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And also, on fb don’t put any negative statuses or anything about the relationship. Just put happy things as if you are not bothered. It will be attractive when she sees you are doing just fine and not grieving over her. Hopefully everything works out!
I’m really glad you are doing no contact. Even though you may be somewhat ready to act chill when you see her, she definitely still needs that time to miss you. You know what they say when you lose something you realize what you had. She needs time to get to that point of realizing and I’m glad you are doing that.
It is confusing in why she left you, to me, it just seems she’s confused in what she wants. I know when my bf broke up with me I still kept his things bc I missed him to death. I had another ex that got me things but I threw them away immediately bc I did not want any memory or cared for him at all. She obviously does care about you. If negative things have happened, she will forget it during the NC and remember how great it was to have you there and the great memories will come back.
After NC, (if she hasn’t contacted you by then) send out a text and see how she responds. If she’s still acting the same way you know to move on from there. Her unblocking you is bc she noticed you were fading away from her, she probably wanted to see your statuses and see what’s going on with you which is a good sign.
Just give it time you are doing great with the no contact. That’s an important step.Hey! I’m so sorry this happened to you. You seem like a really great guy from what I read. It seems to me that she is just confused right now. Do you think she has feelings for that other guy? But then maybe she still can’t get you off her mind?
To fix this confusion, I would totally not talk to her for 30 days. Keep the NC going. Because if you are always there, it will make it easier for her to stay distant. Versus when you cut her off for a while, she will start wondering what happened to you, and will start worrying about losing you for good if she really loves you. And she will miss you as well she might consider wanting you back during this NC. Just give her space to think about you.
If it happened she did message you before the end of the 30 days just answer her without showing her you are needy just play it cool and don’t talk about the relationship. You both seemed like you had a great relationship going. Give it time and be strong about it 🙂 A week is not enough for her to really miss the good times it’s too early. Take it slow when you both talk again and let her bring up the relationship you both had. She seems she cares about you by messaging you already so that’s a good sign. I know it’s hard and we all been through it and that’s why I came here as well. Give it time, everything will reveal itself and come into place.Good luck!!
I believe seeing her after such a short break up could have been a rebound. BUT believe it or not, I was in a relationship for 5 years and I found a guy I fell deeply in love with a month later. And I was with him for almost a year now while my ex was begging for me back but I ended up blocking him. Because I realized this new man is treating me way better, we had no problems while my ex was very insecure and treated me like dirt.
Think about it, there is a reason she broke up with her ex of 7 years. Regardless if they try it again, it’s possible it won’t work out if they had problems before or whatever reason it was.
If I were you, I would do the NC for 30 days or longer If needed, send a short friendly message, and if you both had a great relationship, she will miss you for sure. See what happens from there but take everything slow if she comes back. I think everything was just too fast for her right now bc her mind was still on the ex.Good luck!
So update, one of my older friends that have been through many relationships told me to text him “thinking of you”. After two weeks of NC. I told her I wanted to wait another 2 weeks at least but she told me to trust her so I did it.
As soon as I texted him this he texted me paragraphs saying how much he wanted to see me and how depressed he was about our break up and his job. My friend told me to tell him I’m not leaving his side and I’m not accepting the break up. I thought it was going to be pretty demanding for him but it wasn’t. He told me he loved me and said he just didn’t want to dig me into a hole with him. But I still said I’m not leaving his side. And he just said he wants to get out of this situation on his own still.
But he’s coming back when he’s pulled himself out and said we can see each other today although he’s not ready for a relationship yet he asked to see me. Will see how it goes. I will not have my hopes too high still but I’ll just be calm around him.
Thanks for the advice this blogging helped me a lot.I totally understand Laura. It’s just crazy to me how one person can be so affectionate and one second boom he just cuts you off. I know it’s not a last minute thing and it’s probably something that’s been on his mind. If he does come back I’m going to talk to him about communication between one another about our feelings so surprises like this don’t happen. And I will firmly say it because I know I totally didn’t deserve it.
Then again, I’m not having any hope of him coming out to me at all. Time will tell.Thank you Laura. I know it’s just a scary place for me I know what you mean. I’m hoping for the worst so I won’t get my hopes up. It just tears me up inside how now I feel like he was fake to me. Does that mean he doesn’t love me?
I’ve been also hanging out with friends it did take my mind off a bit. I’m getting there. 🙁It’s been a little more than a week since we have talked and I’m freaking out. I feel like he will never contact me again. This is harder than I thought.
Thank you for your response! Yes Laura I do agree with you. I just have that feeling he needed the time to think it out. He does not have any social media so that part helps a lot. I am just hoping this whole thing works. It’s weird how he is the one that was talking about our future but then he probably got scared maybe due to the fact that he started that job and financially he wasn’t ready? Who knows.
I just hope everything goes well. Trust me it hurt me really bad. And still does. I miss him already.
