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Well just work on yourself i remember the first week and a half were very hard for me but i kept moving, then i started meeting other girls and going out with friends it helped me change my mind, of course time went by slow
but in the end your still in his mind and if you stop talking and reaching out he will realise, if you start showing that you moved on he will want his “toy” back because right now you are still under his thumb and he knows it. If you become indiferent and independant he will see what he lost and will start thinking of you
In the mean time do a 30 to 45 day NC and work on yourself become a bettter you, because even if you dont get him back (i know you and i realy want them back) you will be better with yourself and probably will find someone that is better suited for you.
What are interesting subjects? any ideas you can give me? @aryyan
He probably will, my ex contacted me on the last week of NC like after 20 days.
And i have difficulty making my convos interesting :/ i know everything about her, its not like the first time where you get to know each other its much different now.
Hi,
well im in the same boat as you are right now, my ex did the same thing and we were together for the same time as you and your ex.
all i can suggest you to do is a full 30 day NC and if you cant complete the check list that kevin mentions on step 3 or 4 well i suggest you give yourself 15 more days!
the goal of NC is to take care of yourself, now i know its hard but you’ve got to stop checking up on them, stalking them wont help like not at all!
if its too hard just unfollow him and his GF on Facebook, twitter and any other type of social media so that you can heal better. because no offence but you are not the most attractive person right now to him, not because of your looks but the way you appear, your confidence and independance are missing :/
i went threw the whole 30 days and just started talking to my ex, she is distant but answers within 2 minutes and keeps the same size texts (word count).
Dont give up, fight for what you love or regret forever, Only you can make a difference and win!
best of luck 🙂
Oh and by going deeper i mean “more meaning full conversations and longer conversations”
Remember slowly upgrade and always positive convos!
Well i’d suggest give yourself a week to regain control of your emotions then text her with something positive but keep it short like i did 2-3 texts max then say you must leave and you’ll text her later! (in 2 days but dont tell her,she will be expecting your text therefore only thinking of you)
The you text her again! After this texting session wait a 24h before re-starting a new convo you do this 3-4 times then you can start a day to day routine of texting slowly re-entering her life. And every day you go a little deeper ( a bit mpre emotionel but not too much or youll push her away)
Once you feel like the texts have an equivalent amount of words and both of you are reponding quickly you can tell her “something realy funny happen to me today, let me call you its realy funny” of course you’ll havr to find somethibg funny but after that you’ll keep on talking (make a cheat list on a paper where you illustrate things to talk about so its not akward haha).
Then either invite her for cofee or make her invite you to do something non-threatning and if everything goes well on the “meet-up” and she asks what do you guys do now? Well take control here is your shot to prove how better of a man you are and what mistake she did by leaving you!
Best of luck hope my plan can help you out figure out what your steps will be!
Keep working hard bud, you cant be a millionaire by sitting on a couch doing nothing 😉
It is a rebound she found someone who is not you to comfort her. I’m in the same boat my ex said the same thing and ended up with a new guy the week that followed! Dont worry she will realise soon enough that its not what she wants, and she’ll have to deal with the break up again. Read the article of rebound relationships and you’ll see!
Best of luck!
@sparky Brandon is a guy i used to hang out with he started getting bad with drugs and stuff so i stoped hanging out with him he reached out to my ex to get info on me because i dont talk to him.
@LA @sparky
Yesterday my ex contacted me saying
“hey i know you probably dont want to talk to me but i think that brandon isnt going to well he isnt answering me anymore could you check if he is okay? :/”
Now i check up on the guy and he is okay! But she could pf contacted another friend of mine or even my mom.
Do i answer? With a simple “dont worry he is okay i check up on him last night, but thanks for warning me”
Day 20, i received an e-mail from kevin talking about how to use facebook to get my ex back. I deleted her off my facebook and snapchat because i was obssessing over her and it was tearing me appart.
Now i don’t feel sad, nor needy, i just know i still love her and i still want her in my life and of course i’m ready for whatever happens (meaning i win her back or not).
So all i’m wondering is can i add her back on snapchat and facebook? Or does it count as contact? Because the way i see things she wont add me, i know her she dosent do first moves or any even haha.
Oh and i dont know if its important to say but she is in a rebound relationship..
Thanks for your time guy’s!
