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Long story short, lots of shit happened between the two of us that broke trust and respect on both sides. The breakup was semi ugly, but only for 2 days. He’s obviously not sure of his decision, but we’ve both agreed that we need space to heal from what’s been said and done over our 2 years together.
SO, he’s told me before that he couldn’t be friends with me if we broke up, because he couldn’t watch me fall in love with another guy, would always love me, etc.
But literally at the end of this breakup, he said he ‘doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me right now,’ but also said that I could call him if I wanted to go see a scary movie with him (shared past time, our first date was a scary movie). So…I’ve been doing NC for a few days, and planned on using it to emotionally heal, but alternately could I use that opening..? I KNOW he can’t be friends with me. Way too much chemistry between us. But I’m also nervous that if I remove myself, he’ll start looking for other women quickly (which he has done). Should I maintain NC, or casually pop in and out of his life like a friend, which I know will drive him mad for me if I keep us at friend boundaries?If you trust him, know that he loves you, you shouldn’t be scared. What ever happened during the breakup, focus on improving it. That’s the purpose of NC.
All the best.
I have a very similar situation with what you’re going through.
And i tried the friendship thing and lead me to nowwhere. it become very addictive to at least speak once a day even if he’s dating other girls.
and is like a drug.is like i’m his shoulder to cry,meanwhile he’s phisically with other girls.
is been 2 months i don’t know evem if Nc would still work.
MY ADVICE DON T DO THAT FRIENDSHIP MISTAKE- I WISH I VE BEEN IN YOUR SHOES RIGHT NOW.
KEEP A CLEAN NC PERIOD and if he s a “girl hunter” it will work even better.he could havd annyone except for you- and it would trigger in his frontal cortex so many memories about you.
it is reversed psychology, apply it while it works.
Haha I DON’T trust him, One Love…that was one of our problems. Because he’s already lied to me about another woman before, even though he sincerely regretted her.
But I’ll take the advice. Last time we broke up he admitted to dating making him miss me more, so I’ll lean on that for as long as I need to. Thanks for the help!
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