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Yeah I agree I think things are going well. I guess now my trouble is conveying to her that what she did was wrong and in a lot of ways not ok in a way that still shows I forgive her for what she did because I do. At the same time I will have a hard time completely forgetting it.
And even though she is showin remorse for her actions, she hasn’t really shown me she has changed. That doesn’t mean she hasn’t though.
Yeah but even though you’re still in love with your ex it’s good you’re going out and meeting new people.
Things are going well (I think). Been working a lot but I like that since I’m just a poor college kid lol. She texted me on Friday and we talked, she told me he was going camping with her family and her brothers 4H group this weekend and she said she didn’t have anyone to hang out with so I told her she could talk to me if she wanted. So she did and we texted a lot on Saturday because I didn’t work. Saturday I got a thank you card from her in the mail so I told her thank you for the thank you lol. Then she started getting really serious and said she felt bad because she treated me so badly and I still helped her set up for we grad party. Then she started saying stuff like I made so many mistakes and I feel bad, etc. I kind of comforted her and told her I forgave her of all that stuff. But it was getting late and I fell asleep in the middle of the conversation. So sudsy morning I texted her saying sorry I fell asleep we can finish talking whenever you and she hasn’t texted me since which is a bit unusual. Normally she responds at least sayin thank you or something that acknowledges she received the message. If she doesn’t text me tonight I’ll start to wonder but I think it’s good. We were a little flirty on Saturday so that’s good, and she even hinted that she wanted to meet up sometime but I’ll let her chase me a but for now.
That’s great man! I hope you found yourself a wonderful lady! You are a very great guy and deserve someone who makes you happy. I wish you and her the best of luck!
Well I’m glad you’re not in limbo anymore!and I agree I shouldn’t look to much into what she says. It will drive me crazy I I do haha.
I actually have an uncle who lives outside of San Antonio in one of the suburbs (honestly not sure which one lol.) How do you like living there I heard it’s one of the better places in Texas. I’m from rural Minnesota by the way, I’m sure it’s quite different than living down there haha. and I’ve actually helped at a fireworks stand once and they do make good money
My situation is much the same as well. We’ve only talked once this week but she wanted to have a serious talk and she said she doesn’t want to hurt me anymore and that she doesn’t forgive herself for what she’s done to me. She told me she doesn’t want me to wait for her to figure things out. She said I really care about you an still love you but I’m going to follow God. I guess she was implying that it’s not a given that we will get back together when she’s ready to date again. Her unpredictability makes me nervous but I believe we will still get back together eventually.
Pretty frustrating to be in limbo lol. But I’ve been trying to keep busy too. Work is work. Been trying to eat healthier because ice put in a couple pounds from college lol
Hey man, haven’t heard from you in a few days. How’s your situation going? Everything alright?
My thoughts exactly! I just need to keep doing what I’m doing and everything will work out. This was a nice confidence boost. It gives me a lot of motivation to keep working on myself!
So I have another update for you. I guess I kind of broke the rules and talked to her about some serious stuff. One thing led to another and she ended up telling me she still loves me. She said she doesn’t want a relationship right now because she wants to focus on her relationship with God. She also said she sees us being together whenever she gets all of her stuff figured out but she doesn’t know whenh at will be.
Yeah I’m so glad for this too. I’m the kind of person who pretty much gets along with everybody but doesn’t have close friends. I’m not sure why, just my personality I guess. But yeah it’s really nice to have someone to relate to, and can support me.
Thanks for that Phil. You’re right, I am just overthinking things and I don’t need to put time and effort into this, I just have to let it happen. My ex actually texted me on my break at work today so that made me feel good, she seems to be chasing me a bit now. I just need to keep my expectations low, hope or the best, and see what happens.
I’m glad to hear that you’re doing well! Keep it up man! I wish I had the courage to go in more dates but I’m just not ready for it yet.
Hey Phil, I have another update. So when we were flirting a little bit the other night over text, I took maybe 20 minutes to text back because I didn’t see it and she never said anything back. No goodnight or anything. We haven’t talked since (only a couple days, but still). What do you think this means? And should I text her in the next few days, or wait for her to contact me?
I’m struggling quite a bit again today. I’m worried I’m making this all up in my head and that I’m wasting my time. She even told me she doesn’t have the same feelings for me and that she just wants to be friends. I guess I just need a little encouragement. It’s just a struggle, ya know? It feels like I’m putting so much time and energy towards this and I’m making no progress. I love the girl with all my heart and I won’t give up hope until absolutely all hope is lost. But I’m afraid that’s my problem, what if I hold out hope even when there is no hope left?
Sorry to vent on ya Phil, but that felt good to get out.
Yeah definitely could you more happiness, and forgiveness.
So last night my ex and I texted again and it was even semi-flirty at times! I pretty much followed all of your advice and it seems to be working. Trying not to get my hopes up too high but it’s encouraging nonetheless!
I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather, my condolences. And yeah that’s a pretty awful thing for her to say. But people can say things they don’t mean when they are upset. So for me personally I try to be forgiving and not hold grudges, I think it makes me a happier person. It sounds like you are the same way, it’s a good quality to have.
