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Hey! No contact success story here. I think it can differ from person to person, but if your ex was especially jealous like mine was, it can work really well to drop a hint that you’re seeing somebody new! I did no contact for a few weeks and started moving on and casually dating, he got very upset when he found out and immediately started trying to get back into my life. Of course I let him, but be aware of the fact that 1. If they truly want to move on, they’ll just be happy for you and consider ends closed and 2. You don’t want to hurt the person you’re seeing. Make sure that they know that it’s casual and you’re not really looking for something serious at the moment.
But jealousy worked super well for me, we’ve been back together for a while now and are actually very close again.I had to do no contact twice…broke it both times lol
The first time I broke it, he still had mixed feelings for me, so he said yes but it was pretty doomed.
The second time, he broke NC about 2 weeks in and I let him engage me, he had realized that he did need me and we’ve been back together for months now, and thinks are much better ?Don’t lose all hope though, my guy also went after another girl. Emotionally it was way too soon for him though (as it will be for yours), and once he realized she couldn’t be me it made him come running back. He tried dating and all it did was cement the fact that he made the wrong decision, because he did it much too early.
I’d say wait it out. My BF is stubborn too, there’s really no reasoning with men when they’re like that. There’s no way he’s moved on in two weeks, he’s probably trying to ignore and suffocate his feelings. When they surface they’ll be intense and he probably won’t know how to handle them. That’s what happened for my situation.
And NC is the best anyways. I was so happy being alone after a while, and I could feel my confident and powerful old self re emerging. It’ll happen for you too and then winning him back should be cake!My breakup was almost like that, except I freaked tf out, begged, raged, everything. He refused to answer my texts and told me to leave him alone. I started NC, suffered through almost a week of it, and he broke and texted me saying he missed me and wanted me back, didn’t want us to see other people, etc. He had gotten over his anger and was suffering with being alone and remembering all of the good times, like I had been.
Give it time. If he has any doubts about his choice it’ll all hit him soon. If he doesn’t, I promise NC will help you to be happy. It doesn’t feel like it but it will. I kept a journal on my phone and every time I wanted to text him, I analysed my feelings on it instead. Hope that helps!Haha I DON’T trust him, One Love…that was one of our problems. Because he’s already lied to me about another woman before, even though he sincerely regretted her.
But I’ll take the advice. Last time we broke up he admitted to dating making him miss me more, so I’ll lean on that for as long as I need to. Thanks for the help!
I’m on day 2, holding up strong so far. He’s contacted me once already trying to see how I’m doing, but I’m dedicated to this and I want to get myself to a happier place before I try to talk to him again.
I am struggling with hope though. We had a smaller breakup prior to this big one, where we kinda not officially got back together shortly afterwards. We went to a party together and he saw me chatting with another guy and FLIPPED, which makes me think he might still have very strong feelings for me, because in my previous experience when I’ve fallen out of love I was extremely happy to watch my ex find somebody else. Now it’s the other way around.
He told me he doesn’t love me anymore, does anybody think an outburst of jealousy immediately prior to breaking up implies that he does?
