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Hi @N I’m holding up ok. Hanging in there. How about you?
@JL i don’t think it’s stupid. You want to cheer her up. You love her. I totally understand. But i would resist the urge to send her anything for a little while. I know its extremely hard.
Oh ok i see. I’m proud of. You too
I am around him now and he’s trying to have a conversation about other things besides our son. I’m politely decliningI think you should still go to the meeting with her. You don’t want to take back your words. But i don’t recommend anymore after that until you’ve completed no contact. I know the meetings are tough because you feel so strongly for her and you want it to work. But from my experience it does two things
1. Give you an idea of where the person is emotionally and helps you feel reassured as to whether or not you have a chance. I know you’re looking for all of the hope you can get. Trust me i know!
2. It is a stressful time because you’re not stable enough emotionally and neither is she. It can lead to disagreements that will make you feel horrible When you can’t talk to her bc you’re on no contact.Give her the chance to miss you! While you work on you.
Hardest thing in the world i know. But it has to be done.
Praying for you!When i first started nc he was reaching out to me. Then we had an emotional weekend. So i tried it again this week and it wasn’t as effective as the first attempt. Now i have to see him this weekend. I need a plan to avoid seeing him as much as possible. I need to really Stick to nc. Like seriously no games. I just have so much free time that it’s hard. I’m nervous. But i have faith!
I believe i have a great chance. I just have to play my cards right. That’s the hard part! Acting off of my brain and not my heart. I have to find something to do to keep me occupied.
I agree. From listening and observing him i feel we have a chance he just needs space. And I’ve been a bit lacking with giving that to him. I have to make sure we’re not alone with each other and possibly avoid seeing him as much as possible. I won’t respond or reach out unless it’s urgent and has to do with our son.i haven’t been trying to get things done without him. I have to. I see now that it’s the only way to get my family back. I’m willing to do just about anything
Also he said he doesn’t have any emotions.and he loves me because we’re supposed to love everyone. 🙁 HE brings the subject up and gets upset when i try and talk! Idk. What do you think? @N
Everything was going well and then he brought up our relationship. I let him know how i feel and that i want our family back together. He said deep down he wants that too. But he has a lot of lust inside of him. And not ready to be in a relationship with anyone. (We’ve been together since we were 17/18 now we’re 24/25) HE never says we don’t have a chance he just says he needs time. Like 1-2 years!! He saw how this is affecting our son. And i poured my heart out again. I think we need to not be in face to face contact at all for awhile. I’m trying to fight. I pray he comes back!
So i had an extremely tough night. Very emotional. My love will be here in 2 hours. I’m trying to calm myself down so i don’t ruin everything. I don’t want to get emotional in front of him. I just really want my family back together. I want my soul mate! Any advice so i don’t ruin the time I’m alone with him? ?
I have to find a balance. I don’t want to look like I’m faking happy. So tonight i shall prepare lol
This is a emotional time for him too. I’m sure he’ll reach out to you. How are your lessons going?I know it was definitely too soon. It was going good and all of a sudden I’m crying! I pray it does! I really want my family together! Nc is really necessary. Because it gives both sides time to think and heal. The time is just the hard part! Ugh! I’m proud of you for realizing you need space as well. And for being at 7 days with no contact! I don’t think no contact is realistic in my situation. So i’m only reaching out because of our child. Tomorrow me and him will be alone. I’m going to try to keep it strictly business! But look beautiful in the process!
