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I find mornings and nights to be the hardest. my ex never responded to my text with me telling him i was going to move on and not wait around.
your ex sounds like she really loves you and is confused and i think being strong will really attract her more to you. i hope she will come back for you
thank you for your replies 🙂 its seriously been so so helpful to me. he did mention about losing its passion but said regardless of how things were going he just always knew deep down he would need some time to be single before committing to anyone. I’m hopeful this could benefit us in the long run but I’m just so impatient 🙁 I’m trying to wait either 60 or 90 days to contact him but our anniversary will be next week and i am nervous i will crack..i know its hard to make definite decisions and i could reach out sooner if i see fit and I’m sure he would be happy being friendly i just think i need to try to distance myself more. maybe NC completely will make him miss me, I’m not sure. our relationship had small fights of course but nothing more than minor disagreements. i think at the end i would be disappointed a lot because he wasn’t putting in the same amount of effort he used to. its really hard though. this all came out of the blue for me. neither of us are dating other people and i really thought he would have come around by now
i am actually in such a similar spot. can i ask how old you are? my ex boyfriend kissed me yesterday and held my hands and we hugged for about 10 minutes but he still says he feels like he doesnt want to be in a relationship. it is all so confusing that he really feels he wants to do without having me in his life. we had such a great relationship with no drama. we got along great and our families were very supportive of our relationship and i truly felt we had such a special connection. i get so sad thinking about all our jokes and interactions and how we were together and i still can’t really understand how he doesnt want a relationship but i guess he doesnt so all i can do is try to move on.
i have the same fears and i am so happy we are in the same position. what do you plan on doing moving forward? do you think you and your ex are totally done?
if i go NC do you think maybe ill have a chance in time? when do you think i will start to better? this is so hard!!
update: he told me he doesnt want a relationship but he doesnt want to lose touch either so i stood up for myself and told him to contact me only if he changes his mind but for now i am going to do my best to move on and will contact him when i feel ready. i won’t be happy settling for less than a relationship with him so i need to put myself first
going to try to distract myself..its almost as if i don’t want to allow myself to move on. sometimes i thinks something is wrong with me!
today is a very hard day for me. i guess good days and bad days but this has been the worst in a long time..
I think i will wait for him to initiate and maybe see him a couple of times as friends to see if he can handle it. up until now he has been completely honest about how he feels so I’m not worried about him leading me on. i guess i will just have to take it one day at a time.
so how would you suggest i proceed? do you think i should see him occasionally and hope this makes him want to commit? or do you think it is best to go NC and try to move on? i just wish i had some kind of time frame for when hell be ready…I’m tempted to start hanging out again and seeing him more because i feel like things would progress back into a relationship but i don’t want to push him into something he isn’t ready for either
So we had a pretty good meeting overall. brunch went really well and it was very nice to catch up. we did discuss the relationship after and he told me he loves me so much and misses me and thinks about me all the time but he still doesnt feel ready to be in a committed relationship. he told me in the back of his mind for a while he has always known he would need to take time away from me to confirm he wanted to be with me in the long run. he still feels he needs to be meeting other girls even though he doesnt want to be in a committed relationship with anyone. he did say he wanted to talk occasionally and start seeing each other more and is open to seeing where things go and if his feelings change about wanting to be in a committed relationship but he would understand if it was too hard on me. regardless he promised to text me later today after he’s “digested” our time together. i feel like back at square one…although i don’t want to “give him his cake and eat it too” i am tempted to start seeing/talking to him more and trying to develop a relationship but I’m not sure thats the best idea based off the circumstances. opinions please? what should be my next steps?
