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Would it be to much if I wrote my ex a letter describing today’s event that happened and could I please get some feedback on my last post? Please.. It would really mean a lot to me.
Alright so today at school I saw my ex I approached her and had a very subtle convo wit her when she saw me she could not stop smiling and I kept the convo very short as we’ll.. Am In the right direction towards getting my ex back
During the no contact rule would it be bad if I wrote my ex a letter about me seeing her yesterday?
Danmurphy919 14 days today we ran into each other yesterday and had a subtle convo like 3 minutes too then I said I had to go
bro
a lot of people keep journals. Say how ya miss her, what reminded you of her, how your mad at her, etc. Its a way for you to get it out without breaking nc
so in your case you wrote a letter. Nah i wouldn’t send it. And honestly i would cut out the 3 minutes of subtle convo for afew weeks. You want to be a mystery to her. Ya know?Where is the video even Thompson suggested that I watch if I was interested in bringing down my ex defense mechanism in her subconcious mind. The link he sent was invalid
We’ll it’s been 16 no contact except for that little run in at college but I haven’t had the urge to text/call/email/social media her at all.i still think about her every day but I don’t let my thoughts later my thinking..I jus remember when I bumped in to her at school even tho she has a new bf now and everything that she was almost blushing when she saw me and I was to and the way we were staring in to each other’s eyes and smiling was unforgettable. Do you think that moment made her day seeing me? And when do u think she will try to contact me?
Danmurphy919
Ok but when should I say to her when it is the appropriate time to email her even tho she has a new bf I think u might kno already bout thatyou mean when your nc is up and if she’s still dating then what would you say to her?
im just going to reply since im about to pass out
if in say, november you have healed from nc and dont come off as needy, and you want to contact her just say something like
“hey i just went to (a place you went with her as a couple) with a couple of the guys (dont say names, intrigue her as who the guys are, or just lie and really have not gone with the guys at all) and it reminded me of you. I actually had a smile on my face. I hope your doing good and hope you have a happy Thanksgiving.
that way, even if she is dating you can try and come back into her life as a friend for now. and from there you can patiently win her back
It’s been 17 days no contact with my ex and it’s been even longer since I’ve seen her except for last Wednesday when I bumped into her at school. I don’t feel needy and I don’t clingy anymore at all but I feel like the right thing to do is to jus go the full 30 days or 45 days and really see where I am. So far I’ve accepted that she’s in a new relationship and I’ve accepted that she’s doing stuff with him.. I guess my real question is what is the appropriate time to wait and should I just wait for her to contact me or should my first thing line of contact be through a letter that I can send?
i really don’t think it matters whether she does the first contact or if you do it, just as long as your composed
hypothetical situation
you contact her and she says “i love you but i am seeing someone, and i just don’t see how we could ever work”
how do you respond? (trying to see if your ready like you say)
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