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Yeah and I can get good feel for the situation instead of guessing all the time. If things go well I could ask if she would be willing to talk to a pastor or priest as well. I’m thinking she would be ok with that so it’s probably a good idea
Yeah I agree. Maybe tomorrow I’ll ask her to meet up this weekend to talk things through.
I meant no basis to think she might stop talking. But as I’m thinking about it now, maybe she took what I said as an ultimatum. I mean I said I don’t like her indecision so maybe she took that as I want a decision immediately. Do you think it would be a bad idea to talk to her tomorrow just to clear up any miscommunication if there is anything? I would hate for this to blow up in my face over some misunderstanding.
I agree that the whole text and sometimes call is pretty stupid. I guess it’s just what she’s comfortable with right now. Should I ask her out soon too? Or should I wait for whatever this is to get resolved first? But yeah my ex likes to run from things too, albeit it sounds to a lesser extent, if she’s uncomfortable with something she tends to shut down and reject it.
I guess for all I know she’s just been busy and I’m overthinking things.
Yeah and obviously I have no basis for that feeling so maybe My minds just playing games with me but it’s really unlike her to think about something this long and not talk about it. It kinda feels like it’s not good for me though, especially with her not seeming all that happy Saturday. Just seems as if she’s about to make a tough decision. I hope I’m wrong
I don’t know for sure but I’m assuming not. She said it was a family reunion thing so I’m pretty sure it would only be the weekend. I figured she would text me last night asking if I could talk on the phone or something like that. I’m starting to get a bad feeling about her thinking for so long. I’m afraid she might be thinking of cutting ties with me completely. She wouldn’t want to so it would make sense for her to be thinking about it for so long. Obviously I have no way of knowing it but that’s just the sense I get.
Still haven’t heard from her…. Really want to text her tonight and see what’s up. I know that’s probably not a good idea so I’m venting on here instead.
Yeah, she’s just at a family reunion so I’m not worried about her talking to other guys or anything. I just miss her I guess, it’s been almost two months since I’ve seen her. Before the fair I was pretty sickened at the idea of talking to other girls lol. This was the first time I had the desire to, I guess it only took me five months. I still have a hard time picturing myself without her and I still love her so it would be wrong of me to start talking to a bunch of girls. It wouldn’t be fair to me or them.
Yeah she’s thinking about me all right, sometimes I wonder if her family knows she still has feelings for me. She would always tell me when she went to this type of thing her family would always ask about me. Her parents really liked me and apparently they would talk about me quite a bit as well. I used to act a little awkward around them for some reason (probably mostly because I’m a shy guy in general.) looking back it was pretty silly because they were good people and they respected me regardless of my awkwardness because they knew the respect I have their daughter. I miss those times, I wish I could have done things a little different.
I think that’s a great plan! Girls love dogs and it’s a great way to break the ice. I wish you luck!
When we talk again I will remind her how short life is. Whenever we talk that is. Yesterday when I was at the fair I had the urge to go talk to a couple girls but I didn’t, it felt forced and wrong. Nonetheless, I thought it was good that at least I have the confidence to that now if things don’t work out with my ex. But today I’m feeling a little down again. I really miss her and want to talk to her, it’s been about a week since we’ve had a good conversation. At least I’m glad I didn’t talk to those girls now.
I agree with what you say but I’m afraid she doesn’t see it the same way. I’m glad you’re feeling better now. You deserve to feel good.
That’s a good outlook to have on a crummy situation. I feel for ya and wish like heck I could make ya feel better. You’ll be in my prayers man, you’re gonna come out of this a better man. That’s all anybody can do, right?
I agree life is way too short buts he’s probably thinking she has her whole life ahead of her (which is kinda true too.) I agree that if we spent more time together she would feel more comfortable with her feelings for me. That part of our problem when we broke up, we hadn’t been going on as many dates. She was very busy and I was dealing with a lot of stuff so I guess this was the end result.
Well hopefully you will have some closure now. It’s good you stood up for yourself and told her that her behavior is unacceptable. She needs to know how awful she has treated you.
I will keep fighting and I know she still loves me but that’s the tough part. Knowing she still loves me but for whatever reason doesn’t want to be together. I know she does have a lot on her mind and she’s under a lot of stress. I just wish I could help her and make her see what I see. Unfortunately, I can’t. I guess I just have to be patient and see where things go.
Yeah it was pretty good. Yeah she probably does miss me at least some but It’s never really fun to get criticized either I guess. She seemed distant which isn’t good but it was kind of hard to tell because we only sent like 10 texts each. It is good she texted me though, shows she is really thinking about me.
Anyway, how are you doing? Sounded like you were doing better yesterday. Hope you’re having better days!
Well I guess you would know your situation better than me so trusting your gut is probably the thing to do.
It is my birthday, thank you! My birthdays pretty slow because we had a party for me last weekend. I just went to the fair and am relaxing lol.
She did text me this morning saying happy birthday. I said thank you and we texted for a bit. She was camping with her family and was having like a reunion so ahe didn’t talk long. She seemed down, so I asked how she was doing and she said she was doing alright. She said she was still thinking about what I told her this week. Then she had to go and told me to have a good day. She didn’t say when we would talk again but I hope soon.
I don’t think my relationship issues are silly and I know you don’t either but a lot of people would. That’s how I know you’re a good guy. You’re right her past is controlling her and unfortunately there’s nothing you can do about it. She has to decide she wants to change before you an help. If you truly love the girl and still have feelings tell her one last time. Don’t beg or plead but, just like you told me, tell her how it is. Tell her your feelings, tell her that her past is controlling her and that your fight was just a big misunderstanding. If you’re going to throw in the towel anyway, what have you got to lose? Tell her she’s running from her problems and she’s never going to find someone ifshe continues to act that way. Tell her you can and want to help.
I hope she doesn’t throw that away. I know what I bring to the table and I know not a lot of people can offer what I can offer. If she doesn’t value it, that’s her problem, not mine.
It’s good that you pray, God will give you signs in due time. I’ll pray for you too. Pray for God to take your worries unto him and to ease your mind. Give all your problems to him because he can handle them. He will take care of you.
It’s perfectly ok to still feel that way about her, you can’t control your feelings.
I guess I don’t have the answer to how long you’ll be single but I promise you’re not alone. I know it’s not the same but you have your friends and family to lean on during these tough days and by all means vent on here. These things are tough beyond belief but just from talking to me on here I know your a good guy. How many would help some random young ‘kid’ only line with his ‘silly’ relationship issues? That’s not something a lot of people would do, and there’s not many good people out there. The only problem is it takes good people to recognize other good people. If your ex can’t recognize your good qualities and see how great of a person you are, she doesn’t deserve you and she’s very lucky to have someone like you to care about her even if she doesn’t realize it. And if you know your comfort zone for meeting girls, by all means stick to it. I’m not one to talk as I met my only girlfriend in elementary school lol.
I know sometimes when people are upset they don’t want to hear this but I feel the need to tell you. No matter what, God loves you and he sees the good in you. He knows your potential and will always give you the love you need. You’re never walking alone if you have God by your side.
