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You are so right, that was just what i needed! Ok, resolve is slowly coming back. NC just seems like it gives them time to get over you not miss you but i know that its for me to get stronger.
It does seem counter-intuitive but the grass is not always greener on the other side and NC gives them the opportunity to have a glimpse of that. But it sounds like he already has that and doesn’t like it.
Well considering i didnt think i would hear from him for a while, he messaged to say he will come over in a couple weekends to do house jobs. He also suggested i call him today re house stuff and i played it cool and said i wouldnt ring but he can which he said he will. Guess we will see. Thanks for all the support and letting me vent!
We chatted on the phone for a little while and it was a bit awkward in parts but generally good and we laughed and he messaged after to say it was nice and asked to meet up next week for coffee. He has a messaged a little since, which is unheard of recently. Its positive as long as i am not being friend zoned, ha
Excellent. Show confidence when you meet and remain strong if he gets emotional. You want him to come to you.
Thank you and yes I do want that. I dont know if its best to keep it casual and see if he wants to meet again or still keep it casual but tell him what i have learnt since the breakup and show growth? I suppose it will be hard to figure out until i see him and figure out what he wants from this meet up.
After a few days of texting i find out he is now on a couple dating sites. So guess this meet up is just an ego stroke. I want to make it work but it feels hopeless.
Honestly I would cancel it. Make an excuse about wanting to meet up with friends. It sounds like he is keeping you as his safety net should the dating sites not work out.
Did he tell you that he is on a dating site or did a friend tell you?
A friend told me she saw his profile. It must be fairly recent too as it has only just popped up.
I was still planning on going because of what if’s but i am starting to feel like this all may be just an ego boost for him now he has seen me moving on. I never, ever thought he could be like this.
This was what I was saying is exes feel worthless and we shouldn’t, we are all awesome people and deserve to be loved so hold on to your dignity
I agree. Im going to go for me to show myself how far i have come. Ill come out the other side of this a better person. Oddly, this is the best i have felt since it happened. Im letting go.
So after a week of texting, with him initiating as much as me, the texting stopped over the weekend. He cancelled our meet up due to work commitments and apologised saying how much he was looking forward to it but he has not suggested re arranging. Not sure if he wanted me to suggest it but i didn’t. Ive now deleted him and mutual friends off social media because i dont want to see how how happy/moving on he is. Last week i had a lot of hope, a week later it looks more desperate than ever and i dont see us coming back from this. He seems to have really turned a corner and i guess i need to too.
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