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This was what I was saying is exes feel worthless and we shouldn’t, we are all awesome people and deserve to be loved so hold on to your dignity
Go get it girl you’re amazing and someone who deserves you will see that. All my friends have made me realise this about myself and they’re right. I’m not a cheat or abusive or anything bad at all and neither are you so remember that and take control of your world and rock it
There’s only so long you let yourself be made to feel worthless. I’ve gone no contact and I’m still in touch with my ex but I’ve got my self esteem back and my friends made me realise I’m a great bloke and I’m sure you are too so make yourself happy again
7 months no contact must be hard mate, keep it up, seems like shes still into you and is conflicting and confused
Walk away mate keep your dignity and self worth, get out with mates and enjoy yourself dude
Hope things are moving forward for the best for you mate. I’m starting to think I prefer being alone again lol, all this pissing around is doing my head and I feel like I’ve got my confidence back after my ex took that away from me and made me feel worthless
Thanks Seth I’ll do that, she has made lots of new friends since the split to honest and seems really happy
I do appreciate all your advice Seth I really do mate so don’t stop giving it to me. I’m not contacting her at all till we meet up next Saturday. I think she may cancel anyway as it depends on if her son goes his dads
This is why you need to give each other space and get rid of the negativity that’s manifested over time. My ex who suffers with depression and anxiety is the same mate, she had given me so many red flags for 5 months but because I’d pulled away from her and stop being supportive as if become depressed myself be time the breakup happened it was a long time coming for her
Unfortunately Seth it’s my only way back in. I need to create that spark again and can only do that in person. She needs space I think she’s very conflicted she’s really done a lot to keep her busy to help take her mind off me so for her to agree to meet is a good sign mate but I do get your point
I’ve given up trying to second guess what my ex is thinking she’s driving me insane lol. I’m nearly at the point of just fucking it off as I’m not going to let anyone make a mug out of me
It’s tough mate and there is no one solution everyone is different, my ex has bad anxiety and depression and due to circumstances last September I started pulling away and being depressed myself so we drifted apart over a 6 month period and she nearly self harmed and had a breakdown twice, she split with me first week in March but we messaged every other day till two and half weeks ago when she told me it’s best if I ban myself from getting in touch with her till I am in a good place. We saw each other when I was driving past her on Tuesday and we smiled and waved to each other and her kid and mine but I could see the anguish on her face, then en the next day and yesterday I just felt that she was thinking about me it’s hard to explain but that’s when i made the decision to message her last night and luckily it was the right thing to do fingers crossed mate
This is why I’m glad I got my ex to block me on all social media it’s all these stupid little pearls of wisdom that annoy me and it’s all fake it’s not the reality of it all mate. I only managed 2.5 weeks no contact because I had a weird gut feeling last night that I should message her and we had a good few messages and I asked to go out for a coffee next Saturday and she agreed
