DanMurphy919

you mean when your nc is up and if she’s still dating then what would you say to her?

im just going to reply since im about to pass out

if in say, november you have healed from nc and dont come off as needy, and you want to contact her just say something like

“hey i just went to (a place you went with her as a couple) with a couple of the guys (dont say names, intrigue her as who the guys are, or just lie and really have not gone with the guys at all) and it reminded me of you. I actually had a smile on my face. I hope your doing good and hope you have a happy Thanksgiving.

that way, even if she is dating you can try and come back into her life as a friend for now. and from there you can patiently win her back

yes i have

and the male prespective (and this was exactly my mindset when i did it in the past) was that he knows your bestfriend is your bestfriend for a reason. He knows that if he were to cut her out then he would completely cut you out. So therefore he has kept her on his page as a way to potentially still think about you

i am assume that they don’t really associate correct? and therefore when she tells you to not get your hopes up she is not talking as someone with inside information but as someone who cares about you and doesn’t want to see you get hurt, correct?

well if my assumption is correct riddle me this. If he seriously went through everything and took the time and effort to effectively cut you out of his life, why not the bestfriend?

Athens,

or what i did wrong. like she said i did nothing wrong and there wasn’t anyone else but then she says she wasn’t feeling it with me? after saying she was happy the whole time we were together? like what was i doing/not doing that she didn’t believe in?

i find that “miss me” by andy grammer really helps haha

i think for a month you need to no worry about it and if your emotional ready in 30 days then yes contact him. Now let me ask you something. How close are you and your bestfriend really??

bout to show you the male prespective

very simple

guys ALWAYS keep the bestfriend because when we start to miss you and realize we are idiots we go to the one person who knows you best. In other words it is a contact line. Leaving the door cracked a little be but not shut! Sounds like a little time for both of you and this situation will resolve itself in a good way 🙂

LA

you ask if she still thinks about you. I would say yes. Not in the same way you are though since she’s the one that ended it. And i don’t know your story so i really don’t know. But no matter what you will never forget each other. I talked to my first true love the other day and we had a HORRIBLE high school break up, i told her what was going on and that i fell i didn’t handle myself with this girl in the best way but that i did a lot better than i did when i was in high school. I asked this girl (the first true love) how she would remember me, and (aside from each others virginity) she said “i’d probably just say you were my ex in my freshman year of high school”. That was 5 years ago (im 2 years older than her) but was probably the best thing because despite the good and bad i now know with every serious relationship they may stop thinking about you but you will never be forgotten.

how long have you been nc?

Athens, Or anyone who knows:

I saw a post yesterday morning where someone was talking about what they were going to say because there no contact was up. I can’t find that post, anyone know what im talking about?

Athens, hard to have faith if she doesn’t