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Don’t worry about it. I can’t tell if it’s true or not, but back off a little and let her message you next time. And let her choose to see you. Don’t ask her again for now.
I wouldn’t worry about it! She will answer just give it time.Alright that’s cool. I hope everything goes good tonight! See how she acts around you.
Yah just be chill. You are right she wouldn’t want to go out if she wasn’t interested. Did you ask her to hang or did she?
And there is also no problem if you wanna be the first to text and say hello or something. Just keep it short and don’t text too much. Sometimes leaving her for a good hour or more will make her wonder more about you.
If she asks what’s up just be like out with some friends or something. It will make her mind blow haha trust meThanks! Lol yes take it slow. Now she’s going to get to that point where she will want that other loving “boyfriend” side of you. Don’t give it to her while she’s with another guy.
If she gets to the point of getting to close, then tell her like whoa you have a bf. Then she will realize she can’t have you like that while with him. Eventually that will be her step of choosing. If she agrees with you, then back off again and she will be thinking about it more and in time she will leave him and go to you.
Don’t be an easy catch for her. I like how you are managing things now. Sorry I jumped a few steps ahead but just saying hahaI just saw your other messages lol no you are not wrong at all. Some people that never been through break ups don’t understand the position we are in. It is hard to move on and we keep wanting to find a similar person to who we had or just not anyone else at all. That’s definitely normal. Don’t listen to them. You do you. I know how it feels trust me. My friends actually sided with me bc they knew who my man was and the situation was just odd. Idk if you read my post but yah it was interesting. And yes we ended up going back together again and I’m happy to have him again.
I know in time if she does not cope with you and she keeps beating around the bush and avoids a relationship with you then you know it’s time to move on. But this doesn’t seem like the case.
See you are still on her mind. If she was completely happy with the new guy, she would NOT be contacting you like this. Yes just answer her as long as she’s the one contacting you. You know, she has been waiting all day from you from the way she messaged you. Pretty insane lol
Just answer her there is no problem with that. I like your answer. I would ask her if she still likes you and see what she says. It’s your choice though. It seems she wants you there while she’s with the other guy. Maybe she’s just not happy with him after all.Lol if I was with a guy and we broke up I wouldn’t take the time to keep messaging them and even hang out with them if I wasn’t interested.
I’m glad everything is going well 🙂 shopping is a good start, got to have her see something fresh and new haha
Yes stay away for now and let her have to time to think about everything and take it in. Hopefully she turns around when she realizes you are not there and she misses it.I personally think she will contact you. Just don’t contact her first. Let her run the show bc you don’t want her to have both guys at her grasp. When she sees you fade away and not act as close as before, she will start to worry and miss that. Again I think she’s confused.
So you are good so far. Her answer is accepting you to be in her life. She still wants you to contact her lol that’s why she’s been trying to get to you. Just stay away again and she will hopefully give in to you 😉 it’s obvious she still has feelings.Well as long as she doesn’t talk about the guy a lot and say good things about him then that should be a good sign haha she didn’t say anything good about the new guy from what you said.
Yah totally just keep it deactivated for now, we don’t want her profile bothering you. It’s best to keep it out until you are ready. And it’s kind of good bc she will be wanting to find out more by messaging you and she would want to find out more if she can’t see anything about you online. That’s the key.
Yes, just give her maybe 2 weeks until you first contact her. Let her do all the contacting for now. We want her to miss having you contact her and miss your loving self. So take it slow. You are doing great.Sounds like it went well. See she did go in your fb girls become anxious when they miss someone that was her only way to see your updates.
Maybe she did get a text from the dude who knows. Was she obvious about it being the guy or she wasn’t really clear on it? And the smell thing isn’t weird I felt that way with my man. It’s natural to miss a scent from a person you loved. I’m happy it went well tho!Also, from what you are saying, it seems she’s still torn between you and the other guy. Never talk about the other guy she’s apparently with. If you insult him or talk bad about him to her, she will like him more and look at you bad.
Just never bring him up and stay positive. You will do good. Glad she wanted to see you that’s a great step.Maybe you gave in too early, thing is I don’t want her to know you are available yet bc she might think she can have the other dude and still get to talk to you at the same time. Just try to avoid that.
Other than that from what happened, it’s obvious she misses you. Still keep your cool and don’t bring up the relationship yet. And I wouldn’t really jump on it yet. Just wait it out and take it slow, give her time to think it out and make it her idea to come back. Definitely try not to text her too much. What you did is not bad, I mean she kept messaging you and it’s okay to answer to that.
It’s easy to get weed idk why she asked for that lol do you think she was trying to get your attention in some way?
Looks great so far just keep it chill and don’t message her too much. Let her bring up the relationship and make all the moves and you’ll be good.No problem 🙂 so have you totally kept the no contact going or you messed up in any way? Just making sure you stick with it!
She is definitely going to have you in the back of her mind. Thing is, you not contacting her makes her wonder and question what happened to you. And you want to keep that going.
Honestly I only did no contact for two weeks bc my situation was different but it took me a week to get out the house. I stayed at a friends which helped me ALOT. I went to the movies, went shopping, it just took my mind off for the moment. I know what helped me the most was just being with friends. Try to plan a vacation.
How long have you been doing NC so far??That’s great! I’m glad you are keeping yourself busy. Whenever you are ready, you can activate it again and she will see how much you changed by getting a new car and seeing how happy you are right now. TRUST ME being a girl, I know she will look through your Facebook. When she notices you aren’t bothered anymore by the situation she might become attracted again. Even if you go on dates or going out with friends, post it on there! Show you are having a good time.
Hey! Sorry for the late reply I read the update. That’s totally expected and don’t worry. You just need to quit contact with her. She just still seems confused and she might be using him to fill that whole of having no one right now. Her texting you shows she still cares. Just don’t message her anymore until the end of the NC. Or until you feel it’s the right time like if you need to wait longer.
I know it hurts and I feel your pain. She does not seem stable honestly. Seems like she’s just trying to make you jealous by posting something so early. Just deactivate again if you need to so you don’t have to keep facing this. Trust me it helps a lot. When you stay distant she will become more extracted to you as crazy as this sounds. Stay away for now.
Go on dates if you can try okcupid it’s like one of the best apps to make you feel confident by meeting new people and during that time she might come around again. It will definitely take your mind off of her in the meantime. Especially meeting new fresh people. I’m not saying find your new gf there just explore around 🙂
When you feel you are ready and still have interest in your ex, contact her but don’t say too much.
