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Hi all, I just made this thread so we can share how our NC days going. Is it good or is it bad? Just share yours here and hope there will be someone who can share her/his support here too.
I will start with mine first.
Today is my 13th NC days and it was part 2. Today I feel a little down because of a friend who out of the blue contacted me and asked about my relationship with my ex, and he told me that he asked because my ex using a pict of him with other girl as a DP in his BBM. I just knew it but it still make me feel down.
That’s mine, where’s yours?Sorry to hear that ?
Well I’m in day 0 again because I decided to text him today and wasn’t a good idea.
I lasted 5 days with NC.Yes, its so s*cked.
Yup, texting, calling, stalking are never good idea, its hurted ourself more.I did that. The reason why I broke the NC rule. But idk he just says he wants to be friends so I really don’t know whether to give up .
There’s a friend of mine who said this to me, “You can do it, you have to keep your style”. I know it sounds funny, but I remembered the girl that my ex fell in love with, the girl with a power on her feet, and im not that girl now. So we have to find ourself again, not only for winning back our ex, but most importantly for ourself.
I know but kinda makes sad knowing that he just wants to be friends, like how can he expected me to be his friend knowing what I feel for him .
What do you think I should do, NC again?Yes, just do the NC, what else we can do??
My situation is not better than yours, I have attracted and connected with him for almost half of my life, and then booom its done, and he’s with someone else, Idk if it true or just something else, I just knew that he’s with someone else. I still think that he is the one for me, he is the love of my life, and I hope someday (I hope next year,hehehe) he will think like that about me and want me to back with him. But this time, the time that God gave me to be a single, I want to try some things that I couldnt earlier. Its hard, but we have to start 🙂Yeah I suppose since there’s no other choice.
The Funny part is I feel the same. To me his the love of my life and I thought I was his hopefully with time he realizes that
In the meantime doesn’t hurt to just enjoy life (:
Hi Guys
So today is my 30th day.
Problem is i have to work with my ex, as i cannot do the complete no contact.
If he talks to me about work i keep it short.
But i have not texted, called or emailed in 30 days, which at the beginning was so difficult but today its been 2 months since the row but for a month he told me he loved me, was texting me, he told me something wasn’t working with us, so i said ok do you want to break up and he said i am not saying that so we talked and thought it was good but clearly not.. for one month i texted, called, left voicemail’s and even emailed got nothing back… so today is my 30th day of not contacting him, he also has not contacted me.
It does get easier, don’t get me wrong i still love and adore him but i look at it like this, if he wanted me in his life he would make it known and would contact me, it kills like hell but time does help.
Also doesn’t help i see him everyday but i am better than moping around.
I decided to get in touch with old friends and done a bucket list.I hope you all get your exes back and i still hope i do, but also need to think it may not happen or not happen yet… hang in there.
Hi @Lisa26, that must be difficult for you, not only that he keep running around in your head, you also have to see him everyday in workplace. Even me, who live in the same city with him, sometimes become crazy just because of thought meeting with him.
And I agree that time does help, I already knew that my ex has a new relations with someone, its still hurt to know it but it didnt drive me crazy like 2 weeks ago. Just the thought of “how can he do that?” that still lingering in my head.
I hope we can be stronger in every step we take 🙂It was difficult but it was more difficult when we rowed and for a month he gave me the impression he wanted me with all he said the texting etc… then when i said stop the flirting if you don’t want to be with me.
He then moved to unnecessary talking at work, would ask my opinion on things when he had others around him, would look at me if i looked in his office small things… but 2 months of not seeing him outside of work – i want nothing but for him to text me and say sorry but will it happen? I doubt it but never say never… I am open in talking to him if he ever gets in touch.
We had 2 weeks where we didn’t see each other which helped, but now we just don’t talk its sad because we was so close now were nothing.I am sorry your ex has a new partner but rest assure this is a rebound it wont last they never do.
I don’t hear any personal things about my ex at work which is good as i would go straight back to the beginning if i knew he was with another girl.I totally agree, i don’t know if you read my story on here on what happened, but what i did wasn’t bad for him to act this way.
When we talked after the row he told me something isn’t working here, i said ok do you want to break up.. he told me he wasn’t saying he wanted to break up just some space that was 2 months ago, i have asked many times are we over or on a break he ignores so i took it as were over and his not man enough to just tell me he chooses to ignore me instead..
But i guarantee both our exes will be back soon enough when they realize they had a good thing and messed it up…
I re-read texts and events and to this day i still have no idea what i did to deserve all of this.
He made me question myself, if i was good enough, if i was to blame, i was very low and depressed.
My ex also blocked me on facebook and Whatsapp – so that helps not seeing pictures.You need to keep yourself busy. If you ever want to chat or vent im here. 🙂
@Herma, 13 days and a new partner, I think it’s a rebound from his side, just to make you jealous keep up with NC.
@Lisa26, just play it slow, everything gonna be alright, even he showing of interest in you is Good Thing.My Story :
We broke up… aah because of me, she was not replying, responding from last 3 days, there was a thing in our relationship, no matter what happens, just never stop talking or communicating, so I though end is all she wants so I said goodbye and blocked her then unblocked tried again, then she blocked me, 5 days ago we met, “it’s over can’t you see ?” returned my first gift that I gave to her, I asked her to be friends, said yes (don’t worry why this I will not be friendzoned 😛 I know her this well).
Following NC rule,
Day 1 : She unblocked me on WA.
Day 5 : She unblocked me on FB.
Day 6 : Our only common friend and her roommate who never calls me until and unless she needs something, called me today just to ask some silly question, I know she was behind the call.I know she must be missing me even I am too, but I am not going to contact her this soon.
I know everything will gonna be alright with all of us, just keep faith in us, them and our Relationship.
@Lisa26 I dont know if its rebound or not, when the first time he posted their pict which was around a week after the broke up, and I freak out about it and asked his coworker about this but she said she didnt know it. And when I could held my sanity and trying to call him about some important matter, not about the girl, he suddenly said that he didnt have anything to do with that girl and he had no heart bussiness with anyone and all the pict was gone. But suddenly the newest info came to me. I really want to say that I dont care about their relations but it hurt me, it really hurt me inside. Rebound or not, I just dont understand how can he and she do that?!
And Lisa25, Im sorry I havent read your full story, but he didnt break you up?!He just said that something wasnt working here?!He said something like that and ignored you?!What the hell that is that?!
Sorry but how can he do something like that?!
If my ex do something like that and I heard that he went out with some other girl, maybe I’ll punch him, hehehe
But its really riddiculous, how can he act like that?!Thank you for your offering, I really need someone to talk about this because my fam want me to move on and my friend still in mourning state, so I dont have someone to talk, that’s why I made this thread, so I can chat, vent and give support for the other 🙂
@old_monk yes, she must be missing you, I said it as a girl, because as I know, girl always end up forgiving someone that they really love. It doesnt mean that she want to come back to the relations, its just their phase. Angry but missing but angry, that’s what her feel. But thats just my opinion.
By the way, how long have you been in NC??Is it long enough??Because you sound so calm.
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