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Thank you. I just noticed her sister removed me from facebook. Maybe she told her sister bad things about me so she did that? My friend messaged me saying she befriended this guy that was hitting on her a while back!!! I’m driving myself crazy here. I’m trying to stop obsessing over her but it’s so insanely hard! What do you think??
No expert but it sounds like she is playing mind games. Probably because you didn’t go to her event and she wants you to feel her pain and more. I am in a similar situation when it comes to this holiday. They say do NOT give her anything unless you two are making progress as a couple. It gives them all the power and makes you look desperate. I wanna give my ex everything in a few days but I know that won’t help. If the thousands of other things you gave her for forgiveness didn’t work, this won’t either. Stay strong.
My name is Kevin and I would really like some support and any advice if you can. My ex and I were together for a year and a half. She broke up with me 12 days ago and I’m on day 4 of NC. She broke up with me saying I was disrespectful but after the break up she also said I had helped her during the hardest times of her life when no one else would!! I was always there when she needed me and I was always as supportive and caring as possible. I went over to her house 8 days after the break up to ask if she wanted to study or go running. She was very rude and wouldn’t give me the time of day to speak to me for more than a minute. Two hours later she apologized for being mean and invited me to study the following day but then cancelled on me at the last minute without even giving me a reason and then ignoring me!! I ended up putting my relationship status to single since she did the same and she ended up attacking me on facebook and then blocking me after I defended myself. She went to an old post where I told her I love her and called me a giant liar. We both said horrible things to each other and I mean HORRIBLE. When we were together, neither could get enough of the other! Do you guys think she is still interested based on what I’ve told you?? I mean she did act somewhat jealous when I posted being single plus she apologized and invited me over after being cold to me in person but then canceled without giving me a reason and then ignored me. What do you guys think? Any advice would be amazing!! She is the love of my life!! I can’t imagine life without her!! Please help me!!
I’ve been working out more like I used to before I met her just to get my mind clear. The thing is though, I called her every name in the book out of spite because I wanted her to feel my pain which was pretty stupid now that I think about it. Every time we’ve fought in the past we’ve ALWAYS forgiven each other and reconnected. Val, I would ask questions like you mentioned that only made me feel worse too! Questions like “have you missed me” and other foolish things to say that my emotions made me do. She was the kind of girl who would stay up very late just to cuddle next to me at night. Everyone’s telling me that after I told her off, if I leave her alone for months she’ll start to realize maybe I am gone. I’ve just never been the kind of guy to leave things to chance. But after what I said, contacting her in any way will guaranteed have no positive impact. Honestly, I don’t know how many people may agree with this but the evenings are the hardest moments. Every night we’d be together and now every night that we’re separated just feels so miserable. Going to sleep is the worst because I see her in my dreams every night.. If she didn’t think that I cheated on her things wouldn’t be nearly as complicated but she has it down that I did but I could never do something so hurtful to someone I care about.. She’s the only women I long for..
Update….
So basically I messed up. I gave in and foolishly texted her “Hey Alanna, how are you” to which she replied “Good and yourself?”. All I said after that was “I feel awesome, been going to the gym a lot more. What’ve you been up to?” And she never responded after that. I went over to her place the next day just to talk as friends. I saw her peak through the window and she tried ignoring me. I called her and promised I wasn’t trying to get back together. Just hoping we could talk for a sec.. And she said, more angry then I’ve ever heard her speak “You obviously have no respect for me” and hung up after that. I cried my eyes out and texted her horrible, horrible things. She then told me that she heard I had cheated on her which I never did. I feel like she’s just saying that to justify the break up but at this point I feel like there is no hope for this relationship… No contact was killing me but at this point it’s either no contact or move on. I feel like the only way would be if she was to reach out to me during no contact but after the things I said I doubt she ever will… I know I should’ve stayed no contact.. I just feel so miserable inside.. Anybody with advice would be much appreciated..
You guys are awesome by the way. I’ll definitely be updating here if anything happens!!
I used to get daily emails from Kevin but for the passed few days I haven’t gotten anything!!
Thanks you guys and Khine, I think you’re absolutely right about that. I’m dying to talk to her all the time but if she really loves me like she told me EVERYDAY, she will come to her senses and realize how much I respected her and how different her life is without me. And brokenlove, you’re right too. No way should I have to convince someone to be with me when they used to promise me “forever” all the time. If that’s true they will realize what they’re missing. My only promlem I may have is ignoring her calls (if she calls) but I’ll certainly do my best to stay no contact.
Khine, in your experiences after being dumped, how long has it typically taken for your ex to reach out to you while you’re doing no contact?
My only hope is no contact? I appreciate the help guys. It looks like that’s my only option now.. I miss her but you’re both right. If anyone else has any opinions or light to shed on my situation please do so. I would appreciate any opinions!!
The last time we got back together I gave her a week of space and then went to her house to apologize and everything was great… At least I thought it was. I wanna go back over but she made it very clear to stay away.. She seems to hate me and I feel like no contact would only make her forget about me and move on… Please help me anybody!!
Probably not the smartest question to ask but I was feeling some tension and I didn’t think a simple question could cause so much damage.
We reconciled about a week ago and then last night she exploded like a volcano. I asked her if she still had any anger towards me and she just went off like crazy out of nowhere. You’re right though, I feel like no contact doesn’t have as much of an impact in my situation. I feel like everything could be worked out just by talking but she just won’t even listen. She told me to F off and stop talking to her family which I should’ve done in the first place. We were so happy and out of nowhere she doesn’t know what she wants. Should I just begin no contact all over again or do something else?
I met with her brother today and he told me she had been much more outgoing since the breakup and seems to be a lot happier. However, her brother is moving out and she hates him so it could just be because she’s happy he’s leaving? I don’t know whether to think she’s happy for real, trying to compensate or just happy because he’s leaving. Please help me I don’t wanna lose her. I love her more then life itself. Please give me any opinions you may have!! I really need more people to talk to through this hard time.
