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thanks guys, 🙂 divjun what are the mix signals hes sending me? Im thinking already after today of doing full blown no contact. I just talked to my youngest and he was on his phone. :'( my youngest didnt know who he was talking to either. anyways she wanted me to go and I wanted to go skating but he said he would mine if I go to the skating rink. so I said I’ll respect his wishes. I feel so sad. :'( but yes I’ve apply in a lot of places like crazy and am going to keep applying. I hate that I cant even land a job. I however am going to keep looking till I find one and Im going to continue to try to get a home and get my stuff together, they were my plans and i thought the same way he may see me getting my shit together and may change his mind. if anything at least i’ll get my stuff together if i dont get him back. I was hoping this wouldnt happen. Im not signing those papers and giving him an easy out. I feel like hes talking to that stupid cousin of mine and I feel like shes one of the reasons hes not trying to get back with me. how can he go there like he knew these people forever when he would barley talk to these people? know hes hanging out with them is hurting me a lot. why is he doing that. divjun what are the mix signals hes giving me I dont see them but in a way still sense him angry but by what he was saying he sounded indifferent as he said he wasnt mad anymore and already forgot about me and doesnt feel anything for me but then he gets mad later on telling me about go with those guys ect. also he did say maybe in the future and mention friendship again but doesnt even want me next to him. wtf? im so confused with this situation. does it sound like he still has feeling for me even though hes saying what hes saying? im so hurt and miss him and love him so much. 🙁 I think his cousin wants to talk to him. I trust her a lot and he loves her like a sister. shes gonna see if he opens up. shes the only one that even mention about it since she knows how I feel. I guess to try to help me better, idk, he hasnt talked to her in a while though. I really miss him so much. I wish it was her the person who he was talking to, but I’ll have to ask her. I love him so much. so yeah I guess no contact unless he invites me to thanksgiving dinner lol unless he goes to my stupid cousins house or something. thanks guys for all your help. 🙂 if it wasnt for you guys idk where I would have been. Im still depress but I have a fight to win. :-/ I really hope you guys get your ex’s back. 🙂 and I’ll be wishfull hoping to have him back. thanks 🙂
well he is cheating. his mother called him telling him everything about me crying and all. he took my youngest to those peoples house. that bitch gave my youngest a gift. and apparently everyone is all happy. a little girl told my daughter that they kissed on the lips in the dark. (maybe it wasnt today but another day) anyways he kissed them the bitch cousin and her sister in law on the cheeck. now it makes sense why he didnt want me to tag along. im so hurt. he wanted to talk to me but I said no. he knows my number and can text or call me whenever. anyways he told his stupid mother that if I had any questions and wanted to know anything to call him and ask or whatever. why the fuck is all this happening to me. his mother told him what I said that kids dont lie and he started laughing on the phone she said why are you laughing and she said oh because its a lie. this is bullshit. Im never ever ever getting my husband back and he doesnt care and she is the biggest bitch ever. I know his mother is not only going to tell him every move I make but everything she sees hears everything. im so hurt. he was also supposedly drinking with her father. wtf? but he doesnt want him in his house so they go to her brothers, everyone in my family knows about this and they most of them are hypocrites but now im a talked about laughing stalk and they are getting what they want. yesterday he told his mom supposedly they know hes a hard worker and they invited him over there. anyone I feel so desperate and dont know what to do or how to act. I told his mom I dont ever ever ever want my kids next to those people ever again. he said ok to her. I’ve officially lost my husband to this stupid cousin who I’ve heard her husband left her because she cheated on him and she lied saying they separated because they said they were never gonna cheat so they split and supposedly she left him. wtf? can anyone give me adivse. I dont and wont talk to him he wants the divorce. he told my oldest this is the way its gonna be for now on. he lied to me and said he was gonna bring a cake to sing happy birthday and he didnt. he was in my room for a few minutes today looking at me. I was laying down acting like i was sleeping. they are buying my youngest with gifts and I wanna get rid of it but she likes it. please help. thanks
Hi, aamls. Just let him be and create a life for you and your kids that you can enjoy. He is going to still need to help you with money and child support. I don’t know what kind of lawyer he had draw up the papers, but he should be paying something IF you do end up getting a divorce. You may want to have a lawyer of your own look at the papers that IF you end up signing them you know what is in there. I am not a legal professional. But I think you need one. I know that you don’t have a job or money, but there should be some way to get legal help for not much money. in your area. Ask at the library if they know of anything.
He definitely still has some feelings for you otherwise he wouldn’t be so emotional about this process. AS hard as it is for the kids, it is probably a good thing that he doesn’t want you going to stuff because that means it is hard for him to be around you. If he didn’t care, then it would be easy for him. And he wouldn’t care if you were there or not. You know what I mean?
Also, God can always restore a marriage. You shouldn’t be talking to your husband about being christian. You can talk to God about your husband.
btw he took my youngest out all day and brought her home late I didnt get to celebrate with her at all because of him im her mother and I needed to be there not this shit going on anyone please help thanks
You have got to find a way to plan these activities with him for the sake of the kids.
my opinion hes being selfish. he should have thought of my youngest and not his selfishness and hes hurting all of us hes so selfish. :'( and thanks sunshine for replying. I hate how all of this shit. he said today earlier that we need to plan this shit out I hate this why doesnt he come back? also he said that a party we could be together but other stuff no and he told my oldest its the way its gonna be for now on. this is bullshit. my youngest is hurting atm because she wanted us to celebrate today together. but she was happy before. im so stressed with this shit and I see no way in hell how this is ever going to fix itself out and funny thing is he knows about these people and how they treated me and he would avoid them before and now he turned into one of those types of people. shit. wtf. and my family the ones who agree that what they are doing is wrong which is a small part is saying that they are wrong and that they’ve told me and that I already knew about this going on. Im so hurt and confused and of course his mother is siding with him another laughing stalk. she said she loves him when she hung up. the fuck? ugh
his mothers a bitch. i feel like im going crazy. anyways she told my oldest to call her father when I got hysterical I feel like confronting her but its not a good idea. shes a bitch. idk what to do about all of this and no one knows what to tell me. she told him I follow her downstairs which I did and she said my name and said you scared me. and said my name for my husband to know I was there. who knows what they are telling eachother on the phone when they talk and of course shes a liar and just as bad as all of these stupid people. I wish I could move very far away but with this shit divorce going on I cant and on top of that after up to 52 miles only which aint fair. I would take my kids with me really far away and he can accuse me of kidnapping or whatever its is. I need to do me and my life. ugh
hey everyone supposedly he told his mother that if i had any questions or wanted to know anything to ask him. im so stressed. this stupid cousin is “nice” and thats what he liked her stupid ass would listen to him about “our” issues and this bitch said that if someone needs help shes going to “help” them and not turn her back to them but why didnt she “help” me her cousin instead? why am I losing my husband to this bitch. im so sad alone stressed overwhelm. he doesnt let me by him to create bliss moments. :'( how will I ever get him back, this bitch is ocd so keeps everything really clean, which he likes, she also knows how to cook better then me, this bitch also makes and decorates cakes and cupcakes. she also buys expensive stuff and gifts expensive stuff. and is always calm and “nice” and listens to him. how can I compete with that bitch? im feel helpless and I want my husband back. her dad by the way works with witch craft. and theres this one guy I know as well whos does strong stuff and everything started getting bad since he came into our lives. she probably liked how my husband also was saying shit to her. they like how hes a hard worker. i helped him become who he is. i really want him back idk what to do. :'( anyone? i feel so desperate. thanks btw he doesnt even call or text me at all. :'(
btw is my stupid cousin his rebound and he hers? Im scared this shit is getting very serious since hes hanging out at her brothers house. anyone. thanks
Wow .. that’s a bad thing to hear 🙁
I agree with duvjun .. you have to do a strict NC and you have to find a job 🙁 .. and you have to prove that you have changed ..
I hope you will get him soon .. just don’t lose hope .. and stay strong 🙂Guess what. My car won’t start a d I’m gonna have to call him. Fuck. Idk what else to do and I’m stranded in a park. To top things off I’m not sure how I’m gonna get my kids from school n take them to school this whole week. Fuck. Man I just heard this song he use to listen to a lot. What am I supposed to do. Can it get any worse? Any advice. Thanks
Can’t you call anyone else?
A friend or your sister or brother? !
And about the kids .. you can tell his mother about this .. and ask her to tell him that he has to take them to school and stuff .. I mean they’re his kids too .. don’t worry 🙂I’m trying to call around and everyone is busy or doing something. Is it meant to see him. Also I was thinking and even if he is with her he’ll remember me. She may be shorter then him I’m taller she may have lighter eyes n hair then me but she will have similiraties that I’m sure he will have to find and remember me by right? I miss him.:-( :'(
You have to stop comparing yourself to her .. you are still his first love and you are the 12 years love of his life “12 years .. right? “.. I don’t know if she is a rebound .. but I think she may be .. I know it’s hard for you .. but just try not to contact him 🙁 .. ok?
Stay strong 🙂
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