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Thanks for the reply and I know she has her own issues. I just forgot to mention that we were each others first real relationship and first sexual partner. I just feel like she didn’t know any better that’s why she even stuck with me as long as she did and now that she has found this new guy she’s wondering what she ever saw in me and our relationship.
I’m not sad because I won’t get her back but because she meant a lot to me since she was the person I loved and my best friend for 4 years and I don’t want her to think back upon our time together thinking “ugh, what was I thinking”.
I never said I wanted her back and I know she’s not interested in being with me. Her actions has made that loud and clear. I just miss her. Miss having my best friend. It’s been over 3 months since we last spoke. She doesn’t care. I don’t understand how. We were with each other for 4 years and she can just cut me out like I was nothing and move on.
What I don’t understand is, if she made some story up and told her father, why would she? I contacted 3 times over the course of several months. One of which was by mistake. We were each others first love and first sexual partners. How can she even find it in herself to tell lies about me or whatever she is doing to have her father feel like he needs to threaten me. I am already hurt and broken from the break up. She already pretends like I don’t exist and has a new boyfriend. Why does she feel like I deserve more crap?
Wow….just visited her boyfriends fb..stupid I know. But his banner is a collage of pics of him and her. It’s not even been 2 months and they have vacation pictures. Pictures kissing and having fun. I’m crushed and angry at the same time. I just want to write and curse her out for lying the me about her love for all these years because if she loved me she wouldn’t have been able to move on so quickly.
I just loved her so much. She was my love. We were together for 4 years. I just don’t understand how she can move on so easily and find a new boyfriend in less than 2 months.
Yes I know what I did was horrible and stupid. But it was almost a year ago and I haven’t done nor will I do something like that again. But she doesn’t believe me. That’s whys she left me 2 months ago. But when we started talking again she said she loved me and wanted to get back together again and then she just changed her mind from nowhere and said she didn’t want me anymore. Right now I am doing no contact again. But I don’t know. Maybe no contact isn’t the best choice this time?
No. The nature of the conversations were not friendly. But the only reason I was driven to do this childish act was because after 2 years of being together she left me and got into a relationship with this other guy. When she came back I never asked if she slept with him but wasnt naive enough to think she didn’t. We were eachothers first and for some reason the thought of her having been with someone else and me (what i thought then) would never have only slept with her the rest of my life. So I acted out int he most stupid way. But I never did anything physical and I regret even doing it.
After we met and just had to ask if she didn’t love me anymore. I asked her to be honest and not say what I wanted to hear. She said she would always love me but I’m the the one in her eyes anymore. I don’t know. I feel like no contact won’t work this time. I’ve lost her and I’m crushed.
Ok so we met to say goodbye. She just said that she felt good when she was with me and talking to me but as soon as she got time to be alone she realized she couldn’t let go of me talking to these girls. I said that I didn’t expect her to be able to let go immediately but that I was sure that with time I would be able to make her forget and realize I would never hurt her again. She was determined she would never forget. I said ok pretty much. Said that I respected her decision and that I was willing to give this relationship 110% and it’s a shame she couldn’t see that. She said she didn’t even know what she wanted, with anything in her life. I told her I wanted to be there so I could support her and find out together. Anyway nothing I said worked by I was calm and collected and never begged or pleaded.
I just don’t understand. Is she just unsure or doesn’t she love me anymore? The weeks we talked she said she loved me everyday and we had wonderful talks and times. I don’t understand.
Yeah I know. But it’s such a drastic change of attitude. Just days before we had a wonderful date. She even said “when we get back together again…” and I teased her and said “Oh, WHEN we get huh? Already decided?” She just blushed and admitted she gave away her intent. Then she goes a complete 180 and wants to break up 100%. I just don’t understand her.
@travelbug We talk about a little. I keep telling her the person who hurt her isn’t who I am anymore. I don’t think she feels like she can believe me yet though. But we have talked from morning till night for 2 days now. Just like we used to.
@clear I don’t think you should wait 3 months. It seems a bit extreme. Although if you decide to initiate contact you have to be ready to handle rejection. If you feel like it would crush you I suggest waiting a little more. Or if you feel like it’s a risk you’re willing to take then go for it. If she responds and you can keep a natural conversation going without having it feel forced then great. If not then don’t show that it hurts. Just stop texting or contacting and wait some more.I do think she and I should see each other face to face but I dont want to rush things. Don’t want to scare her away if she feels like it’s too much. I’m taking my time and seeing how she reacts to what I say and then move on from there.
Yeah I begged and pleaded. I even went to her house only to get yelled at by her father. Check my post history for all the details.
I can’t tell how you should go about this. I suspect that her friends were a big part of your break up. Girls listen to their friends a lot. If their friends don’t like you that’s a big issue. I suggest you do NC for a while and then do what feels right. If it doesn’t work then I don’t know. I just did NC and followed my gut telling me to contact her and she has been texting with me a lot which is a huge improvement over her wanting nothing to do with me. Although she still doesn’t seem ready to take me back I know she still has feelings.
I texted her saying I understood why she broke up with me. Saying I had some growing up to do. That I was sorry for how I behaved after the breakup and that it all led me to change my life all for the better and now I’m a better man for it. Then we started to catch up and the started flirting but after a while things led back to why we broke up. Which of course ruined everyhting
It’s been a month almost and not a peep from her. I thought maybe I’d test the waters to see if she has started to miss me. But I don’t know now. Her text seemed very “I’m over you”. Although when we broke up she had blocked my number so she obviously has removed the block.
