Lee Brads

Glad you’re feeling good dreambig

I had this happen earlier which was awful. I was driving back from getting the kids and stuck in traffic and Soph and her so Olly were there walking on the other side of the road and waved to each other, really has set me back I’m so upset

I didn’t start no contact till 8 weeks after breakup and been 2 weeks. The thing is like I’ve been told no contact is about getting yourself in a good place not just to get them to miss you. If you feel great in a month or two then you’ll be in a position to contact her and if it’s not a good outcome then you won’t be so bothered as you’ll have self worth and confidence back. At the end of the day if your a good bloke and never been abusive or cheated then it’s her loss if she can’t see that buddy

The unfortunate thing for me Seth is that my ex has initiated the no contact by telling me to ban myself from getting in touch with her until I’m in a good place so what do you suggest I do as she definitely won’t ever contact me as she has blocked the past to protect her mental health

It’s a strange one mate. She has always been so honest and doesn’t lie about or hide her feelings. When I have upset her with messages over the past 8 weeks only a couple of times she has gone mad at me and doesn’t put kisses after reply but every other message she has done. Also since day two of breakup she has said she wants us to stay in touch but you need that break. I’d driven her to nearly self harm and breakdowns twice mate and with her mental health she has to block out the past that’s what she keeps saying. Like I said our problems could of been solved with communication and not just pulling away like I did into a depression. There were several warnings and red flags she showed to me but I didn’t see it due to being withdrawn and so down, all daft really

Thanks matey I hope you feel better soon too dude.
It’s tough going and I’m glad I’m blocked on social media which I asked her to do but the minds a powerful thing and it’s hard to not let yourself get carried away in bad images etc.
I just don’t know what my ex is thinking either mate especially with her mental health problems but she seems happy without me as I was the cause of things going bad by neglecting her and myself. I just hope the last message where she left the door open means she’s not looking for a relationship which she said outright to mid April and she’s always said during our relationship that she’s crap at relationships

I think you’ve answered your own question there matey. If it’s hurting you then it’s best to just let go and move on. I’m 9 days no contact with my ex who split with me 8 weeks ago and I have made myself ill just pining after her and constantly running things round my head so I’m just thinking if it happens it happens, if not then fuck it. She was my soul mate and I’m 43 and had several much longer relationships but never felt pain like this and it’ll eat you up if you let it