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So I did almost 30 days of no contact. Then I texted her and we started talking. We texted for hours. She told me how guys chased her at the club and sent pictures of herself dressed up and I complimented her and we flirted back and forth. But after a while she started bringing up what went wrong and getting sad and stuff. I don’t want her to think about that stuff. Want her to see me as the new me I am. How do I go about so she stops thinking about all the negative aspects?
How did you open the lines of communication like what did you send her? Ask her out on a date and try to have fun with her and show her the new guy you are!
I texted her saying I understood why she broke up with me. Saying I had some growing up to do. That I was sorry for how I behaved after the breakup and that it all led me to change my life all for the better and now I’m a better man for it. Then we started to catch up and the started flirting but after a while things led back to why we broke up. Which of course ruined everyhting
Did you beg and stuff after the breakup? I know I’m asking a lot of questions but I’m thinking about breaking NC and try to open the lines of communication again, could you maybe take a look at my thread and give me any advices?
As for your situation, have you met her yet? Like face to face? I really think you should meet her up and do a fun activity together!
Yeah I begged and pleaded. I even went to her house only to get yelled at by her father. Check my post history for all the details.
I can’t tell how you should go about this. I suspect that her friends were a big part of your break up. Girls listen to their friends a lot. If their friends don’t like you that’s a big issue. I suggest you do NC for a while and then do what feels right. If it doesn’t work then I don’t know. I just did NC and followed my gut telling me to contact her and she has been texting with me a lot which is a huge improvement over her wanting nothing to do with me. Although she still doesn’t seem ready to take me back I know she still has feelings.
I Am on the same boat. My ex still has feelings for me…But he still doesn’t want me back.
I think you have to talk about what went wrong before you can move on. It’s ok that you guys are talking about that, but eventually that will stop..
@robsam I’ve done NC for 33 days now, I think the peak of her missing me was around 3 week counting on her social media behavior. Do you think I can contact her now even though her mom told me to wait 3 months? I know she said that because then my ex will be over me and already moved on.
And I agree with @travelbug.
I really think you should meet up with her face to face and talk about eventually the bad stuff that happened between you guys, and then come up with solutions!@travelbug We talk about a little. I keep telling her the person who hurt her isn’t who I am anymore. I don’t think she feels like she can believe me yet though. But we have talked from morning till night for 2 days now. Just like we used to.
@clear I don’t think you should wait 3 months. It seems a bit extreme. Although if you decide to initiate contact you have to be ready to handle rejection. If you feel like it would crush you I suggest waiting a little more. Or if you feel like it’s a risk you’re willing to take then go for it. If she responds and you can keep a natural conversation going without having it feel forced then great. If not then don’t show that it hurts. Just stop texting or contacting and wait some more.I do think she and I should see each other face to face but I dont want to rush things. Don’t want to scare her away if she feels like it’s too much. I’m taking my time and seeing how she reacts to what I say and then move on from there.
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