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Okay so like weve been in college, in the same class since May 2015. But we only started talking on like October 2015. We got along great and he even admitted and said it to me and even others that we had a thing for each other and I know hes joking around so I went along with it. It was our scandal thing haha. And he became such a great guy, he would say Im pretty and would tell even girls from other colleges that we kinda like have athing. So like theres a scandal between me and him and which means like theres something going on between us but its just a rumour, so hes been calling me hisscandalsince like early this year. But we always laugh about that and just go with the flow. So then, I found myself liking this crush of mine more and more everyday. We had a trip once and at night when everyone was asleep on the bus. he came up to me and like wanna watch a movie on the laptop together. I was honestly blown away, I couldnt take my eyes off him. Even when I was taking selfies, he was at the back of the bus and without me telling him to, he was smiling and being such a cutie in every photo. Then on the last day of the trip was my birthday, he didnt talked much to me. I waited for him to wish me happy birthday and he didnt. He was so cold. He wouldnt even look at me or smile at me like he always do. It felt like he was ignoring me. A few days after that in class, I offered him a candy and asked if he was mad at me. And he took the candy and said its nothing and its all cool but I could see he wasnt that eager to have me around. Then a few days later was my 19th birthday party. I didnt invite personally. I just told the people at college about it and said all of them should come, the more the merrier. I honestly never expected him to come after what happened. And at the last minute, I found out he came and was like right at the door and yeahh I was all smiling like crazy. But he didnt talk much to me. He was on his phone almost the entire time. He didnt making taking photos with me. He accepted the cake and then while he was eating the cake, my other guy friend told him to like feed me the cake with the spoon. And he was like yeah sure. and I was like afraid hed smack that cake right in my face and was a lil reluctant. But then he was like okay then. Then I was like okay Ill take it, just dont do anything crazy. And out of nowhere he feed me the cake with the spoon. Twice. Because I was a lil shy to finish the cake in one go haha. And my friends were taking pictures of me. Lets just say my heart almost burst out or something. And I was like talking to my guy friend who was wishing me happy birthday and I was like pointing to my crush and was like, well now one more to go. Wonder why he hasnt wished me. And my guy friend went at him and was like why you havent wished her? And he was looking all serious and was like What? Whataya mean? I wished her happy birthday on her birthday on the trip. And I was like yeah right, I waited and I didnt hear you said that. And he was like I swear I did. And I was like okay then. When I got home, in our college chat group that has like 3 colleges combined I saw he posted a pic of him feeding me the cake with the spoon. The caption said like, happy bornday my friend, I did wish you happy birthday before, I guess you didnt hear me. Hope youll always be successful and have a long life. So since then he has been so cold and ignorant to me in class and even anywhere else I wanna cry. I wonder if Im still hisscandal. I admit he still makes my heart flutter. I just dont know why he changed. I miss him. I miss us. Why did this happen? What can I do? PLEASE HELP ME. THANKS SO MUCH EVERYONE. xoxo
Mine was mended. I broke up on September 2015 during my 3rd anniversary. I followed the steps and it all went well. My ex came back to me after like almost 2 month or like 1 month 2 weeks. So this site is really amazing. I thank this site for such a wonderful help through the pain I went through during my breakup. I am happy to say I am now stronger than I’ve ever been before. I hope other people can experience the magic too. Goodluck and stay strong, there ain’t no sunshine, without a little rain 🙂
@divjun True that.
I understand what you mean, all the best, I hope everything will be better for us soon 🙂
Anyway, I replied to you on my story, hope you’ll reply soon, need a lil help asap!
You’re welcome for everything and thanks a lot too dear, hope we’ll always be there for each other 🙂 x
@divjun I’m kinda at a loss for words.
Girl, you’re so lucky you guys actually admitted that you still love each other. If it was me, I’d probably just forgive him and move on from the bad place and just start fresh with him. To me it’s better to just enjoy the moments you have than wasting it for ridiculous fights. But I understand that you and I are different people. If that’s the decision you’re taking and you’re happy with that, I’m behind you a hundred percent. Hoping good things will come your way, can’t wait for your next update. Stay strong dear 🙂
@divjun I know right? confusing as hell.
Alright, will be sending him the last text tonight, probably gonna say I love him, I miss him, I’m always here for him and always thinking of him and that I wish him luck with his studies and all. Or should I not say good luck in his studies? Don’t want him to feel like I’m saying goodbye to him you know.
How does that sound? Okay? Or should I add something else? What are your thoughts?
Anyway, wish me luck hunn! 🙂
@aamls Hey hunn, thanks so much for replying! Your words touched my heart 🙂
I haven’t started NC like officially but I’ll be starting NC tomorrow since I’m thinking of sending him a text today and telling him properly what I feel before starting NC tomorrow. He has left our hometown yesterday and today he’s starting his first day at his university. He hasn’t picked up any of my calls nor did he replied to any of my texts so I’m thinking of texting him for one last time today before I start NC tomorrow. I really need ideas on what I should tell him in the text before I start the NC. I feel so nervous all of sudden. If you have any ideas what I should say to him before I start NC tomorrow, let me know!
About the break up, like I mentioned in the title, basically he’s leaving me after our 3 year relationship for his ex which is my old bestie from high school who is Erica. After me and him got together on 2011, me and Erica were never the same, we weren’t enemies, just acquaintances. Look, I know that he and Erica is probably still not a couple and they probably haven’t even talked to each other but man, it bugs me so much to even think about it. Plus, the university he is currently studying at now is close to the place where Erica studies at.
He asked for a breakup when we were almost at our 3rd anniversary and blocked my number, practically blocked me on everything to get in contact with him and I must admit I was pretty pissed off and upset but dumbfounded. He never blocked me before no matter how bad we were fighting about something. So then he eventually unblocked me after almost a week and said that he needed time alone and to see where his heart wanders off, and he said it went to me, so like he’s saying he needs confirmation that he still has feelings for me and all that.
So, of course I was pretty relieved at first. Then again, he suddenly was like saying don’t believe him and all that. At that point, I was so sick of all these games he was playing, I just broke down. I feel so dead inside.
He was like saying,
I love Erica. I can’t deny it anymore. I can’t get over her. I think she’s the one. I can’t be with you anymore and a lot more of that stuff. He even said he likes me but doesn’t love me. Oh wow, it feels like a slap in the face.I was so upset and angry and just breaking apart that I cried so hard I feel like I was going blind. Because throughout our relationship, I gave him more than one chance to think about choosing between me and Erica. I really did because I didn’t want to get hurt and I don’t want it to be a one-way love. But still, he choose me all the time over her when I gave him all those chances.
And now, this is what he’s saying? I mean seriously, after all I’ve done for him? After all this time? After all we’ve been through? Wth is this?
I just don’t understand why he’s doing this. Now he’s like trying to push me away but I haven’t really let go or given up. I do call him and text him a few times. Sometimes he replies, sometimes he don’t. So like it’s not the best kind of conversation.
We broke up right after our 3rd anniversary, and that was actually my request since he actually wanted to break up a week before that but since I wanted to celebrate our 3rd anniversary, so he accepted my request and just hold on for a while.
So after that, we still kept contact with each other. One thing that really disturbs me is that a few days after the break up he said he loves me so much and that his heart has both me and Erica and he’s just gonna choose between us. Then, the next day he’ll say don’t trust him and he loves only Erica and he’s going after Erica and that he doesn’t hold responsibility if I believe him. He keeps on changing his words and it’s very disturbing to me.
He did say he cares about me and loves me. But I’m not really sure of that because of his attitude. He even texted me saying he extremely regret that like we talked on the phone yesterday and stuff when before that he was the one who was okay with it. He even sent me a screenshot of his phone’s wallpaper which is a photo of Erica and said he needed to clean up his mess for her.
Before that, he even like wanted to leave me because he was like saying he wanted to become a better man and all that. I think he just wants to be a better man for Erica though.
But really, is doing this to a woman like me really makes you a better man? That’s messed up.
Anyway, starting from recently like on last Thursday he screamed at me on the phone and hung up. He even texted me saying me I’m so pushy, a dictator etc. I think it was because I was all needy and all at the first place. But then I said I just wanna talk with him in peace and just be in good terms with him and hope he forgives my mistakes. He did say he forgive me for everything and he hopes I forgive him for everything too. I didn’t say I forgive him but I did say that I’m glad we’re in good terms and all and told him to take care. Since then, he haven’t picked up my calls nor did he replied to my texts. But, he hasn’t blocked my number from calling him.
Today is the 14th day since we break up. I have college trial exams tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. I seriously am trying my best to pull myself together but it’s still so hard. I appreciate your support so much, thank you again x
What do you think about all this? Would love to hear your thoughts and advice, thanks hunn 🙂
@aamls Hmm, this is tough.
But, I think for now why not you just don’t think too much about it. It probably isn’t something that’s such a big matter anyway, you know when you think too much you just end up hurting yourself. Stay calm and just wait and see what happens next. Hoping for the best for you, update me soon! Oh yeah, I replied to you in my story, hope to hear your from you soon! 🙂
@divjun Hey love, kudos on hanging on there.I think you are amazing that you are able to restrain yourself from talking on the phone with him. Somehow I feel like your chance to get back with him has just increase a lot! You have been doing the NC right? How many days has it been? Almost 30 days right? Why not try to talk to him after you finish your 30 days NC? I just feel like it’s gonna be a good thing. You’re doing great, so proud of you. Anyway, keep me updated hunn! x
p/s : You’re so lucky that he tries to reach out to you, wish it happens to me too.
@divjun Hey girl, great to hear from you again 🙂
Yeah, I was planning on telling him I love him and will always be here for him no matter what and hope he will be doing great in university and all.
Should I really tell him that I want to heal and I don’t wanna contact him and all that?
I thought I wanted to left that part out just to let him be a little curious to why I’m suddenly no longer contacting him.
Or do you think that’s a bad idea? Any opinion dear?
Because starting from recently like on last Thursday he screamed at me on the phone and hung up. He even texted me saying me I’m so pushy, a dictator etc. I think it was because I was all needy and all at the first place. But then I said I just wanna talk with him in peace and just be in good terms with him and hope he forgives my mistakes. He did say he forgive me for everything and he hopes I forgive him for everything too. I didn’t say I forgive him but I did say that I’m glad we’re in good terms and all and told him to take care. Since then, he haven’t picked up my calls nor did he replied to my texts. But, he hasn’t blocked my number from calling him.
Is this a bad thing or a good thing? What do you think hunn? I’m a lil confused.
@aamls Hey there, I’ve been reading your story for awhile actually.
From what I’ve read, I think you still have a good chance in getting your husband back. Plus, he’s not talking about the divorce anymore which is great. He’s probably just trying to fill the hole inside his life that you left in him. Trust me, he’s not gonna find someone better than you. He can lie to other people and be all Mr. Casanova but reality is, he can’t get over you. I say let him do whatever he wants with the females he’s checking out. He knows himself that no other woman can replace your place in his heart. I’m really amazed that eventhough your situation is tough, you still remained strong and went for NC. Have you finished the 30 days NC btw? If you have, maybe it’s a good thing to start being closer to him again. Ignite those flames of your love again, maybe go out to somewhere that means a lot to both of you, just to remind about the good times you both had together. I strongly believe that you and him are gonna get back together soon, just wait for the right time. Keep me posted hunn 🙂
p/s : Mind reading my story? I would love to hear your thoughts on it, thanks x
Help, I feel like he doesn’t need me at all since he told me he loves Erica and all. But I can’t believe that he doesn’t have any feelings for me at all. I’m confused but I really feel like we’re meant to be because everything was okay between us throughout the relationship. True, we had some issues with communication. But we were so comfortable with each other and even he admitted that. Do I still stand a chance? Should I start the NC or not? I feel like If I do, he might just think I’ve moved on and have forgotten him when it’s the exact opposite. But I feel like, who knows that NC might help and I should just risk it and take a chance on it.
I miss him so so much. I try to be happy but I can’t stop thinking of him.
Please help me anyone, I would be glad to hear your thoughts, thanks x
@divjun Thanks again for replying hunn 🙂I don’t know, I feel like I’m all over the place. I feel like he does’t even miss at all and just doing fine without me. I have been holding in the tears for a few days and I’m quite impressed myself that I managed to do that. I keep on thinking that he’s now forgotten me and being all over Erica. If Erica is not in the situation, I would probably not feel so bad because I feel like I have a higher chance of getting back to him. I just feel like this whole issue about Erica and him leaving our hometown for univeristy is not giving me a chance to even make him miss me or come back to me. I’ve been thinking and I think I should start doing NC this Tuesday because I wanted to at least say something to him because he’s starting a new chapter in his life with leaving our hometown, continuing his studies at a university etc. What should I say to him before I start NC? Really hope you can give me ideas on that because I really feel like I need to say something properly to him before NC to make sure he doesn’t think that I’m leaving him or moving or things like that because truth is I’m actually missing him a lot and there is nothing I want more now than hearing him say he loves me. I feel like I’m gonna breakdown any second. This site is the only thing that keeps me going.
So please help, any suggestions what should I say to him before I start NC?
@divjun Hey hunn, thanks for still replying, you’re the best! 🙂
Deep down, I know that NC is the only way I can take to fix this situation. This is my last resort and I’ll risk it anytime. I really feel like although our relationship definitely had it ups and downs but it was the first time I felt like I finally found a man that makes me feel complete. Through the years I had with him, I feel lucky enough to even spent those moments with him. I know it’s true love because although at times I wanna kill him, I know I can’t live without him. He’s just the first man who I really had taken seriously and even had pictured him as my future husband and spend the rest of my life with him. I miss him so much that it’s torturing me. But I keep on reminding myself that everything happens for a reason and if I’m sad, it’s not the end because everyone deserves a happy ending no matter what. I hope you can be with me throughout this journey because although I seem okay on the outside, I’m actually breaking apart and so fragile on the inside.
Hmm, do you think he’s gonna miss and think about me after he leaves our hometown to continue his studies tomorrow? Is there any chance that he loves me and wanna get back with me? What should I to hold on now?
@bguarino Hey there, thanks so much for replying, I really appreciate it 🙂
Well, yeah it’s been 3 years that me and him have been a couple and I feel like I’m too used to having him around all this time that it makes it harder for me to wake up everyday and just having to make sure my mind set is no longer including him but more focusing on me.
About Erica, she doesn’t really talk to me after he left her to be with me. Erica and I are not enemy but more like an acquaintance. I think she actually broke up with him on purpose because he knew how much feelings I had for him. But I didn’t know that until a few months after me and him became a couple. But after that, Erica seemed alright and I think she moved on and she even became an honour student at school. So yeah, I’m pretty glad things are going good for her because to me although we’re no longer best friends, I really care for her and I think she’s a really nice person and I value that. But, of course, not to the point where I’ll give him up for her haha.
Yeah, it was really heartbreaking to see the screenshot he sent me. I swear I felt like my heart just shattered into pieces. I’m still so anxious over that fact that he’s leaving our hometown in like less than 24 hours from now to continue his studies. He’s gonna be so far away from me and I hate to think about it. We’ve never been this far apart, distance wise of course since we first met. I feel like it ruins my chances to get back with him more than ever.
I did try to call him like a few times tonight just to talk to him before he goes to his university tomorrow but of course he never picked up my call nor did her replied to my text. So I just stayed calm and did some other things to distract my mind from it. But still, I really feel like I need to say a few things to him and do it properly before he leaves tomorrow because from that moment I’m gonna start NC.
Any clues on what I should say to him before I start NC?
Oh yeah, I must admit I’ve learned to stop the tears and I’m impressed with that myself. I do get a few hits at randoms and it makes me think about him and miss him so badly but I’m trying hard to pull myself together and just do this.
Hmm, any ideas what I should do to manage my feelings so I can get my life organized?
