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I recently shared a post on the reconciliation board about my break up and the current questions I have. But I was thinking about the no contact and my ex blocked me on all social media accounts and he never answered the 2 texts I replied back to him with when he apologized for how rude he was to me during our break up. He apologized about 5 days after, now it has been 9 days since the break up.
To get to my main point, he blocked me and never answered those 2 texts i sent, and the texts didn’t really make me seem desperate at all really. They were just 2 friendly texts. But I feel like he is using the no contact rule to get over me, while I’m trying to use it to get him back. I don’t know if this is something he is doing or not, but I’m sure others are having the same question as me. So what should I really do if he is using the no contact rule to get over me?
You didn’t give much detail, but it sounds like it might have been an unpleasant relationship for him and a rough breakup. He apologized and doesn’t feel the need to engage in small talk at this point. There’s no way to know why he isn’t contacting you, maybe he just needs space to think over the break up, why it happened, and what to do about it. Whether to try again or not. Don’t contact him. Only time will tell how this plays out. Don’t give up hope. Good luck..
I shared on the reconciliation board the whole story, but I don’t think it was an unpleasant relationship for him. The last day we were together we went on a double date and hung out like usual and everything was fine. We usually were always with each other, so I was thinking he might have just wanted to be with friends. He recently told a close friend of ours that he has moved on and doesn’t want to focus on any girls. So if anyone could help that would be really nice.
My breakup was almost like that, except I freaked tf out, begged, raged, everything. He refused to answer my texts and told me to leave him alone. I started NC, suffered through almost a week of it, and he broke and texted me saying he missed me and wanted me back, didn’t want us to see other people, etc. He had gotten over his anger and was suffering with being alone and remembering all of the good times, like I had been.
Give it time. If he has any doubts about his choice it’ll all hit him soon. If he doesn’t, I promise NC will help you to be happy. It doesn’t feel like it but it will. I kept a journal on my phone and every time I wanted to text him, I analysed my feelings on it instead. Hope that helps!Thanks for telling me that, I wasn’t sure if anyone would really have gone through almost the same thing as me on here. But I’m afraid he isn’t going to end up feeling alone and texting me. He is very stubborn and I know our close friend even told him he was very dumb for doing that, but he just ignored her and said he’s moved on when we have only been apart for almost 2 weeks. I just hope he either ends up saying he screwed up or this NC really works.
I’d say wait it out. My BF is stubborn too, there’s really no reasoning with men when they’re like that. There’s no way he’s moved on in two weeks, he’s probably trying to ignore and suffocate his feelings. When they surface they’ll be intense and he probably won’t know how to handle them. That’s what happened for my situation.
And NC is the best anyways. I was so happy being alone after a while, and I could feel my confident and powerful old self re emerging. It’ll happen for you too and then winning him back should be cake!Okay thank you so much, I really needed someone that has gone through almost the same situation as me to help reassure me that NC could work. My friends have gone through break ups but they are the ones breaking up with the guy. I am keeping myself busy though, I have wrote in a journal to get my feelings out, started reading a novel and many more things to keep him off my mind. I do see how NC makes you feel better about yourself, I’m really impatient to see how this works out in the long run
The biggest red flag is that he said he lost feelings for you and likes someone else. You started another post and mentioned it there. Anyway, don’t give up hope yet and continue no contact. Time will tell how this goes.
Good luck.He told me that the day after the break up that he likes someone else, but he has always said that cheating was a horrible thing and he would never leave for another girl. He had a bad experience with his last girlfriend when she left for another guy.
Anyways he told my close friend he doesn’t want to focus on girls right now and the actual reason he left was because I didn’t put as much effort into the relationship as he did. I’m not sure why he lied, I just think that’s his way of just trying to leave.
Don’t lose all hope though, my guy also went after another girl. Emotionally it was way too soon for him though (as it will be for yours), and once he realized she couldn’t be me it made him come running back. He tried dating and all it did was cement the fact that he made the wrong decision, because he did it much too early.
I don’t think he was lying. He might be “attracted” to someone else and maybe broke up with you so he could pursue her later on. You could ask him why he felt you weren’t putting much effort into the relationship. What he would have wanted you to do to show your efforts. Apparently he wasn’t really happy and broke up. How long were you in the relationship?
we were together for 8½ months. But all of his friends have told me he has never mentioned another girl or even me to them. And if they do end up ask about me he says he doesn’t want to talk about it. But I would ask why he felt that way, but he would just ignore my text and plus I’m in the NC right now. I’m trying to get better and not make myself worse if he replies back saying we won’t get together again. We were very close, we always talked about what we were going to do the next day. He just came out of the blue with the break up.
Okay, stay in no contact, but maybe someday you’ll get the chance to ask him and he might tell you. Maybe you were close physically in that you saw each other often, but maybe he lost the emotional connection with you somehow or there were other reasons he wanted to break up. Although it may seem like the break up came out of the blue, men don’t just suddenly make that decision. It’s something that’s been brewing in his mind for some time. He was acting as if things were fine, but he eventually decided he didn’t want to continue and told you. Sometimes smothering a guy is also a reason guys want to break up. Anyway, I’m so sorry if this seems negative, but just trying to think of possible reasons he didn’t want to be with you anymore. Hopefully you will find out and get a chance for both of you to improve a possible future connection and be happy:)
Hi, its been a couple of days now since I’ve said anything on this post, but it now 13 days since the break up and I’m starting to lose hope. I just feel he isn’t going to end up realizing he made a mistake like others have had happen in their relationship. I know its selfish of me to expect him to come back, but I’m just afraid that even if he doesn’t try to come back, after the NC is up he still will be his stubborn self and not want anything.
Its been hard for me lately, next week the carnival is starting in town and we were planning on going to that, and Finding Dory comes out tomorrow and he was wanting us to go out and see it too. Everything has been reminding me of him lately, but I just don’t want to lose my hope.
Since you’ve been in no contact for 2 weeks and next week would be the third week, maybe call or text him to ask if he would like to go to the carnival together. It wouldn’t hurt to just ask and maybe he would like to go with you, but might be too stubborn to make the first move. If he says no, you could go back to no contact again. I know how you must be hurting. Good luck:)
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