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my ex and i are brake up for last 8 month she thinks i cheated on her and sure about it.
(i cant prof her wrong )
now the last month we start talking back together . but only when i see her in the street she even in the last few weeks invited me to her own place , now i dont know what to do
the problem is she was very nice to me let me hug her touch her and even let me lean my head on her,
today she called me to tell me we never get back and she just wanted to make sure i know this , and its not smart that we meet like this . i told her i dont know what she is talking about i didnt say anything about get back . and i told her if she dosnt like that we talk i can keep going when i see her and not need to talk she said no no , its ok if we meet on the street but now you come over and want to be with me i tell her you invited me , yesterday she told me she will make something for me but i need to come to her place so she can make it , she could tell me no, but she did and then she called me today and tell me i thought about it we never getting back , i dont want you to think we are its not going to change ,so i told her if she feel no ok with this i will no come over , so she said no if i told you to come its ok , i mean in the future ,
i dont know what to do??? so many videos on this subjacks says even if she say this its not means she will think like this in 1 more month or even more , but i dont know what to do , its makes me feel so bad i truly love her but its hurts me alothope for help
ediDid you cheat on her? If you did then it will take a lot of NC for her to get over it.
Yes just because she says that she does not want to get back with you now does not mean that she will think the same in time. Also what she says and what she thinks can be different. My ex says that she does not see a future for us but I don’t think she believes that.
The best thing for you to do is to start no contact. This is so she gets some space and time from you and remember the good things about your relationship and not having your reminder her about the bad things.
thank for reply i didnt cheat but i can show her any proof that i didnt (sucks to be me)
we met yesterday and it was fun ,
i need to stay focus on our emotional connection .
i knew she gonna do it call me and say it. shes truly in self fighting ( emotional fighting – mind vs feelings)
i cant go on no contact for 1 reason we been no contact for 7 month , she do remember our good times,
her anger on me is now lower then it was ,it will take time ( we all want it in one day but what can we do 🙁 , if it truly wroth it then fight for it)
So you have already been doing no contact for 7 months?
Yes it does take time and this is not something that can be rushed. If you rush onto the next stage too early then you will wreck what you have built.
7 months no contact must be hard mate, keep it up, seems like shes still into you and is conflicting and confused
thank mate.
yea 7 month of pain , but i read alot of books about relationship , rebuild trust , and saw many videos about how to get back .
its never easy and it might end without what you want , but you need to except the challenge .
from the point from she isnt even look at me to the point she talks to me this for me huge thing.
hope it will keep growing ,
btw you too mate hope to hear good news that you got back with her 🙂
saw my ex yesterday told me she wants to run alone and listen to her music , took it hard but couldnt say i wasnt ready for it , friends told me to not think about it and let it go, and to see if this keep like this in the future
anyone can cheer me up???
we been for 4 years after the brake we didnt talk for 7 month i only contact her 3 times each time she didnt want to talk to me , she “listen” to what i have said but i got toxic talk, after 7 month this month ,
we talked each time we saw each other we had great time but i think i got her confused she told me 2 times we will never get back , but in the same page she act like she still wants me . you can see by all the things i wrote . the last time i saw her 2 days ago she told me i want to run alone with my music i understand that something happen ,
now i know i need to act the same but it still hurt . when something bad is happen you only think the worse like what will be from now on.
this month was the best month from all the 8 month till now .p,s
i only speak with her when i see her i didnt call her or text her .today i saw her and we talked and walked together but it was only simple talk no feeling nothing ,
when we got close to her place she told me have a good evening and that it ,
this could be bad news too me but i still need to see how its going to keep up.because i cant call her or text her , its only when i see her its most 3 times aweek and its not always like this its only when i see her ( now you say how can i see her well we do our sport in the same place ) . i might make her scared of this
i mean i talk about this with one of my family member and he told me its normal he said she did got close to you in the last few weeks dont forget that she didnt talk to you at all last month before that month so every thing is open, he told me as well dont forget you want this relationship not she, and more if you want her you need to be consistent and show her you there for her ,
now if she get cold like this for the next month then you need to think about change your thought about her.
but dont forget that one month ago she didnt even want to look at you .
the problem is its hurts that she now pulls away .
oh and he also said think about it like this , she scare that if she will surrender to be with you she will get hurt again , you need to show her by be there and act all the positive way to show her she can trust you .i know hes right but how do i make my self strong as steel and not feel hurt?
You can still feel hurt. It happens all the time. Those are feelings that come and go. I think the deal is not to dwell on it, and if you catch yourself dwelling, try to reframe your focus to something else that brings you joy, there must be something right? Trust it. Dwelling on the negatives will leave you living in negativity.
Also, it might help you if you see her in the street to maybe not try so hard to have a conversation with her or get invited to her place. Sometimes just a simple “hey” and keep going with your day will do a lot. It interrupts the patterns she already expects from you. It’s not going to change everything overnight, but it’s a step in the right direction.
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