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Hey everyone,
I’m heartbroken right now.
I broke up with my (ex) boyfriend of 3 years on 3rd September.
And from that day itself im on NC.
we were having lots n lots of fights from past 3-4 months and we both were disturbed. He always used to come and convince me and apologise to me every 3rd or 4th day of our fight and things got back on its track like before.
Today is day 24 of NC.
He didn’t contact me for 18 days but after that im seeing that he started to worry about me.
He texted me thrice and wanted to talk to me. He indirectly insisted to meet him. He also called twice on day 23 of nc.
But I didn’t respond.
I read the chat of my friend and my ex.
he is thinking i’m showing him attitude by not talking to him.
He is just concerned about my studies and doesn’t want me to spoil it.
My ex also told her that he doesn’t want any kinda relationship.even if he wanted me back then thats not a way not to pick his calls or not to reply back or not to meet.Previously he told my friend that he misses me.
But he is not trying enough to reach out for me like he used to do.
And I really want him to
See his mistake and learn from it.He also said that one day she(me) will be requesting to talk to me and I will not. He said I can show a lot more attitude than her.
Please help.:(
I don’t want to talk to him right now. But its killing me that he doesnt need me 🙁
He used to say that he cant live without me and according to him we both were already married. 🙁hey,
Here’s a checklist for ending no contact.-You followed the no contact rule for at least one month.
-You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup.
-You have made a few positive changes in your life.
-You are absolutely sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
-You have gone on at least one date during no contact.
-You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you.
-You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.No I’m still not ready for ending NC.
it was his fault and I dont know if I need to change.
Moreover, I have rralised that I cant get over him ever.
Dont know how to handle myself.Hey there sweetheart,
I hope you’re doing well and still going strong. I know how hard it feels when you feel like you really need that person in your life but that person doesn’t even need you at all anymore. Well, I’m glad you did the NC because at least your have tried to do something and put some effort to fix the situation. I would suggest you do the NC for a month since I think you have a few more days to complete it. Make sure before you end the NC that you’re totally recovered from the break up mess and you are no longer dependent on anyone else except yourself. Start believing that somehow, someday, if you and him are to be, nothing can stop it. And if it doesn’t happen, it just means God is saving you for someone special that is much better than him. Girl, if he misses you, he’ll contact you, if he needs you, he’ll tell you, if he loves you, he’ll prove it to you. Fall in love with a guy that will do anything to be your everything, and if he won’t do it, then he’s just not worth your time. Girl power!
I’m always here for you if you need me, update me on your story anytime! love yah x
Alessana, your words touched me too. My story is similar and not similar. I was the one who has all the faults and is responsible for my boyfriend to end our relationship. He told me that it would probably take me months to move on while it will take him an year but he still does not want to give me a chance. We had a major drama fight and this somehow for good closed his opinion we are not good together. I even went to therapist for him and even that is not a prove. I’m afraid I will forever loose him. He speaks about not only a month but ‘months or years’ before we can potentially have the chance to restore anything…………….. I’m afraid that even despite all my efforts to do positive changes in myself after one month he would not want to give me this chance. What would you do in my shoes?
Awwww… your words literally touched me. 🙂
I m trying my level best to recover from this heartbreak.
But somewhere inside my heart I still feel he loves me and this is not a break up but a break. We fought so much and he is still worried about me.
We will be together if we are meant to be.
Anyways tomorrow would be our 3 year anniversary. I hope he does something. Even a text would mean so much for me.
But I have been ignoring him so idk if he will try to contact me again or not:(Hey everyone,
Today is my 3 year anniversary with my ex.
I am ignoring him nowadays. But guess what, he just called at 12.00 am sharp.:) I didnt pick though
Im getting positive vibes:)@bguarino
Yeah!!! :):)
I really wanted to know what he had to say to me but then I controlled myself.
I want him to realise his mistake so I dont need to show any kinda care or love towards him.
I hope he still tries to contact me. Fingers crossed 🙂 😀Update:
He again found an excuse to talk.
he texted me twice today. He said he wants to talk about studies.
I didnt reply and his nexrlt text was that his year’s gonna waste if I didnt reply.I kniw he can talk about this with anyone or even search the net. I think he was just checking whether it bothers me if his year’s gonna waste or not.
So I replied with just “yes?”And he texted me back “call me when you get free”
Should I call or just tell him to talk on text so that I can get enough time to reply after thinking.?
I told him I cant talk on call. He asked me to come on whatsapp as he is not having sms pack.
I replied that I dont use whatsapp anymore. So he told me that he will call me at night.
I replied with a no and told him that I ll install whatsapp soon.I hope I did the right thing. What you think guys?
@divjun Hey love, kudos on hanging on there.I think you are amazing that you are able to restrain yourself from talking on the phone with him. Somehow I feel like your chance to get back with him has just increase a lot! You have been doing the NC right? How many days has it been? Almost 30 days right? Why not try to talk to him after you finish your 30 days NC? I just feel like it’s gonna be a good thing. You’re doing great, so proud of you. Anyway, keep me updated hunn! x
p/s : You’re so lucky that he tries to reach out to you, wish it happens to me too.
Today was almost day 26.
Hey showed so much concern today.
I tried to push him away but he said that he ll come to my place if I didnt talk to him.
I m actually having fever so he kept on asking what you ate today and all. And was asking me to eat mote and end me a picture while eating else he ll come at my place.
I told him not to contact me.
In our talk, he said “I know you have moved on but I haven’t and I won’t be able to ever”
But he didnt talk about getting back together. He didn’t say he was sorry about what happened. He just said he wants me to be happy.
I think he is not ready to be back together but still cares for me. 🙁
He tood me relationships don’t matter.
Which clearly shows he is not looking for one and doesn’t want me back 🙁We fought again last night. It was going good. We told that we love eachother.
He isn’t seeing anyone and not even trying to see anyone.
The reason of the fight was that he is still not feeling sorry for his actions. He knows that he was at fault but not sorry enough.
So I’ve decided to start NC again till he reaches out for me in the way I want, which is feeling sorry about what he did to me and promising me that he won’t repeat it.
I sent him angry texts after the fight and told him that I don’t expect anything from him now.and told him to be happy and to stay away from me.
He didn’t reply but thats okay. I didnt even expect a reply from him.Did I do well?
Now that I know he loves me even after the separation of 1 month. He’ll chase me if I am any good to him. ( he told me he was happy for this 1 month atleast he didn’t have to fight with anyone. Idk if he said this in anger or what).
@divjun I’m kinda at a loss for words.
Girl, you’re so lucky you guys actually admitted that you still love each other. If it was me, I’d probably just forgive him and move on from the bad place and just start fresh with him. To me it’s better to just enjoy the moments you have than wasting it for ridiculous fights. But I understand that you and I are different people. If that’s the decision you’re taking and you’re happy with that, I’m behind you a hundred percent. Hoping good things will come your way, can’t wait for your next update. Stay strong dear 🙂
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