in on and off contact with her screwed with my head.

I actually hope she doesn’t contact me again. I’m contempt how it left off 3 weeks ago when I last spoke to her.

Hello my Oldies 🙂

I’m doing NC again because I can’t stand to have the ball in his court all the time. So I pledge not to text unless he goes first (even then, I might ignore the first few). But I will text him before I move back to Syd around xmas time in hope things would change by then. When I read sentences like ‘my ex contacted me 7 or 9 months down it gives me bit of hope 🙂 …

Steve, you’re doing great and I love how stable you are with your feelings. I love nothing more than a man who knows what he wants and where he stands in life relationship wise, career wise etc… You seem to have EVERYTHING going for you and I can’t think enough what a loss your ex must be going through by leaving you… I believe she’s made an irrational decision the poor thing.

So, no boyfriend for me for at least one year and though I’ve only been in the one relationship in my life I’d like to think that jumping into new relationship while my heart hasn’t completely 200% healed is very very wrong! I want to live right and respectful to attract someone I deserve to share my entire life with.

I’m really sorry peeps for blabbing about my life situation so much in the past few days. I Know we’re all going through it but I feel blessed to have you here for support… All my love to all of you here xxx

Rihanna,

To my best knowledge, you had 2 or 3 relationships so far. One, at the age of 21 when you go married and one now. There was another one which you once said that was completely platonic and kind of LDR (I’m not sure about this one)!

Hey Dara, the marriage at 21 which was COMPLETELY platonic and my current ex whom I had my first sexual experience with is all the relationships I had and will have… I’ve had enough heart aches… How are you, you’ve been feeling bit down which is hard to hear from you… How you doing

I don’t know what’s worse, having the break up in May (whole summer ahead nice weather, out and about dating shabang)

Or fall (more honkered down indoors cold)

My break up happened last September.

For me, I was so bitter that I was glad it happened in the fall. But it doesn’t matter really. I was out almost every night in the fall and winter and met a lot of women. And the winter by me was one of the worst on record. It practically snowed everyday with subzero temperatures. It was unheard of.

Anyway, I’m sure there was obviously opportunities for my ex too. I just remember she was always soooo glad it was summer and always be out. So I’m leaning towards summer as being the worst for a break up. For me personally.

I could enjoy myself in the winter or summer so it doesn’t matter on my side.

Hey Khine,

I’m doing NC too (AGAIN!) and this time not sure til when basically until he calls me and not sure when that will happen… Also I still have my stuff with me cos when I moved states I left things with him and I hope he’s looking after them for the next several months until I go back there. Anyway, this forum is really good cos we’re all friends here and we help each other in times of need. Raed and a.z are particularly good because a/z is almost always here she’s great! and Raed gives the most accurate bluntest advice but in general everyone here is fantastic!

Mordeica, Spring is around the corner and I’m feeling particularly low cos we used to spend beautiful sunny days together practically wandering around everywhere… But the season doesn’t matter so much when the heart feels heavy. I feel better every time I think of my life goals and that I’ll be ok at least… I also met Steve here and he is a kind soul.

WE should have a forum called “everything you want to say to your ex” and have us say the things we want to tell our exes but we never had the chance to do it, it would be good way to vent out and let things off our chests…

Ok, I know everyone here is so fast with responses and when I come here every body disappears haha!

I love you all, I hope you’re keeping your heads held high 🙂 xx