Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
Yes. Fear is an intial reaction to a bad memory. Have you done the nc? She still hasnt forgotten about the bad times. Then reassure her. Have you presented yourself as another person? You should. Because she is already attracted to you before confidence would be a great boost. And dont say lets meet. She’ll put up her guard faster. My tip would be a friendly coffee. “Its just coffee” be witty but dont force her. Show her gentleness kindness and understanding. Dude 7 months is pretty long but im going to reveal you something you may have overlooked. “Would she reply to you or talk to you if she didnt care anymore?” Its the fear thats hindering her. Eliminate that. You can do it bro
Write the letter. Let him know what you are doing now. Make sure he reads it. Now do you have to wait? Nope initiate. Try texting him messages that doesnt require him to reply. Something you saw or something you remember. Example “hey i passed by our favorite restaurant and it reminded me of the time you dropped the meatball. Anyway i just wanted to let you know you were on my mind. Take care.” A simple text would be good enough. Keep me posted and I’ll teach you more of those text
I think time of from social media is good. Dont stalk him too much. I thinks its causing you more bad than good. And dont ASSUME. A very bad sign. We make up stories in our heads about this and that. What if this was a friend that he just met. What ever the case is you have the advantage.
Dont assume. Its unsightly for a guy to see that. Be confident. And stop being with negative friends. If you cant avoid them, avoid the topic and say lets just not talk about it. And clear your mind. I think you need to calm down a bit because that way of thinking will get you to panic mode faster than a blink of an eye.
Want an answer to the desperation? Dont. Just dont. Instinct fuck up everything you have planned. Trust me I know. But believe me you have a good chance. Irreversable? Nope i dont think so. He said lost love. Just make him find it again. Reattract. Anyway. Are you doing anything to occupy yourself and improve cause you have to show him you got better after nc. Not the same person.
I screwed up big time. Im still improving myself. But heres the gist of what happened. I halted nc again. Why i heard news that she was testing me if i really loved her. And she still loved me so madly. She doesnt show it tho. Basically i heard it from her aunt. Who is close to me. Her aunt mention she took permission from her mother to live seperately from them. To live with me. But i cant assume so much from just one person. She says she has new bf but her stories are inconsistent. Her friends make fun of her when im around as if it were easy to forgive me. They persuade me now to try harder. And change. Her aunt says its a fake. Okay well maybe im putting my cards too much on her aunt. But she has too many info i cant simply ignore. It feels like she isnt faking it. But my ex sure does faking pretty well. What should i do. This is totally messed up. Like “I love you but not now” or “I love you but you have to suffer first”. Help guys help.
