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Hey, just heard on the radio Blink-182 has a new album coming out next year. Bet you’ve got a copy pre-ordered. 😉 Hope you’re doing well.
What about this?
“Hey, I heard on the radio Blink 182 is coming out with a new album in 2016. You must be so excited right now. I hope you are doing well.”
I’m not sure about the wording of this but I think this is something he could respond to. He loves this band and this news just dropped today.
I wish you guys the best!
We did talk on the phone occasionally. But he really hates talking on the phone. So, he would really hate it if I called him out of the blue. I’ll just try and think of a good, harmless text. I’ll post it tomorrow and maybe you can give me some feedback?
It’s been a really tough second half of 2015. Break up, major sickness and lots of other personal issues. I’m just really ready for 2016.
Yea, you’re going to have to let the past go. You can’t live in fear that he is going to break up with you again. You’ll feel insecure and awful all the time.
The last communication we had was still the stupid turkey text I sent last month. It’s been about 22 days. Crazy. I’ve been out of town for Thanksgiving and I’ve been dealing with some really difficult personal situations, so I had to put texting him on the back burner for a while. I didn’t need the added stress of communicating with him.
I really would love to text him and tell him I have his stuff and see if we can meet up. But I fear that will scare him even further away. I just don’t know. I wish there was a way I could accidentally run into him. I feel way more confident talking to him in person that via text. But I don’t know how to make this happen.
Mosis, …no. I don’t know what to say to him. ideas??
Ras, I think you are just nervous about your procedure and freaking yourself out. Just take a deep breath and relax. Maybe he just needs some space tonight, you guys just spent the whole weekend together. Don’t over think this. It sounds like you guys are doing fine.
Hi everyone,
I hope you all had a wonderful thanksgiving weekend.
it’s been two weeks since I texted him. I think I’m going to text him on Thursday this week, something more direct but friendly, something it will be impossible for him not to reply to.
I’m feeling SO MUCH BETTER THOUGH. I haven’t cried in like 5 days, which is like a record since we broke up. I think about him 10 times less than I did. I feel like I’m FINALLY in a good place.
If he doesn’t respond to this message, I’m telling him about the stuff of his I have, dropping it off with him and moving the hell on. I can’t do this to myself anymore. I want him back still, but I feel like this is it for me. If I don’t get some interest from him this week, I’m going back into NC permanently. At least I tried. The world is still standing. And I will find love one day.
Hi Cindy,
I’m sorry to hear about your break up.
Unfortunately, calling him out on why he is behaving this way will only push him further away.
I would stick to NC if I were you and then reach out to him again in 30 or so days.
Ras, congrats. I’m thrilled for you. 🙂
Mosis, it’s a really good thing she was mad. It definitely still shows that she cares about you. I hope things get better around your birthday.
As for me… I don’t really have much of an update.
I sent my second text, the turkey inside joke. There was no response, like you know, and now I’m just waiting and trying to figure out what to say next, or if I should just fold and reach out to give back his stuff.
Either way I’m not texting him again until after Thanksgiving. I’m going out of state and he is going home to family. I’d be wasting my time texting him over a holiday weekend. My message would easily be overlooked.
I went on date tonight and it didn’t go so great. This pretty much sums up how I’m feeling:
The guy was really nice. He was very attractive, sweet, very much a gentleman. He will make some woman a very happy person one day. But not me. We had absolutely no chemistry and that’s the hard part.
The whole night just felt really forced. I know first dates are always kind of awkward, but we just didn’t seem to connect and I could tell he was feeling that same way too. It’s not easy for me to right away be myself to someone new, it takes me a little while to warm up to people. I’m an introvert. But just comparing it to my first date with my ex, our first date was so easy, so natural. Five minutes in, it felt like talking to an old friend. We just had this unspoken bond.
Once I got to my car tonight and started driving home, I started bawling my eyes out because it made me miss my ex even more.
I have never had such insane chemistry with someone like I did/do with my ex boyfriend.
I know there are plenty of guys out there and I am sure there are dozens of guys I’d have chemistry with like my ex, but it’s so hard to forget this one person. This one person that means SO much to me, this one person I want to be with more than anything.
Just feeling really down tonight. I know I’ll be fine without my ex. The last few days have actually been the most normal in a while in terms of feeling good. But I’m still not ready to let him go and I wish I didn’t have to…
How would I go about contacting him about returning his t shirts/asking for a short, casual meet up?
Hi,
NC is just for the person you were in a relationship with. You should wait until after NC to get your stuff back from your ex. Try and breathe and let NC heal you. It will get better. I can tell you that much.
Also, side note… how do you nicely tell a guy you are no longer interested in going on a date with them?
I started talking to this guy the other day online, I mostly was just looking to boost my confidence by going on a date, but he’s really starting to irritate me and honestly I don’t think we have anything in common the more I learn about him…
He’s making me miss my ex even more. Not good. How do I kindly decline?
You know, the first time I reached out and he replied right away…He still seemed a little confused why I was texting out of the blue. So maybe he is just trying to figure out what is going on. Maybe when I did NC he figured I’d moved on.
You are right, whatever is meant to happen, will happen. All I can do is try my best. I’ll find love in the end with him or someone else.
You’re good, girl. I wouldn’t worry too much about the no label situation. The important part is your exclusive. You’ll be calling each other bf/gf again in no time. Just enjoy being together again.
I texted him Saturday…so two days. He’s not the type to ignore. He’s only ever not replied to one message I sent him. And that was when I accepted his apology when he blew me off the last time we saw each other in September. My text didn’t really need a reply. I did NC right after that.
He is very stubborn. So I think this falls into one of two categories:
A) He is trying to stand by his decision to break up with me. And either has moved on or still has feelings but he is fighting them. And is not replying to send a message and/or doesn’t want to tell me in words that we are over for good.
Or
B) He still has feelings, but is feeling confused and conflicted, doesn’t understand why I’m texting him and why I’m being friendly and all after ignoring him for over a month.
Or maybe he is still feeling “stuck in his life” and still upset about his job situation. And he found my light hearted inside joke insensitive.
I don’t know. I’m going to stop overanalyzing the situation. I’m going to try to have an awesome week. And I’ll reach out when I’m ready again and be natural and friendly.
Ras217, that’s very good news! Happy for you! 😀
Thanks for letting me know that everything I’m feeling is normal. I was starting to wonder if I was going crazy/acting desperate.
I ended up sending the turkey inside joke. At least I know now what not to send (memories of us). But other than that I don’t know what this means. I don’t know if this means he’s still conflicted, he’s moved on, he has no interest in talking to me, he doesn’t know what to say… I don’t know.
I do feel like if he were to see me in person and see how much I have changed that maybe we would have a shot, or at least I would get closure. But honestly, I don’t know if he will even agree to meet me. I think I have to tread very lightly from now on.
I guess I’ll try texting him again this weekend/early next week. If that’s a no response, I think I’ll have to start considering how to give him his stuff back/get closure after Thanksgiving.
The last thing I want is to come off desperate or like a girl who can’t let go.
Yea, I agree with your plan. Thank you so much with all your advice these past few weeks. It has been very helpful. I’m feeling a lot better today about everything. There are endless opportunities for love in this world. If not now, I’ll find someone even better one day.
But for the next couple weeks, I’m going to give it one last shot. Because I still think he is worth it.
It’s good to hear that you are at least doing ok. I wish I had more advice to offer.
Well, he hasn’t replied so far. It’s been nearly 12 hours, unlikely at this point. But who knows…
Not going to lie, got a little upset today about it. But I’m over it now. Not going to dwell on it.
But I do feel like I need to be realistic. He’s obviously not going to respond to any memories of us right now. I think I have only maybe one or two more shots at sparking a conversation. So I’ll have to try something less bold, probably just stick to his interests and being friendly.
Also, probably need to wait a week or so before I try again. Not giving up yet, but starting to come to terms that I may never get him back.
I still have some of his t shirts. I don’t know what to do about them. He’s too stubborn to ask for them back.
Is it sad that if this doesn’t work out, I just want to see him one last time for closure? Because I really want that.
How are you all doing? Any progress?
I’m going to focus on being happy this week. I have to be more positive. I’m going to be ok no matter what happens. Because I said I would.
