Dopierk

I agree with mosis, do a strict no contact. You are too available to your ex right now, he will start to think he can have you anytime he wants and will use you and abuse you. You have to regain some power in this situation. I spent the first month of my break up dropping everything when my ex contacted me, it was a huge mistake. It helped nothing.

Well that was sweet of him! I think at the very least it still shows he cares. I hope you don’t have to give up your dog… 🙁 I would go back into NC if I were you though.

Oh no, your dog bit someone? 🙁

Good for you on sticking to NC. You can do it! Trust me, it’s going to help you feel better.

He’s definitely still thinking about you. You guys were together 8 months plus the time before your first break up/break? There’s no way he doesn’t think about you.

Did you end up meeting with that guy?

I just don’t know if a phone call is a good idea for me. We rarely talked on the phone when we were together and he hates talking on the phone. I think I’m going to go with a text when my NC is up. If he doesn’t reply I’ll wait a week or two before I try again.

Alicia59, I’d say give it two more chances at reaching out. I’d wait a week or two before you try again. I don’t have experience with this. I’m actually in NC right now myself, I will start my first contact text message next week. But anyways, I have read a lot of articles on reaching out to an ex after NC and I think there is definitely still hope for him to respond to you. You just have to figure out what kind of text to send, something so interesting he will feel compelled to respond to.

Just remember your ex misses you too.

Going on the date is up to you. It might give you some perspective and make you feel better. But don’t force yourself if your not up to it.

I have started working out a lot more and I have put energy into getting in the best shape of my life. In fact, I have dropped a whole pant size over the last two months. Feels incredible.

I’ve just done things that make me happy. I love football, so I have been going to alumni watch parties for my school. I’ve been focusing on my career goals, I’ve been going out with friends and people that make me feel good.

Today, I went out and did a little shopping. I’ve also started a couple of new hobbies.

Don’t get me wrong, it hasn’t been easy for me. I actually cried for a solid 20 mins today about my ex.

The things that have gotten me through no contact are my supportive friends. My one friend had a falling out with her bf last year (he cheated, they broke up) and did NC on three separate occasions and after many months of NC and building their relationship back slowly she has him back. So her as an example has helped me stick to it.

Also, just trusting in the leap of faith, it took me a while to believe in NC but it has helped me heal and I do feel stronger than when I started it. I feel calmer about everything. I still cry sometimes and I’m still scared but I know no matter what I’m going to be ok.

It’s also has been a mentality for me when I’m feeling particularly sad, I tell myself that he is still missing me and he is still thinking about me. And it helps a little. Also thinking that if he doesn’t want me back after all is said and done ,that it’s his loss not mine. Because I’m an incredible person.

I went on one date with someone, I didn’t enjoy it. I wanted it to end the second it started, I kept thinking about my ex the whole time. I’m not ready to date other people. It would just be a rebound.

I would say try and go the whole 30 days NC. If he texts you don’t respond. The only reason you should break NC is if he specifically says he wants you to be his girlfriend again. If he just texts to see how you are don’t respond. He won’t forget about you. He won’t move on. He will miss you even more. (this is what a lot of experts say). Fill your 30 days with friends, hobbies, work, shopping…whatever makes you happy. Focus on your happiness, healing and getting your confidence back. You will be infinitely more attractive to him.

You can do it! It’s going to be ok. I know exactly how you feel and I’m still doing NC just like you. You are not alone. I know you are in a lot of pain right now. But just remember pain is temporary. I’m here for you! 🙂