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Good thing you know. Knowing is a big part of love. If he improves your life and that’s what you think then good. It has to be on all aspects not just happiness but provides you security. Now you just have to be strong with your decisions. Keep the faith. Don’t show him you can self destruct if he wanted to.
That’s good now keep it up because she wants a man who can handle stress. Be happy and follow her advice. And don’t go wishy washy. If you don’t know what to say to her ask people. It may push her further if you say bad stuff.
Maybe i will 🙂 my ex thinks im the most evil person alive. She wants to stay “friends”. She says there is someone in her life but not in a relationship. We broke up because i didnt put effort in our relationship. It became final afterwards i said some mean stuff to her after sleepless days and no eating. I liked her alot and its been a month since. People told me she had no other person. But there was this one person who was close to her saying. “That girl loves you so much she said to her mom i want to marry this guy and live with him” i was surprise to hear this. Because she was ignoring me and i avoided her. I verified that the guy is real. No offense to him “he looks pale in coparison to me.” . I lost a alot of weight and started a healthy lifestyle. The person that said she still loves me says “shes testing your limit”. Okay that’s news to me. It feels so true but it hurts me. Anyway i started nc and gave her a letter. Hopefully she’ll comeback.
You said some pretty harsh words to him. You should start first by apologizing then we’ll see his react towards you.
I think you already know the answer to the question. What the real problem is you. Fake it till you make it. Fake change until the change becomes real.
Nc. Stop thinking about him too much for now. My guess is you are having a difficult time ignoring him. Get a piece of paper write you exs number in it then delete it. If facebook ruins you change your password to a gibberish. :/ just fix it after the nc. Well now you want him back follow the 5 steps. You still seem to have the symptoms of i really love this person. Assess first why do you love him? From a logical point of view. Does he improve your life? Do you need him in your life?
All of those are good except for one. The date photo. Don’t compete with her. If you want her to know that women find you pleasing take a picture with a group of women. She will assume that you did something if it was one person or make her angry and stuff. Anyway. Show her you are happy. No emotional post. But it’s also good to disappear sometimes. The pictures you are posting out. They are a sneak preview of the new you to her. Dont show her everything. Thus this creates mystery and she will think what is happening in your life.
Okay okay don’t get hyped up too much. Now in your mind is uncertainty of his return after nc. Your absense in his life is a pretty huge hole to fill. Now he is saying these because he has bad feelings for you now. Nc will heal those wounds. Don’t be afraid to take the first step. But during nc take care of yourself. Exercise. Learn a new hobby. Make life for yourself fun. If you do nc but nothing really changed he will see that. “What changed?” Don’t show up miserable after 30days okay 🙂 If you have more questions just reply here again.
Don’t she might be a friend of hers testing you. My guess is that she’s going nuts. NC is probably your best bet my friend. Try this. When you see her a simple nod is okay. Its a greeting that doesnt require affection and it acknowledges that you saw her but she doesn’t affect you too much. She’s competing. And that’s a good sign. If you really want her back she’s actually showing weakness. “Oh my gahd this boy said to me blah blah blah”. Show maturity and composure. If you have to date just a friendly one. Show that you are a different person. The person you want her to see like a sneak preview but for another person. Now make sure shes not a friend of hers as she may be testing you. Don’t fret. It’s called partial nc. This is unavoidable. If you pass by her nod. If you are together in a room focus on other things. Don’t hang out with mutual friends. And stuff.
Heres the thing. She probably won’t bring it up. It’s a cup of coffee how long will it take. Take the conversation to the highest point then leave when everything is good. The answer to number 2 is if she ignores you text her. “Can i call you? Theres something i just wanted to say”. Don’t state anything. Give her a blank the when she calls as her out for a friendly cup of coffee. “It’s just a cup of coffee”. “Oh come on it will be fun catching up with each other”. Reassure her that the past is dead. The present is alive and well. False friendship. Just establish that. Don’t become friends with her just maintain the intimacy with her.
“Don’t state your intentions” she’ll build up her defenses. Stop using friendship bro. Want to be friendzoned? Ask to catch up. Yes initial text of good memories are good. It means you can’t forget about her but you don’t want to bother her too much. “I was wondering if you’re okay with a cup of coffee. I just want to catch up on things and see how your doing. Take care”. If you want to start fresh don’t remind her you had a relationship before those are just memories now. You have to make her fall in love all over again. This “cup of coffee” is just a first step.
You have no idea how deep sht im in LOL but helping other people that’s my priority now. Changing for the better.
Follow the nc. Until the nc is over. Then follow through with reattraction. One thing good abot having coffee when it goes bad say you have something to do. And its urgent. Dont let it end bad. Plus avoid talking about the relationship. Remember you dont want her back. You want to have a new relationship with different sets of mistakes to understand. “Avoid relationship talks”. Show her the security she needs and don’t pressure her. Women dont like being pressured. Show her you are a man she can rely on.
Don’t worry the letter isn’t really magic. It’s just there to invoke emotions. Now just let it stir up for a while. Now with assuming. You know exactly what to change then. You make her of as if she’s a catch for him. Don’t. Show him what he lost, not what he gained. Be confident 🙂 show him who is the better choice. Show him where the grass is greener.
