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I’m sorry for what happened to you :/ I hope everything gets resolved and you get to go back home.
You know in all reality she’s not making you happy. Even if you both got back together she would still mess with your emotions. She’s very defensive because she knows she’s messing up. You can do way better trust me. She might not ever change there has to be more to her not wanting a relationship right now. You don’t deserve these games. I know it’s hard to hear these things and to move on. How do you feel about moving on now?
If she knew you started dating someone else she would regret everything and feel worse about not making up her mind. I think she’s just not telling you something, her giving that “I’m not wanting a relationship now” excuse sounds like she’s talking to other ppl. I’m not saying she is but her excuse doesn’t sound right. If you move on she shouldn’t be mad bc it’s her fault she couldn’t make up her mind. Don’t ever feel bad to find another girl.Sorry for the late response. Yah like she doesn’t want to look stupid accepting you soon after it was her choice to break up? I have a feeling something or someone is telling her not to accept you or a feeling she has. I would just ask her what is holding her back from having you again.
I was even about to say just make her a little jealous by saying you went on a date or something to give her a boost but it’s up to you it’s a tough situation.
Shes really tough. If you still want her, I would just back off and think about doing no contact for 2-3 weeks. She needs to get her mind set. You going to her all the time is just confusing her more. And don’t be close to her and give in until she makes up her mind.
My opinion, she’s not someone safe to date. Talking to you, you seem too good for her and you could do better. She’s going to keep messing with your mind. And I don’t think she will change. You want someone that knows they want you and give you that smooth relationship without these problems. This girl will get with dudes and break up with them and give them the same problems. No matter what you do, don’t allow her to string you on. There are many girls out there that are serious and mature and will love you more than anything and stick with you through thick and thin.
If you still want this to work out with her, just do no contact I think that’s the best thing! Keep me posted!I know this might seem bad, but her attitude seems a bit off. I would go out and date other girls and you will realize there is way better out there. I actually found my boyfriend on okcupid and he only lives 10 min away from me and it was the best choice I made. When I meet people in person it’s hard bc all guys I met in person was attracted to what’s on the outside and ignored who I am. And they were all douches.
I think for you, try that okcupid app and see who you meet. Trust me it will take your mind off this chick. And I know you will start drifting away and I know she will come running after you. If she’s not attractive to you anymore, it’s a red flag. You will start to realize you could do way better!
If you still want her back and you know you can’t get your mind off of her, then simply give her a lot of space and she will come running. But I mean ALOT of space as in don’t message her maybe just text her once a week. She keeps coming in to you and pulling back again bc you give her too much. You just have to stay distant.
I’m sure you will make the right choices 🙂 and for a girl to be selfish isn’t good! Be carefulYah I think it’s the best thing to do for now to get a clear understanding of what she wants. She is pretty confusing I’m not gonna lie. But I think she will come back wondering why you aren’t giving her attention. Did you do the flower thing yet? If not I would do it if she comes back and it ends up working out this time.
She might complain you were not there or complain you backed off just be prepared for it and I would give her the flowers then and ask her out. But only when you feel it’s ready. Again don’t give her what she wants yet until she fixes herself and you know you both are on good terms again.Damn your girl is confusing hahaha I think she’s just confused. But if I were you just play it cool try not to give her too much attention. Whenever you think it’s time, get her flowers and ask her out a romantic way. You can even include the note in the flowers.
She should like that a lot. Hopefully lol try not to be her side guy bc you want her to be into you as something more than that.And no she’s talking out the other end she’s trying to make you feel bad and run after her when she said have a nice life. I still don’t know why she’s mad tho. But yah true fact she wouldnt be calling you if she was serious! She still likes you
Okay there is still a chance to resolve this. She’s acting salty I agree. Yes it will be a great idea for a note and flowers she will love it 🙂 that’s why I was sayin to make her feel special. Idk why she would be acting like that tho. Did you remember anything that went out of line when y’all were hanging out? Btw how old are you both I forgot to ask to get a clear image bc I know how to deal with different ages and situations…except older than me lol but yah I think flowers will clear it up. Letter is a strong one. Let me know what happens!
And also, I would tell her the truth that you want a relationship and you don’t want her to feel like she’s being used. Ask her out again! I think it’s safe to do it now 🙂 lol
Lol it’s great you are getting along well. I said though I wouldn’t do anything with her while she isn’t with you bc now she might not feel the need to be with you while you are having sex already. I told you that you want her to miss that and be able to want to get in a relationship with you to have all those things back.
Trust me I know it’s hard to contain ourselves when we have our loves in bed with us it’s hard for me too. But really if you want her back don’t give her all that she won’t come back when she knows it’s easy to sleep with you and have that side of you.
I had an ex that left me for another girl. I ended up sleeping with him and hoping that at the same time he would leave the other girl. I kept avoiding him and he would come running after me and begging for us to see each other. So I gave in many times while he kept cheating on her telling me he was going to leave her. Turns out he never left her and he still kept begging til I knew he was using me bc he got what he wanted. I lied to him telling him I had a new boyfriend and of course he got mad and we stopped talking for more than a year now and he’s probably still with her.
When I kept avoiding the sex he was thinking hard about leaving her bc he knew he couldn’t get that out of me and I just kept giving in. If I didn’t do it he would have left her and been with me now though I’m happy it didn’t work out anyways bc he was a terrible person.
I just don’t want that happening to you and we have to avoid that. I don’t want you getting hurt from her. You got to maybe back off a little and give her space to miss you. Just don’t mess up if you want her back. Other then that I’m glad you have her close to you! Congrats on that. Be careful! 🙂I wouldn’t worry about it. She’s just being extremely childish to get jealous over something small like that. Even though she dated someone else she honestly has no room to get jealous. That means she wants attention from you she wants you to run after her.
Just take her out and maybe surprise her with flowers to get her mind off. And leave your phone out and visible so she won’t think you are hiding something. Make her feel like she’s the only one in your life by doing a small surprise trust me it works everytime lol
You are on a good page with her you progressed with her so much. I’m really glad she finally left the guy! Congrats on that. She loves you. See how it goes with her and possibly see if she wants to reunite together? Tell her you love her so much make her feel special.And yes you guys can hang out its cool but just text less and basically don’t be attached yet. This stage is possible her mind can change like crazy. So just be careful not to be too close and make her say forget it.
Yah it’s extremely obvious!! Lol you know what, just let her ru the show. Have her make that decision to come back to you. It will be that idea of hers. I wouldn’t bring up anything about you two being together for now, she probably doesn’t want to look stupid for coming back quick like that. Just wait till she breaks up with the guy, and don’t ask her anything about relationships at all.
Whenever she finishes the other guy off she might come back again to you and ask if y’all could be together most likely. But don’t go further with her again you don’t want her to have a boyfriend and still have you at the same time. Don’t treat her too close right now. She will figure it all out at least she knows you like her and still have feelings for her. Just don’t be too much with her yet you don’t want her to suddenly back off. The more distant you are, the more she will want to run after you.Wow that’s a long time which is awesome. Yah she’s a bit confusing but her actions show a lot more. I think she likes you a lot but maybe she doesn’t want to say it yet bc maybe she doesn’t want to look stupid this early after breaking up? I have no clue she does seem confused though and yet she is confusing.
If I were you I would just back it off again and text her way less bc I think she needs that time to think again. If she liked you as a “friend” it wouldn’t be that much bothering texts from her and wanting to spend this much time with you as well as continuously asking these questions. I don’t even see my guy friend that much just like once a month lol
Let’s say her actions are more obvious then her words. Looks like you gotta go back to the slow boat and see what happens.There is not a problem with that, I think it is safe to ask her. I’m sure the condition she has wont affect that. Like she asked you if you think of her so if she asked that, it means she is. It’s just the huge signs I’m paying attention to.
If she didn’t like you she wouldn’t keep messaging you like in the beginning, she wouldn’t agree much with hanging out. Since she asked the “do you think of me” question I think you are in the safe zone to ask. Just ask one or two questions to just take it slow.
Lol don’t be sorry about asking for this much advice, we all been through this and it’s tough and we help each other get through it. Don’t worry!
